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posted ago by Nunya__Biznus ago by Nunya__Biznus +1723 / -2

He lost the unwinnable battle against Alzheimer's and died at our home.

Three hours after he died, after we had exhausted ourselves with grief, we had him changed and ready for pickup by the funeral home.

I was sitting by his side when I looked over and - no lie - he was suddenly smiling. It was his final gift to us.

God is great. I will miss you, dad.

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-f-b-i- [M] 112 points ago +112 / -0

I bet your dad was great

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Nunya__Biznus [S] 61 points ago +61 / -0

He was the best father because he took his cues from The Father.

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cyberrigger 31 points ago +31 / -0

There will never be another day when you don't think about him.

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IrishExit 27 points ago +27 / -0

^ This ^ Lost my dad six years ago and think about him at least once a day. Hang in there fren.

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Azarak 8 points ago +8 / -0

Every. Day. I lost my father early on 20+ years ago and I think about him at least once a day, but now the memories make me smile instead of me being taken over by waves of grief. I enjoy the occasional dreams when he 'visits' me - - seems so real!

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Brookes 3 points ago +3 / -0

It is real. You know those visits aren’t like your other dreams. My sweet dad comes to see me every once in a great while too.

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dyllan 13 points ago +13 / -0

No better praise than that. At least you know it's not goodbye, just see you later.

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Alias117 7 points ago +7 / -0

Sorry for your loss and the smiling bit yeah that is a weird one, when my mother passed some 18 years ago she was also smiling when she was confirmed dead, so i do believe they experience something that caused that "last smile", be it someone coming to get them or the relief if their pain is subsiding do not know for sure but i wish to believe it is something of a higher power beyond our understanding atm.

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t-bone 62 points ago +63 / -1

Sorry and that sucks….mom passed last year.

Terrible and painful!

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t-bone 20 points ago +20 / -0

Btw...vaxxed because I always wonder but the cancers/big med got her.

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JMaN 15 points ago +15 / -0

No need to wonder about that... They're after all of us... Just remember the good

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t-bone 15 points ago +15 / -0

I mean my mom was Vaxxed… I loved her but she was a raging liberal. Lots of death around it seems lately… My first question but it is never addressed—were they vaxxed.

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JMaN -4 points ago +2 / -6

People passed away before the vax... So it's not an important question... at all... Only faggots would try to make it important, like they had that much control over life and death.

If your mom was a raging liberal then that's kind of the same as having a retarded child... She's in a better place...

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becray5 3 points ago +3 / -0

She's only in a better place if she was a follower of Jesus. Otherwise she's in hell.

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Mamapedia 11 points ago +11 / -0

Bless you pede. It does hurt.

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soysaucenuts 30 points ago +30 / -0

Condolences fren. It’s hard. I know. You’ll be okay. One day at a time.

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elementaryMyDearFags 26 points ago +26 / -0

Condolences to you and your family for your dearly departed Father. May he rest in peace. God bless you.

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TanfoglioStock2 25 points ago +25 / -0

This day will change you, as will the coming weeks. Don’t let the darker parts of the change overshadow you. It takes a while but “normalcy” will return. God Bless you, Patriots.win is with you as well.

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JMaN 22 points ago +22 / -0

OP needs to remember the smile... That is absolutely a gift from God. Like God took away all his father's pain and struggles and then allowed him to smile to comfort him and his family before fully taking him home.

He wrote "no lie" and I totally understand where this is coming from. It's one of those things that is so incredible and good that you kind of struggle to believe it or understand it yourself.

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Nunya__Biznus [S] 19 points ago +19 / -0

A secular man might say, "As his muscles stiffened with rigor mortis, it created a smile."

Even if true, it meant that was where his muscles wanted to go - because he was always smiling. That joy in itself is the great gift and the smile was the reminder of that.

Either way - he went from gaunt and mouth generally agape to smiling. Plain as day.

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Trilby 23 points ago +23 / -0

It's such a gift to let him die at home. Take comfort in that. My mom died at home of Alzheimer's (Oldtimer's we called it), and my step-dad too, of very old age. Quiet, calm, peaceful, being cared for by loving family, looked in on by kind hospice people and occasional friends come to say their last good-bye... If you gotta go, that's the way.

But it's still hard. Take care of yourself!

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KuzoKevin 23 points ago +23 / -0

God bless you and your family, Fren.

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Isaiah53 22 points ago +22 / -0

Prayers for the Holy Spirit to surround your family with comfort and strength in the coming days, and to bring all your happy memories to the forefront.

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Vlad_The_Impaler 20 points ago +20 / -0

This world is not our home.

He returned home.

Guy Penrod knowing you'll be there https://youtu.be/dvGU67wtUHM

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J6_Patriot 20 points ago +20 / -0

Sending love to you.

He has many more gifts for you. That wasn't his last.

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Ozark_bubby 19 points ago +19 / -0

When I was a boy my parents told me that I couldn’t see them when we were in different rooms, but that they still loved me and continued on even when I couldn’t see them.

They told me death was like that.

I find that comforting.

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sum_ting_wong 14 points ago +14 / -0

Thank you for posting this. Without getting too much into it, I'm in a fight for my life, and have one child, a very young son. Right now all he knows is that "Dad is sick", and that we are fighting to get better every day. Things are going to get much more difficult for me before they hopefully get better, and I have been trying to work out some of my next steps with him. I like this a lot.

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Maga_bigly 11 points ago +11 / -0

I pray that you pull through whatever is ailing you. Your username reminds me of an old pede u/Wong who departed from us all a while back.

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sum_ting_wong 3 points ago +3 / -0

I remember u/wong. We had a funny exchange just before he departed.

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Dum_spiro_spero 8 points ago +8 / -0

Said a prayer for you fren. Seek God in your battle, he is near.

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sum_ting_wong 4 points ago +4 / -0

always

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Brookes 3 points ago +3 / -0

Praying for you pede.

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sum_ting_wong 2 points ago +2 / -0

Sincere thanks fren, I'll happily accept all I can get.

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Nunya__Biznus [S] 2 points ago +2 / -0

God bless, pede. Stay strong and remember that faith can bring you all together.

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sum_ting_wong 2 points ago +2 / -0

Thanks fren. Faith, family, and friends are the things that are helping me keep it together.

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MycologyofMAGA 2 points ago +2 / -0

MMS

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Verrerogo 13 points ago +13 / -0

Sorry for your loss.

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Analog1221 13 points ago +13 / -0

So sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.

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DJT_JR6544 12 points ago +12 / -0

Condolences, fren. Prayers from my family to yours tonight. Heaven is a much better place. Take solace in knowing that.

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chelmer8 11 points ago +11 / -0

Sorry for your loss fren.

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PelosiStock 9 points ago +9 / -0

GOD BLESS YOU! all of us will be together again one day. one way or another. Prayers to y'all

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Space_Force 9 points ago +9 / -0

May The Lord welcome your pops with open arms.

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AlpineSeaHolly 9 points ago +9 / -0

My condolences

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lefty295 9 points ago +9 / -0

Condolences. The mental ailment is the worst. My grandmother had a brain tumor that pretty much completely changed her, I don't have experience with alzheimer's but I've heard it can be similar. It's really the worst. She also died at home, and I really think it was one of the best decisions our family made. We all cherished the last time we had together. Wishing you the best going forward, fren.

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Nunya__Biznus [S] 11 points ago +11 / -0

While it was early, we knocked off something from the bucket list and hiked part of the Appalachian Trail. Great memory. Cost me months of employment to do it, but wouldn't trade it.

If you have something you can tick off the bucket list - do it now, before it is too late.

Other strategies: we laughed, a lot. We didn't let it get us down. We found distractions. Even ice cream cones.

Nearer to the end, he would get wildly agitated, but just holding his hand helped tremendously. We would just sit with him and hold his hand and he was comforted by it.

Finally - people give meds for physical pain. Alzheimer's is mental pain. Don't forget it. Certain meds can alleviate the pain. It's ok at that point.

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alfredbester 8 points ago +8 / -0

Sorry, friend.

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deplorabetty 8 points ago +8 / -0

Sorry for your loss.

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Niqlndym 8 points ago +8 / -0

You gave him a selfless gift, by allowing him to pass away at home. God Bless and Keep him, and Bless your family.

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Hammond 8 points ago +8 / -0

Losing a parent is so hard. You will find many gifts from him in the future. May he rest in peace. God bless.

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snuggs316 8 points ago +8 / -0

i am so very sorry for your loss. remember to be good to yourselves right now--hydrate, eat (what you can, but you gotta eat) and rest. you're both exhausted and adrenalized right now. remember to let those who offer to help, help. they're grieving too...either for you or with you. God bless you and yours pede. lifting y'all in prayer from alabama.

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ForgotmyPWGodBTRUMP 8 points ago +8 / -0

I'll be praying for your family during this time of loss...sounds like he was a good dad to you. Lost mine recently as well. Keep your head up brother!

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DroolingElmo 8 points ago +8 / -0

🙏he lives on in you!

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mass55th 7 points ago +7 / -0

Sorry for the loss of your father. May he Rest In Peace with our Lord in Heaven today, and may the Heavenly Father bless, and comfort you, and your family today, and every day.

I lost my Dad in June if 1978. He would have been 74 that October.

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Maenard 7 points ago +7 / -0

Unwinnable? At the very WORST, it's a draw. Your dad has won the only fight that matters, and that's to make it up to the REAL big guy, who we give 100%.

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TrumpWonByALandslide 7 points ago +7 / -0

Sorry to hear that, fren. Praying for your family.

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SpinShaitan 7 points ago +7 / -0

Prayers inbound. He loves you still.

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cmonman 6 points ago +6 / -0

God bless you and your family. I lost my father a couple of years ago, although it's hard. It gets better. Remember the good times and all the lessons you took from him. Pass those down.

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wantsomegetsome 6 points ago +6 / -0

god bless you and your family

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-jjjjjjjjjj- 6 points ago +6 / -0

It was a blessing he got to pass at home surrounded by family. I'll be thinking of your family tonight OP.

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TreyGowdysButthole 6 points ago +6 / -0

Really really sorry to hear it fren.

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Jimboslice73 5 points ago +5 / -0

I'm so glad you had a moment with your father which will be with you for the rest of your life as a wonderful memory to have. My condolences to you & your family on your loss. My God be with you.

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charwoman 5 points ago +5 / -0

God bless you, your family and your Dad. I'm sorry for your loss.

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americandrunk 5 points ago +5 / -0

My condolences fren.

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Hunter_loves_2_feet 5 points ago +5 / -0

RIP. 🙏

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GreatAwakeCoach 5 points ago +5 / -0

Respect to the fallen & your family, OP.

God bless you guys.

G A C

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Mungo 5 points ago +5 / -0

He’s smiling because he is getting the heck out of here!!!! God bless him and you.

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Sdelira 5 points ago +5 / -0

Condolences. It takes time and reflection. Remember the best times and all he did for the family.

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skywalkingmaga 5 points ago +5 / -0

May his spirit be at peace, and may your whole family feel God’s love and grace in this time of mourning.🙏

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ExileOnRedditStreet 5 points ago +5 / -0

Conolences and respect, Pede.

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SomeGuyOnTheInternet 5 points ago +5 / -0

Sucks dude, Alzheimer's is a real nasty bitch. He is at peace now, and you will see him again when your time comes. I will pray for him as well as for you and your family later tonight when I say my rosary.

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Infuriator 5 points ago +5 / -0

🙏

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OPsMom 5 points ago +5 / -0

No doubt he was a great man on Earth. He will be of great use to God where he has gone.

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Sgt_Hatred 4 points ago +5 / -1

consider him fortunate to have led a long, good life and not have to deal with any more of this nonsense poisoning him. he's the lucky one.

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Tenspot20 4 points ago +4 / -0

I fucking hate death! Sorry Bro!

10.20

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MycologyofMAGA 3 points ago +3 / -0

He saw Heaven