step mothers are generally wicked to their step children. It's just an innate desire of any woman to want all the family's resources to be directed to her and her children. I'm not saying every step mother is wicked or every step father is abusive, but women especially, when it comes down to it, are always going to favor their own children. Every man is always going to see his own children as an extension of himself and see another man's child as an interloper. It is the rare step mother or step father that can really extend parental love to a child that is their spouses but not their own. heck, did you know that fathers even have a problem with kids from In vitro fertilization? sincerely, the husband shoots blanks so husband and wife decide to use a sperm bank to have a baby.....even in those instances, men are less likely to bond to the baby. I'm not saying there aren't great fathers of IVF kids and I'd assume most are just regular dads, but not all. some IVF dads just can't get over the fact that "their" baby was made with another man's sperm.
If my wife had a baby with another guy’s sperm I would have a huge issue with that. I find it insanely weird any self respecting man would even do that.
The same way I would never expect her to let me get a surrogate mother with an egg donor if she had issues having kids.
If one of us can’t have kids we both can’t have kids. We would adopt a child then because it’s not fair to make the other one accept a child that’s not biologically theirs considering it would have happened after we were married.
I agree with the sentiment and the couple has to ultimately decide what is best for them. That said I couldn't do it. I'm a single dad with a young child. I have little interest in dating a woman unless her children are either non-existent or already grown up, and I wouldn't expect any less of her decision on the matter, so I simply don't date long term right now. I am human and need to have fun at times but at present my resources are for my child only.
It's kind of the male version of the "wicked stepmother," isn't it?
step mothers are generally wicked to their step children. It's just an innate desire of any woman to want all the family's resources to be directed to her and her children. I'm not saying every step mother is wicked or every step father is abusive, but women especially, when it comes down to it, are always going to favor their own children. Every man is always going to see his own children as an extension of himself and see another man's child as an interloper. It is the rare step mother or step father that can really extend parental love to a child that is their spouses but not their own. heck, did you know that fathers even have a problem with kids from In vitro fertilization? sincerely, the husband shoots blanks so husband and wife decide to use a sperm bank to have a baby.....even in those instances, men are less likely to bond to the baby. I'm not saying there aren't great fathers of IVF kids and I'd assume most are just regular dads, but not all. some IVF dads just can't get over the fact that "their" baby was made with another man's sperm.
If my wife had a baby with another guy’s sperm I would have a huge issue with that. I find it insanely weird any self respecting man would even do that.
The same way I would never expect her to let me get a surrogate mother with an egg donor if she had issues having kids.
If one of us can’t have kids we both can’t have kids. We would adopt a child then because it’s not fair to make the other one accept a child that’s not biologically theirs considering it would have happened after we were married.
I agree with the sentiment and the couple has to ultimately decide what is best for them. That said I couldn't do it. I'm a single dad with a young child. I have little interest in dating a woman unless her children are either non-existent or already grown up, and I wouldn't expect any less of her decision on the matter, so I simply don't date long term right now. I am human and need to have fun at times but at present my resources are for my child only.