My whole life, I’ve been a San Francisco/Los Angeles Liberal Arts person with jobs that have shaggy rugs, and you bring your dog into work.
I’m the typical black rimmed liberal glasses person. You’d never expect me to be Conservative unless you saw me at home in my Kanye/Trump shirt.
I’ve always hated kids, and people who had them. But now that I’m redpilled, even going to Church sometimes, I feel like I’m kind of obligated to have one. Like if I don’t I did something bad. Los Angeles would be a crazy place to raise kids but people do it all the time.
Sometimes I think I’m not naturally conservative, but I am because of how crazy liberals are, so therefore it’s ok to not have one.
I do really like conservative values, but at the same time my lifestyle is so different. It’s odd.
Having a child completely changes your perspective on pretty much everything. A screaming baby immediately morphs from irritating to concern.
If it’s not already, get your life in order with money, house, etc. then look for someone with similar values. I can’t stress how much easier it is to raise children when the two of you are on the same page. (Not just politics.)
Similar values is so important. My wife and I have almost the exact same value system, which has made raising our daughter a breeze (for the most part).
I would also add how important it is that a couples differences complement the others shortcomings. For example, my wife is very emotional, wears her heart on her sleeve and is a hopeless romantic. Where I am cold and calculating, logical, base decision making on statistics. We help each other in the areas we are lacking and it works really well.
And COMMUNICATION! If you can’t talk to your spouse about everything you are doomed to fail.
It's so funny how true it is about screaming babies! I hated crying babies prior to having a daughter. Then, when she was born, she could cry at any time and it never bothered me at all. It only caused concern. Some instincts are still strong.
Good wisdom in a few sentences. Covers everything I would have said. The only thing I would add is the deep satisfaction with life that comes from creating/continuing/connecting with family.