I'm so sorry. That's just horrible, and I really worry about his twin going forward. I hope the family can somehow make sure that the twin is being watched basically 24/7, for years. Twin bonds are so strong, I just can't imagine how the surviving twin will deal with this, especially having to deal with the normal emotional challenges and hormonal changes of puberty on top of this.
Suicide is such a terrible thing, especially in someone so young. My prayers are with you and your family...
I don't know if this will be of any comfort, but, there may be a genetic component to predisposition to suicide. In one bloodline on my mother's side of the family, every 2nd generation, 1/3 of young people committed suicide. Yes, it skips a generation.
I am in 'the suicide generation' (and, yes, some of my cousins have committed suicide when young), and, well, I reasoned it out that it is my genes that are the problem (not the circumstances) and that if I gave in to them (the bad genes), I would lose - and I am too stubborn to lose. I also tried to impart this lesson to my kids, just in case.
I don't know if this attitude/lesson could help your surviving cousins and I offer it only in the sincere hope that it might do some good...
I agree there is a genetic predisposition for suicide. The youngest in our family was about 9 years old. It was a failure and the person attempted it a couple of times more. Parents and grandparents need to teach kuds that not everything is dramatic enough to do this.
In some ways I think being a hunter-gatherer or farmer was an easier life. Not because life itself was easy, but because the struggle to survive was meaningful.
I remember being a teenager and the only thing that had meaning was my social status. That's infinitely compounded by social media.
If you were hunting your own food, building your own lodging, etc I firmly believe you'd find meaning in the struggles and successes. What's a kid doing today? Homework? It just doesn't have a deep connection to the world that satisfies.
What a horrible thing. His parents must be broken. Kids are not supposed to go first. My prayers for you, all his family and friends, that somewhere all of you can find peace. Prayers especially for his twin and younger brother.
Dealing with something so devastating, then finding out your son tried to talk his brothers into doing it too would be more than I could wrap my head around I'm afraid. It'd break me.
It's horrible to hear about another one. My deepest sympathies and wishes for courage and strength go to your family. Someone I know lost their teenage little brother last week to suicide. Absolutely wrecked everyone.
I think many people have given a passing thought to the idea during hard times, but decide that hard times pass. Hard times do go away, even if it seems like they won't. I'm approaching 60, and I've seen plenty of ups and downs. It's a cycle.
This is something that parents and grandparents must teach children from a young age. There are no hopeless situations for most of us. Yes, you might get into trouble, but it's not worth doing something extreme. It will pass. Ask for help if you feel like harming yourself.
We're still trying to figure out exactly what the cause was. His brothers both apparently watched him do it, got scared, then didn't go through with it. Their mom got home about 15 minutes after it happened (She'd just ran to the store for some dinner, the twins are 13 so she didn't think anything of it), she called 911 immediately as soon as she walked through the door and heard the boys crying, then she found the boys just sobbing and apologizing outside of the bathroom. That's really the only concrete information we have. His brothers haven't talked much since it happened, his father is has just gotten back from Afghanistan (he was deployed), and his mom is just hanging on by a thread. We have a celebration of life planned for next Saturday.
Man that's terrible. Im sorry to hear that.
I'm so sorry. That's just horrible, and I really worry about his twin going forward. I hope the family can somehow make sure that the twin is being watched basically 24/7, for years. Twin bonds are so strong, I just can't imagine how the surviving twin will deal with this, especially having to deal with the normal emotional challenges and hormonal changes of puberty on top of this.
So sorry to hear about this ? keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Suicide is such a terrible thing, especially in someone so young. My prayers are with you and your family...
I don't know if this will be of any comfort, but, there may be a genetic component to predisposition to suicide. In one bloodline on my mother's side of the family, every 2nd generation, 1/3 of young people committed suicide. Yes, it skips a generation.
I am in 'the suicide generation' (and, yes, some of my cousins have committed suicide when young), and, well, I reasoned it out that it is my genes that are the problem (not the circumstances) and that if I gave in to them (the bad genes), I would lose - and I am too stubborn to lose. I also tried to impart this lesson to my kids, just in case.
I don't know if this attitude/lesson could help your surviving cousins and I offer it only in the sincere hope that it might do some good...
I agree there is a genetic predisposition for suicide. The youngest in our family was about 9 years old. It was a failure and the person attempted it a couple of times more. Parents and grandparents need to teach kuds that not everything is dramatic enough to do this.
It's a lack of grounding to the world.
In some ways I think being a hunter-gatherer or farmer was an easier life. Not because life itself was easy, but because the struggle to survive was meaningful.
I remember being a teenager and the only thing that had meaning was my social status. That's infinitely compounded by social media.
If you were hunting your own food, building your own lodging, etc I firmly believe you'd find meaning in the struggles and successes. What's a kid doing today? Homework? It just doesn't have a deep connection to the world that satisfies.
Prayers going out for you and your family.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Prayers.
Prayer sent.
Wow such terrible news. Crazy. I'm sorry for you and your family 's loss. I pray God gives you strength and guidance
That’s so horrible. Praying for you. So sad.
What a horrible thing. His parents must be broken. Kids are not supposed to go first. My prayers for you, all his family and friends, that somewhere all of you can find peace. Prayers especially for his twin and younger brother.
I can't imagine dealing with something like that.
Dealing with something so devastating, then finding out your son tried to talk his brothers into doing it too would be more than I could wrap my head around I'm afraid. It'd break me.
Those poor people.
God be with them.
So sorry for this tragic loss. Will remember you in my prayers.
So sorry. Prayers to you and your family.
My prayers and condolences to you and your family. My deepest sympathies.
Please know that we here are sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry. I will join the others on this thread in lifting your family up in prayer. May He give you all comfort and peace in this tragic loss.
Love and prayers going your way, so very sorry and so sorry for the parents. It has gotten really out of hand, kids killing themselves
This is terrible. Praying for you and yours.
Sorry for the loss. Moms, dads, keep close tabs on those tweens and teens
So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers to you and your family ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss... Thoughts and prayers for your family.
I'm so sorry ??.
I am so sorry for your heartbreak.
So sorry to hear it!
So sorry to hear that pede.
It's horrible to hear about another one. My deepest sympathies and wishes for courage and strength go to your family. Someone I know lost their teenage little brother last week to suicide. Absolutely wrecked everyone.
I think many people have given a passing thought to the idea during hard times, but decide that hard times pass. Hard times do go away, even if it seems like they won't. I'm approaching 60, and I've seen plenty of ups and downs. It's a cycle.
This is something that parents and grandparents must teach children from a young age. There are no hopeless situations for most of us. Yes, you might get into trouble, but it's not worth doing something extreme. It will pass. Ask for help if you feel like harming yourself.
Speechless. You have my deepest sympathies and prayers.
Prayers sent ??
Just awful. RIP. My condolences, pede.
All of the family is going to need all the support you can offer. Tragedy. Stay strong, Pede. We are here for you, you be there for them.
Jesus I’m so sorry to hear that. That’s way too young.
Good luck on getting through it. I dealt with something similar but not that young. I can't even imagine..
Prayers for your family. ?
Mate keep strong for your family.
Thirteen years old. So young with so many options and experiences ahead... Your poor family...
May your family find peace, courage and strength as you deal with the aftermatho of this tragic event.
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Praying for you and your family
Stay strong
You can't MAGA if you're dead, pedes. Stay alive.
So sorry.
We're still trying to figure out exactly what the cause was. His brothers both apparently watched him do it, got scared, then didn't go through with it. Their mom got home about 15 minutes after it happened (She'd just ran to the store for some dinner, the twins are 13 so she didn't think anything of it), she called 911 immediately as soon as she walked through the door and heard the boys crying, then she found the boys just sobbing and apologizing outside of the bathroom. That's really the only concrete information we have. His brothers haven't talked much since it happened, his father is has just gotten back from Afghanistan (he was deployed), and his mom is just hanging on by a thread. We have a celebration of life planned for next Saturday.