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sleepy00 79 points ago +79 / -0

So true. Thought it was just me. Seems like the older you get the less friends you have.

BunnyPicnic 46 points ago +48 / -2

You realize that those friends you had in school were mainly friends because there was no other choice. I think everyone has less friends the older they get. Put famy first, unless you have commies in your family.

WinnerChickenDinner 38 points ago +39 / -1

My family is mostly commie. I don't go to family reunions.

StopTheGlobalists 20 points ago +21 / -1

Same. Born Jewish. They support the left. I do not talk to them.

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Shalomtoyou 10 points ago +10 / -0

Heh, why thanks.

Chabad is actually really conservative. And a lot of members who go there are not orthodox themselves, but are Jews who are too conservative for the so-called "conservative" synagogues.

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Stolen 18 points ago +18 / -0

I'm a Pureblood. I use my unvaxxed card to get out of family functions. Now, they say it is ok but Pepe Farms doesn't forget.

BigIgloo 8 points ago +8 / -0

Good for you. They showed you their true face

Basedsliceofwinning 6 points ago +6 / -0

Yeah, 2 years ago, my extended family wanted me to get a COVID test for my 1 year old to go to the Christmas day party. I told them I'm not shoving anything up his nose, so I stayed home with my son. My wife was a little mad at first, but after talking to her about it more, she agreed and stayed too.

This past Christmas they were finally ok with the kids that would come not being vaxxed and/or not taking a test. I still said no. I don't forget that kinda thing. Or what they said about me as a father behind my back.

The most hilarious thing is that the 2 hosts are extremely overweight and smoke. If they truly were worried about their health, they'd take care of those 2 things, which are far more dangerous than COVID.

Stolen 2 points ago +2 / -0

Uh yeah- don't give me health advice when you are an overweight smoker. It is sad but they would've sent you to COVID camps until you comply.

Basedsliceofwinning 3 points ago +3 / -0

Yah, that's one of the more difficult red pills I swallowed.

I know many of my leftists family members would turn me into a COVID camp without any sense of guilt. In fact, they'd probably take pride in it.

And many of my leftists friends (more like acquaintances now) would gladly rat me out if the government did ever come to take our guns.

No loyalty at all.

JamesBond007 2 points ago +2 / -0

Always a Commie in the woodpile

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x79q3pb 12 points ago +12 / -0

You know, I think this has been one of the biggest let downs in my experience. Like you said, huge family/friend gatherings growing up, dad whips the BBQ out, kids run amok, didn't matter, it was a good time.

Fast forward and I'm the adult and now it seems like everyone just wants to be alone and stay home. I hope the situation will improve when I move to Florida.

Mamapedia 4 points ago +5 / -1

Seems like everyone wants to be alone with their electronic device and the internet. It is a great temptation, I have to admit.

Fundadores 5 points ago +6 / -1

User interfaces have been designed by teams of people, up to thousands of people, to maximize attention grabbing and retention. I'm prone to it myself.


fskfsk 5 points ago +5 / -0

The people you knew from school you have 1-2+ hours of hanging out time per day. As an adult, you might get 1-2 hours of hanging out time with someone per week. It's going to take a lot longer to get the same level of familiarity with someone as an adult.

You also were forced to spend time together, by going to the same school. As an adult, you generally don't want to hang out with work people outside of work.

SteveRogers42 3 points ago +3 / -0

All the different sports teams in school gave athletes an automatic friend group that met daily. It’s tough to recapture the essence of that mannerbund as an adult. Rec sports just aren’t the same.

sharardoh 25 points ago +25 / -0

I spent 40 years as a craftsman. It felt like a pleasant dream being in a world of my own 80 hours a week. Like a happy Twilight Zone episode. I've felt lonely a few times. I like my own company. I like people.

randomuser9193 17 points ago +20 / -3

You have to actively work hard to make new friends. This is something I do all the time.

How to make new male friends as an oldie boy:

  • Go to meetups for things that interest you
  • Team-based sports
  • Present at conferences

How to make new female friends as an oldie boy:

  • Go to parties
  • Host your own parties

Women like displays of status. When you are the center of attention at a party, you get your pick of the bunch.

It's a lot of work, but it's worth it.

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randomuser9193 2 points ago +2 / -0

Yeah when I got divorced I brought a woman over for the first time and she was like "your wife gave up this???" Poor girl didn't know I wanted the divorce.

PatriotDescendant 6 points ago +6 / -0

As a musician, I know the drill.

randomuser9193 2 points ago +2 / -0

Oh look at you on easy mode

PatriotDescendant 2 points ago +2 / -0

Did I mention I was a ski instructor then mountain guide then heli-guide at a major destination resort for four years? Talk about being at the center of attention! LOL

(We're on the same page; we "get" it.)

randomuser9193 1 point ago +2 / -1

too bad you're gay

PatriotDescendant 1 point ago +1 / -0

Naw, Superstraight™

randomuser9193 2 points ago +2 / -0

it was a joke lol

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MySidesGoUp 7 points ago +7 / -0

Friends are a reflection of your lifestyle. If you have a family, you’ll prob find more family-oriented friends to jam with.

In our youth we’re surrounded by friends with equal interests in finding weird pussy and danger. It’s also why we shouldn’t allow the youth the vote. “30 is the new 20” when the kids are raised by child-minded women.

TheFreeSpeechRadical 31 points ago +31 / -0

what about us? I know I'm your friend through this website.

Dirk_Diggler 26 points ago +26 / -0

Trust, but verify.

Shalomtoyou 8 points ago +9 / -1

There's frens and friends.

DixMcCoy 8 points ago +8 / -0

THERE are friends and then there are frens.

I'm writing the screenplay for a television sitcom called Frens.

tonkabodhi 2 points ago +2 / -0

That’s so cool!

tonkabodhi 2 points ago +2 / -0

I have an idea that a bunch of frens go out to my land in the middle of the desert and build a bee and flower farm and it’s all frens and pedes and MAGA, and it’s a reality show. we start from the ground up but it’s selective and frens can live out there in little tiny houses or tents. that would be super fun and who knows maybe we could start a production company. I cannot believe Trump hasn’t already!

I’m really looking for a partner, an ex-marine-type to live on part of the land and partner with. Good to have a bodyguard around.

TheFreeSpeechRadical 1 point ago +1 / -0

true, words to live by.

But to whomever it may concern, I declare to be a true fren to all of you here no matter how whacky or how much of a doomer you are... except the glowies of course, they can go suck a yuuge dick ...

PatriotDescendant 5 points ago +5 / -0

There are many people with whom I agree in politics but cannot stand them in person (and vice versa).

Political persuasion is not the solely critical dimension.

I'd call it a condition precedent. But other aspects matter too.

TheFreeSpeechRadical 2 points ago +2 / -0

be me friend. :)

bantar 2 points ago +2 / -0

I noticed his Pepe was missing in the last block. Someone should fix that for him.

eatthesejewels 30 points ago +32 / -2

THIS IS THE PROBLEM. Lack of community in the real world. Please, go to church. “And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” -Ecclesiastes 4:12

JoePCool14 9 points ago +9 / -0

Amen. People think that religion is just about saying prayers and reading Scripture at home. It is not. There's far more to it than that.

Tbonius45maximus 14 points ago +14 / -0

Grandpa used to say “even if god was not real their is no better life to live then as a christian”

Oldjeansandbelt 4 points ago +4 / -0

Was just thinking this, in a different town, getting together after the service and feeling the connection with total strangers. Like who would give that up.

PatriotDescendant 3 points ago +5 / -2

My dad went to church religiously! (See what I did there?)

But he did not believe in God -- and told us so.

He went for the friendships and coffee hour.

MJPalazzolo 2 points ago +2 / -0

Community and camaraderie. Me too.

YaharaRiver 2 points ago +2 / -0

I'm the opposite. I went for the sermons. I sat in the front so I wouldn't be distracted by the people there 😂 Stroke your husband's ear AT HOME, please!

RandArrow 1 point ago +1 / -0

Depends on church and individuals. Atheist now, but....

Was raised Methodist. At time they really put effort into community and kin keeping. Even as a child I was impressed. The story of how they became a sect is actually kind of cool. Founders were Anglican fundamentalists and missionaries, ended up around a bunch of other sects and kind of fell in love, like the Moravians.

Father converted to pentecostalism. They really got nothing going on but church, prayers, and scripture. I call it a death cult, their only goal in life was to remain holy so they could meet Jesus when they die. Wouldn't work more than minimum wage jobs if at all. Wouldn't set up a pot luck if their lives depended on it. Had competitions to see who could remember the most of the bible. Wouldn't take care of themselves and died young.

JoePCool14 2 points ago +2 / -0

It's a balance. In Catholicism, the sacraments are the center of the faith. If I had to pick one or the other, I'd certainly pick them first.

But having community dinners and parish festivals is also important for both existing members of the parish and helping to bring in newcomers.

RandArrow 2 points ago +2 / -0

Bring in newcomers hell, it's important for sanity.... last two years have really shown the value of community and the efforts it takes to maintain it, and the efforts partisans go to to destroy it. Although groups like pentecostals probably had the wearwithal to survive the pandemic and isolation, they were also probably rooting for the apocalypse....

LoobintheToobin 2 points ago +3 / -1

With a relationship with God, we need never be alone.

John 16:32-33 (NKJV) 32 “Indeed the hour is coming, yes, has now come, that you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave Me alone. And yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me. 33 “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

Congregate with the wrong people and see scattered sheep.

“For the shepherds have become dull-hearted, And have not sought the Lord; Therefore they shall not prosper, And all their flocks shall be scattered.” ‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭10:21‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Truth has a way of filtering family and friends.

Luke 18:29-30 (KJV) 29 And he said unto them, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom of God's sake, 30 Who shall not receive manifold more in this present time, and in the world to come life everlasting.

The Holy Spirit with God and little ol me make for an unbreakable bundle of three. If one can find a church with Christ at the head as He is to be, then congratulations all the better struggles together can be shouldered. Sadly, Christ lead church’s are few and far between, most preferring a social club that doesn’t encourage change in lifestyle towards sanctification. Heaven forbid they be seen as too judgmental. Far too often one will find people pleasers not God pleasers.

Colossians 1:1-29 (KJV) 1 Paul, an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, and Timotheus [our] brother, 2 To the saints and faithful brethren in Christ which are at Colosse: Grace [be] unto you, and peace, from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 3 We give thanks to God and the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, praying always for you, 4 Since we heard of your faith in Christ Jesus, and of the love [which ye have] to all the saints, 5 For the hope which is laid up for you in heaven, whereof ye heard before in the word of the truth of the gospel; 6 Which is come unto you, as [it is] in all the world; and bringeth forth fruit, as [it doth] also in you, since the day ye heard [of it], and knew the grace of God in truth: 7 As ye also learned of Epaphras our dear fellowservant, who is for you a faithful minister of Christ; 8 Who also declared unto us your love in the Spirit. 9 For this cause we also, since the day we heard [it], do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; 10 That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God; 11 Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness; 12 Giving thanks unto the Father, which hath made us meet to be partakers of the inheritance of the saints in light: 13 Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness, and hath translated [us] into the kingdom of his dear Son: 14 In whom we have redemption through his blood, [even] the forgiveness of sins: 15 Who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature: 16 For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether [they be] thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him: 17 And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. 18 And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all [things] he might have the preeminence. 19 For it pleased [the Father] that in him should all fulness dwell; 20 And, having made peace through the blood of his cross, by him to reconcile all things unto himself; by him, [I say], whether [they be] things in earth, or things in heaven. 21 And you, that were sometime alienated and enemies in [your] mind by wicked works, yet now hath he reconciled 22 In the body of his flesh through death, to present you holy and unblameable and unreproveable in his sight: 23 If ye continue in the faith grounded and settled, and [be] not moved away from the hope of the gospel, which ye have heard, [and] which was preached to every creature which is under heaven; whereof I Paul am made a minister; 24 Who now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up that which is behind of the afflictions of Christ in my flesh for his body's sake, which is the church: 25 Whereof I am made a minister, according to the dispensation of God which is given to me for you, to fulfil the word of God; 26 [Even] the mystery which hath been hid from ages and from generations, but now is made manifest to his saints: 27 To whom God would make known what [is] the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory: 28 Whom we preach, warning every man, and teaching every man in all wisdom; that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus: 29 Whereunto I also labour, striving according to his working, which worketh in me mightily.

You claim the problem is lack of community in the “real world,’ but what unity can there be between two incongruous worlds?

John 17:16 (NKJV) “They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world.

Nickels444 26 points ago +26 / -0

i skipped the 40's and went full 'now' in my 20's. gonna get really sweaty before theres a U curve in the graph im thinking.

Ryan_ 3 points ago +3 / -0

You and me both brother.

PonySoldier66 21 points ago +21 / -0

My wife is my best friend and she let's me hang out with her dogs.

Pelosiwashammered 5 points ago +5 / -0

Better verify her

Cacciali_Via -1 points ago +1 / -2

Your wife is your best friend?

B E T A.

Killroyusedtobehere 16 points ago +16 / -0

Omg..this is so true...pretty much where I am at..

Tombstone2W 11 points ago +11 / -0

Once you get married the female friends should go away

t_l_winks 11 points ago +11 / -0

Glad I’m not alone.

runonce 10 points ago +11 / -1

Right there with ya' buddy. Many of us here are "friends apart" Eventually you get old enough to realize who you can trust and count on for the heavy lifting and often it's only you. I think most of us are fine with that, I am, and perhaps there will come a time that will bring us all together.

scruffyshoulders 3 points ago +4 / -1

While I'm fine with it, it's so disappointing, as I would stand true for friends, but I know they won't. Togetherness is a fleeting dream, people are too self centered.

VirtusHonos 2 points ago +2 / -0

people who are successfully self-reliant will open themselves to others more readily, because they have nothing to prove to others, and can represent their authentic self to others without self-consciousness. a self-reliant person has a solid moral compass, thus can engage in conversations with people having a broad range of beliefs and actually moderate a fruitful conversation, maybe even converting the non-MAGA to The Way

TheyCallMePedoJoe 9 points ago +9 / -0

True friends are very rare. Dogs truly are mans best friend...and a good gun.

Carolinareaper 9 points ago +9 / -0

I hate almost everyone

50 ish

Randomroxks 9 points ago +9 / -0

I have pretty much lost all friends due to my Trump support. Man is never alone as long as he's got company of his principles. I don't know about women!

Mshrm 4 points ago +5 / -1

True for MAGA women, although it is difficult to move furniture by yourself.

Randomroxks 1 point ago +2 / -1

Thats what movers/home delivery is for. When I was married to my liberal wife, she would solicit help from my friends and when all was said and done, would continue to shit all over them. Fuck that, I am out.

Truglow 8 points ago +8 / -0

The older you get the less you need other peoples drama.

YaharaRiver 3 points ago +3 / -0

Yes. I thank God for distancing me from my libtard siblings' penchant for quarreling. Everyone's an expert!

(Miss you, Dad.)

Pelosiwashammered 8 points ago +8 / -0

Is that a cat, or is it CatTurd?

Realassman 7 points ago +7 / -0

Pretty much !

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MythArcana 6 points ago +6 / -0

Damn, I thought I was the only one. Glad to see that everything is normal then. :D

VoteRepublicanAgain 6 points ago +7 / -1

Don't trust the cat, it will kill you.

Also, I've had no friends my entire life. It's very sad. I have tons of problems & wish things were different.

DoozerChuck 3 points ago +3 / -0

I have problems too

ID be your friend

And I like your cat advice

PatriotDescendant 6 points ago +6 / -0

64 and I sort of buck this trend.

I have various pockets of friends:

Two I would call my closest -- so close I call him and her my brother and sister even though we're not related. We all three refer to one another as brothers and sister.

One -- my wife. She is NOT my closest friend, my brother and sister are my closest. But she is a very close third.

Everyone else is more of an acquaintance than friend but there are many -- likely more than I knew in high school.

I know people from soccer -- I'm on several teams, play pickup and am an officer for a club. This creates a large pool of people whose names I know, families, and who I would gladly go grab a beer.

I know people from music -- I do a lot of open mics and used to run karaoke and open mics.

Then...poker. I play 3-4 days per week and meet loads of dealers, service people, players and the like. And again, many of these know me pretty well because we talk quite frequently, often in depth because we're force to sit with one another! LOL

So...3 close friends...and easily over 100 people I know pretty well.

jeffreyepstein 5 points ago +5 / -0

Were you dead in your 30s? Haha

CaptainWinston 5 points ago +5 / -0

Right there with you

PKC_MAN 4 points ago +4 / -0

This is literally my life in a nutshell, after you filter out the bad and keep the good.

megaronald 4 points ago +4 / -0

So true

John_Smallberries 4 points ago +4 / -0

I love my dog and maybe three other people. Love my guns, too!

Spawnlingman 4 points ago +4 / -0

For me when I hit my 40's it dropped down to about 4 close friends and guns.

Uncommon 4 points ago +4 / -0

Hmm seems I went straight to fifty plus after college

DoozerChuck 2 points ago +2 / -0

A bit uncommon

PatPede1 3 points ago +3 / -0

I am pretty sure Donald Trump has more than he ever had, and that is saying something. He is pushing 80.

RaginJake379 3 points ago +3 / -0

I'm not friends with the cat, but yes.

EatMyBallsAmerican 3 points ago +3 / -0

Spot on for me 😂

HIGH_ENERGY_MEMES 3 points ago +3 / -0

One thing I've learnt is you need to put in effort, and its worth it. Be the guy that messages your group of friends and picks a date for a getaway.

Something we started is once a year we head to a small tourist beach town. Everyone who can come books a place there, keeps it simple to let people sort their own rather than one large booking. Some share houses or other prefer their own. Houses tend to be a short walk as it's a small town and makes a great long weekend where you hang with friends plus brings the families together so wives and children get to know everyone. It usually ends up one house becomes the centre.

So worth it. Put the effort in as most people are keen but few make to time to organise.

Prolifemom 3 points ago +3 / -0

A like minded friend at church starred their own small group, so we could help each other through all of this crap, i.e. mask Nazi's, jab "mandates," schooling options, how to deal with woke family members, etc...it has been extremely helpful. We all stood our ground & the men were willing to get fired for not getting jabbed. No one lost their job!

XDingoX83 3 points ago +3 / -0

I’m in my late 30s, single, I got a cat, dog and my own property. I want to put up a new flag pole my old one was on the house. Anyway. Yeah fuck most people I feel like the apu apustaja meme with the pillow fort and no girls allowed.

ghost_of_aswartz 3 points ago +3 / -0

There needs to be a college type environment for 2 yrs or so for people in their 40s so they can reconnect with people

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Kamalas_a_Bitch 3 points ago +3 / -0

Put the spouse on there. Good spouses are friends for life.

Cyberpunkd 3 points ago +3 / -0

I'd rather have frens

Fact 3 points ago +3 / -0

Quality over quantity.

TipperHangsChad 3 points ago +3 / -0

I’m somewhere in my 30’s and I’m at the far right of this chart, by choice.

Zadok 2 points ago +2 / -0

I am 75, I need a dog.

Weneverleft 2 points ago +2 / -0

Well, looks like you've made new friends.

CLF3 2 points ago +2 / -0

I was at dog and rifle when I was a teenager, I turned 40 this week. So where am I on this scale?

Rommsey 2 points ago +2 / -0

This is a terrible outlook.

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Moominz0 2 points ago +3 / -1

I was never completely used to being surrounded by friends and now as a result, I'm fucking terrified of having to keep track of people and have them always wanting to talk or just check in on me.

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Alphahorizon 2 points ago +2 / -0

I AM NOT ALONE!!!! Thank GOD!!!

BowTieBuddy 2 points ago +2 / -0

I just hit 40 and already way ahead of schedule lol

megan90 2 points ago +2 / -0

Happy life 🙂

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IvankasBathWater 1 point ago +3 / -2

The cat doesn't count.