Nothing to be sorry about. Men should be talking much more about what happens to them. There are some genuinely horrific stories.

It's not quite the double edge sword. The most clear evidence is the almost total acceptance of the biased system. If women were getting anywhere near the same level of treatment, be sure you'd hear about it in the news, from activists, and from politicians.

As far as dead beats, most of the CS debt (billions of dollars) is owed by the "dead broke", or "turnips" as they are called by social workers (can't squeeze blood from a turnip). Poor men who just keep being sent to jail. And while in jail they keep owing more and more debt. And during the whole process the kids suffer while everyone else lectures them about doing it for the benefit of the family.