A few months ago I made a post about my five year old being diagnosed with DIPG, a terminal incurable brain tumor. He passed yesterday. I wanted to thank everyone who prayed for him and us, for all of the info posted (which we tried everything possible to save him). Thank you all so much, from the bottom of our hearts. And may God bless you all and your families.
Edited to add thank you all for your kind words. Except this one particular comment from a tolerant and loving leftist:
Jesus from u/RedState_Shitholes - 3m Jesus hated your son. Jesus hates all conservatives.
Imagine being gleeful about the death of a five year old because his parents are conservative. That’s leftists for you, though. Too bad this person doesn’t have the balls to say it to my face. Come to NWFL and say it to my face. Name your time and place. I’ll be there. Another kind message from this guy today:
If Jesus loved your son, why did he send him to HELL? Your son will burn for eternity in the depths of hell, and it is your fault.
Still waiting for him to name his time and place…
Edited again to add that u/cookiemonsters said this is fake. If the mods want proof they can message me and I can provide it. I’m not asking for money or anything, just wanted to thank all of those who supported me with their prayers and kindness in what’s the absolute worst time in my life. That’s literally all I wanted to do. Anyone who would lie about their five year old child’s horrific death is pure evil and it isn’t me. Unfortunately this is all too real. I wish it wasn’t. But thanks again to those of you who have been so kind. It means the world to me and my family.
Edited to add one more:
“Why are you posting about your sick son on an anonymous message board? You really are a loser.”
Thank u/Flptplt, for those oh so kind words! Hope you wind up where you so truly deserve to be. Maybe you can come along with u/RedStateShitholes to say it to me in person??
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What’s this mean?
Press F for respect. It's from a video game but it just means respect now
Gotcha, thank you.
I love you fren
I love you too. Thank you. God bless you and yours.
Very sorry for your loss. Condolences fren
It’s always painful to lose a loved one. Especially a child. I sincerely wish you the best and your son’s happiness in Heaven.
You will see him again. At least I will be praying for it. Bless you 🙏
“Press F to pay respects” - a prompt in a game.
Saying a prayer for him pede. Stay strong, God works in mysterious ways.
When I was teaching I presented a medical ethics case called "The Twins Case." The case centered on identical 14 years girls that were polar opposites (popular/golden child vs. depressed/troublesome) . The Golden Child needed a kidney transplant and she would die without getting one from her twin sister. The other girl hated her sister and refused to give up her kidney for the operation. The students had to make the moral - ethical decisions whether or not to operate.
During the discussions we would talk about advancements in medical technology and elimination of diseases. If we could eliminate all diseases and disorders and have a world populated by perfect human beings would we be better for it?
The best people I have met in life have dealt with hardships related to their children and it has made them incredible people. The siblings of these children are sensitive and caring.
There is a method in the madness and something good and incredible is going to come out of this loss.
Good pedes are coming out of the woodwork to give excellent responses on this post.
You give me hope, fren.
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It is paying respects in dorky internet shorthand.
Very sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. He is in good hands now. I know that doesn’t make the pain subside but he is dancing with Angels.
And angels 😇
I don't like it at all.
Even if I do understand it, I put myself in the place of someone who doesn't know what F means, and it offends the would be me
Good thing nobody asked
It came off as tacky in the game too. The developers meant well but took flak for it on release. That's part of why it went viral, as I understand. Although nowadays the inside joke has gone meta, and it's usually meant in the best way.
Interesting as I usually see it in a serious context. I don't disagree with your points though. I just choose to read it as a wordless salute, but text can be interpreted in all sorts of ways. Personally I try to be as unambiguous as possible. Often, to a fault.
It's meant to resemble a flag, as a sign of respect.
It's how zoomers say "RIP" but i've never seen it actually used unironically..
regardless sorry for your loss, I hope the memories you made with him in those 5 years stay with you forever
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I wish you luck and happiness even though things will never be the same. My condolences.
praying for your strength. I can't imagine... i'm so sorry
Thank you. It was the most horrific thing imaginable. He did not go easily or peacefully. It will haunt me until the day I die. I am very angry and devastated. I honestly can’t even process any of it. I just want to forget. Not him, but the utter horror that it all was at the end. Sorry to dump all this out here, it’s just so…indescribably awful.
Love your kids, people. Love them fiercely. You never know when and how it’ll come for them. I truly pray that nobody here is ever EVER affected by anything like this. The horror is eating me alive. If I didn’t have four other children to live for I’d have no reason to go on.
SunAstra, we can't see the future. Nor can we see what is going on in God's kingdom.
But I do know, because Jesus told us, that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Your son, who has no account against him, is very much with the Lord, who has already wiped his tears away, as noted in Revelation.
As for those of us left here, I have a funny feeling that one day soon you will thank God for sparing your son what is coming.
He is NOT dead. Just relocated. Cling to Jesus and you will be reunited on the last day.
You know, that was my first thought. He will be spared the horrors of what is rapidly approaching society. I am so angry at Jesus for allowing him to die so horribly. But I know that at least one day I will get over this anger. I still love Jesus and have no choice but to trust Him. I cannot understand any of this. I probably never will.
It's harder for the young to leave, because their physical youth fights so hard to stay.
Jesus was 33 and remarked about His willing spirit, versus His non-compliant body.
That last struggle was just his body refusing to surrender. Because it was built by God to fight.
He told us once “I’m a tiger in my heart”. He truly was. Three times he stopped breathing and came back every time. It was so awful. But he didn’t want to go. I have to believe he’s in a better place now. With Jesus and our family members who passed on.
We never understand the trials and hardships while we are in them. We may not even understand in this life. Your son wouldn't want you to remember his last, hardest day as the main memory. It's all fresh in your mind, but with time, the good memories will be first to the surface when you think of him. The world is broken and under the curse of sin. One day it will be lifted and we will all be restored. You'll see your little boy again. Saying a prayer of comfort for your whole family. "Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope." - meaning of course we grieve....but remember this is "the waiting room" for all of us. Hugs and love. ❤️
He is a tiger in his heart.
I do not want to force anything onto your spirit at all, especially now.
When you are ready, this bible study might give you some help. It helped me in a tough time. It's not mushy at all. It is inspired by God's rational calm, and those who followed after Him when their days were darkest.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KspwQ2wyuUU&pp=ygUbTWlrZSB3aW5nZXIgY2hvb3NpbmcgZmFpdGgg
Thank you, I will look at it. ♥️♥️
Lord have mercy 😥 I cannot even begin to imagine how you stayed sane. God bless you and your family. Keep the memories of your boy in happier times at the front of your mind. I’m crying right now thinking of what he endured. I have children and cannot even fathom. Let that dark memory pass from you..I will pray for you and your family that you will overcome this tremendous grief. My daughter was diagnosed with a life altering condition as a young child. Her outlook wasn’t great, and se wasn’t supposed to live very long. And while she will never be “normal” 12 years later she is still with us. Our dreams of what we thought her life would be like died, but our strength and love as a family has only gotten stronger. I pray that your family will also become stronger, even though one is with God. Life really sucks sometimes. 😥 Peace for you and yours friend
Praying for God’s peace for you friend.
We are all only passing through. The time spent together is the gift to each and everyone one of us whether it be big or small - it's value is immeasurable.
I would mourn for you, the potential joys in this life you've been deprived but at the same time reverently say the love you've had to engage actively to make it this far seems enormous in scale to what others get to enjoy.
That's faith.
Well said. Very powerful and brings me to tears.
TRUTH! Right there. Beautiful words Isaiah53. God Bless
Well I'd give you a bro hug if I knew you but take the electronic version 🤗
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Well I'd give you a bro hug if I knew you but take the electronic version 🤗
Can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you. I'm so sorry. Will keep you in prayer.
I will pray for peace for you and your family.
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A parent should never outlive their child as the pain is unbearable. I am so sorry for your loss.
God bless you .
Why does God allow this?
Because life and death are valued and no matter the time lived it is a blessing.
Live and love and accept the love that lived.
We all end in the same place. As Christians we don't fear death if we lived with love. But do fear a hateful life that leads to an unloved end.
A child that lived cured his mother and father of many ill as well as himself. His life was not in vain.
So when someone says 'why does God allow this?' I know they are trolling for hate. I pray for your soul.
Ok. Well Dianne feinstein lived to be 134 years old. This child never got to ride a bicycle or have a water balloon fight. Yet God is in control. Sounds to me like Satan has god down for the count.
I wish you Christians had the balls you think you have.
Go back to reddit child. The adults here don't have the time or patience for your histrionic whining.
Once again a troll is obviously following a child's death with hate. You should consider your evaluation skills.
You should consider reading the old testament.
I have many times. It is a wonderful book if you understand it as it was meant to be evaluated.
You're one of those people who complains that God doesn't intervene, then complains when he does.
My only real complaint is it's not obvious, when he "intervenes". Can you give me an example?
Satan controls the Earth, which is why Satan offered Christ the world as part of his temptations.
“He (Satan) is a liar and the father of lies, for the Truth is not in him.”
"in whose case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they might not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God." 2 Cor 4:4
"Now judgment is upon this world; now the ruler of this world will be cast out." John 12:31
Because mankind wanted to be God instead of obey him.
It's a question we've been asking for thousands of years, and for good reason.
I would just flip the question around and ask why did God give me all these things I do not deserve: my life, my loving wife and children, the warmth of the sun, air to breath, the animals that nourish me, decades of good health. I don't deserve any of it, and God doesn't owe anything to anyone. But God gave me all these blessings, out of his infinite love and goodness, so I could share in his divine life. And he sent his only begotten son to provide us the one path to everlasting life.
Why is God so generous, in spite of us torturing him to death the one time he made himself vulnerable? That is true love, my friends.
It’s a fair question and a good question. Try “The Problem of Pain” by CS Lewis. It won’t completely answer your question but it will give a bit of food for thought.
Because God gave us Free Will
How does that answer the question? Why does that child have to suffer because of somebody else's sins? That's not just or right.
You complaining about the child's suffering is like Judas complaining about wasting the expensive oil on Jesus' hair.
Without the possibility of bad things, free will does not exist.
I understand this. But couldn't we still have free will, and babies be taken care of? How do you even get there? Oh, I signed, so let's give this random child an inoperable tumor. That's not the work of a loving, intelligent being. That sounds like if Biden was God.
I posted this video to another comment, but I like how Fr. Mike puts it.
https://youtu.be/0NOTU1g0Z8w?si=kUsn9aM4DxuWk5xM
Just or right? We pay for the sins of our fathers. God tells us its not just or right to enact earthly punishment for the sins of our fathers but the world operates in that manner. After the coming of Christ, he rectifies this for us who are down trodden.
Any way, what is just or right to you?
For starters, an innocent child should never die, and 78 year old pedophile, lying, FAGGOTs would have died decades ago.
But abortion exists. Keep going down your logic and you will see it leads to the removal of free will
Did OP abort a baby?
Sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you and your family
Man I'm really sorry to hear about this. I wish the best for you and your family as you heal.
Unimaginable sorrow.
Lost my son in Sep 2020 at 27 to a seizure. It's hard, but the sharp pain eventually becomes a much less sharp ache. It never leaves you, so use it to remind yourself of the joy he brought you when it flares up.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
As am I for yours. This is a club I want no other parents to ever have to join.
I'm so very sorry, fren. So sorry.
God's plan sometimes don't make any sense to us but His wisdom is infinite. That said, I can't imagine your sadness.
1 Peter: 4 12-13
Amen 🙏🏻
I am so sorry. There are no words.
I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. I hope you find healing and peace.
I am however glad you got some support here
Oh, my heavens. My heart breaks for you. I'll be praying for your healing, peace and ability to get some rest.
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I struggle to understand why such tragic things must happen in this life. Thanks for sharing. May you find peace.
I do too. Truly I will never understand. He was just too good for this world. He never belonged here. He was ethereal, like an angel. A perfect angel. My husband is beyond devastated, I truly fear for him and I’m trying to hold it together for him but my God, it’s hard. Pure agony. I miss my baby so much. He was MY boy, our other son is my husband’s son completely, he’s his mini me, this one was mine. If you know what I mean, we love all our children but this one was my special one. I miss him so badly it’s tearing me apart. I just don’t know how or why. I’ll never get it. Never.
Hang on to God sister! I have a boy too and he is mine. Your loss feels like mine too. Please let God be God and know that He is strength. I grieve for you beyond words. Christ is king and this little one is a prince in the Kingdom Glory to God Almighty!
Agree, but would change it to say, "some connect differently". God bless.
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Sending you love. I keep crying reading your messages.
May God give your strength, protection and health. We love you
God lost His Son too. He knows.
Literally had to turn His back on Jesus because He was bearing our sin, even though Jesus was blameless.
Your little one was blameless too and suffered because we live in a fallen world. You never deserted or gave up on him. You loved him every day of his life.
We have to miss our babies for awhile, but we will hold them again one day.
I wish I could give you a hug and cry with you fren.
Praying for your family. So sorry for your lost.
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I'm sorry for your loss, u/SunAstra.
I'm so sorry. Heartbreaking.
I am so sorry for your loss...
I'm so sorry my friend. By God's grace you will be with him again in heaven.
I wish I could take the pain from you.
Thank you. Truly.
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Thank you for sharing your love, your little angel, and for your blessings. May your heart be peaceful always.
I’m so very sorry. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. God bless you.
Rest in Peace, Little Angel.
Jesus loves you and your son, and we love you too. I prayed for you in these trying times. God bless you.
Thank you so much. It means the world to me. I appreciate all the prayers and support.
Jesus loves the children.
Mark 10: 13-14
And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them.
But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.
Jesus, please take him home. Bless you and your family.
Prayers man. No words.
This is so very sad. How heartbreaking!
My deepest condolences for you and your family
He's in a better place, and you'll met again.
I truly hope so. I pray for this. I know he is with my grandparents, and they are loving him so much. I hope he doesn’t miss us too much. He died at home, where he always wanted to be. I would tell him come back and let me know you’re ok if you can. I hope he will. His ashes will be here with us, I could not put him in the cold ground away from us. At least I know he is with our ancestors and the Lord, even though I am so angry at the Lord for letting him suffer at the end. I just cannot understand why he had to suffer so horribly. I can never get it out of my head. Indescribably awful.
We live in a fallen world. Do not be angry with the Lord for the darkness here.
Be grateful for the good and the light that he provides us while we are here.
I will not act like I know why things happened like they did, and it saddens me deeply that they did even though I don't know you beyond our short interactions here.
I'm a grown ass man that spends most of his time in the wilds with a gun talking shit to other grown ass men, and I have tears in my eyes reading about what you have dealt with.
Something about getting older softens the heart to other's suffering.
But I know in my heart of heart that your child is with Jesus now, overjoyed that you and the rest of your family will eventually join him in that happiness for eternity.
Do not fret. This is all temporary.
And now I cry tears of joy.
Know that I did not always believe these things. I'm a scientist by education. Was an atheist, but pieced together reasons to find my faith through investigation and life experience.
There is a book by CS Lewis called A Grief Observed that you should read. It's a very personal account of his troubled faith after his wife died.
It's short. It will help. It helped bring me back twenty five years after severe tragedy in my family during my childhood.
Thank you, I will look for that book. We might actually have it, a friend gave us some CS Lewis books and that may be one of them. I will go find them and if I don’t have it, I will get it.
Last thing - if your faith ever falters, or if you don't even believe in the first place and you wish that you did -
All that you have to do is pray to Him and ask to believe or to have faith.
It's as simple as that. He will make it happen.
Good night and be blessed.
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I am heartbroken for you. May God bless you, give you strength, and comfort you. May your child find joy and healing now in His loving arms. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Godspeed to your child. God bless you and your family.
God fucking damn. I am so sorry pede. My condolences. I will pray for you and your family tonight.
This might not be the right thing to share at a sensitive time, but this quote from the Stoic philosopher Epictetus has helped my perspective when my pets have passed away:
“Never say of anything ‘I have lost it’, but ‘I have given it back’. Has your child died? It has been given back. Has your wife died? She has been given back. ‘My property has been taken’. Then that has been given back as well.”
The only things that are truly “ours” are our virtues; our thoughts and actions. Everything else is outside of our control. God’s property.
Oh, so sorry!
Prayers.