Our comments are almost identical. The point you make about the student seeing you as “teacher” and not “parent” is interesting. I actively avoided that with our 5th-grader, because I’m not a teacher, and he knows it. Instead, I encouraged him to find the approaches he wanted to follow, but to produce a plan and commit to it for two weeks at a time, after which, we could evaluate and fine tune.

There is a big maturity gap between 1st and 5th grades, so this approach may not work for the especially young or less-motivated. But it’s also important that they don’t become confused about whom they are talking to, teacher or parent. It’s really just you.