Hey guys. Just looking to interact with people. My mother that I own a house with was diagnosed covid positive a couple weeks ago. She got really bad last night and I had to call 911. I wasn’t doing great so I asked her if she could stay the night. I guess that’s me being too over attached. We were supposed to talk after she got off work but she text me and said she’s going disc golfing with friends now and the more she thinks about it we aren’t worth salvaging. Guess she showed her true colors doing that on a day like today.
Sorry just needed to rant to someone.
She did you a massive favor and saved you thousands. Prayers for your mother's health and recovery.
This!
My prayers for your Mom.
THIS.
❤️ prayers for you and your mom. Better to be rid of someone so shallow and heartless. May a decent girl enter your life soon.
It hurts. Move on in life. The best "revenge" would be for her to see you happy and well-adjusted after this. Make it her loss, your gain.
Sadly she's already on the ventilator but yes, they do cause damage to the lungs and should only be used as a last resort. Hydroxychloroquine + zinc + azithromycin EARLY in the onset of the disease keeps the virus from propagating, but once a certain point passes even those are near useless. Will pray for OP's mom, very sad :(
well people in the comments are saying hcq + zpack (azithromycin) + zinc are helping even late in the disease, though the reports I read were all early in the disease so who knows. Also I've consistently seen that ventilators are putting too much pressure on the lungs, probably high O2 is a much better option. Health care providers should always start with preventative and least invasive measures first, but in NYC death hospitals for example, doctors and nurses are being completely reckless with patients because their family can't come in and advocate for them.
I wouldn't be supprised if there was a socialized aspect to the healthcare that gave hospitals money per person on ventilators.
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No offense, but GFY.
you are not the word wolf. #DIPSHIT
Ok twitshit.
Ventilators can make it worse. 80% of patients on vents in NY die. covid attacks the endothelium (tissue wall of many organs in the body), and the positive pressure from the vent pops the deteriorated tiny balloons at the capillary level interchange level (alveoli).
Endotheliitis - it's why the heart attacks and the 'covid toes'.
She isn't worth your pain. You'll find someone who really cares about you. For now, take care of your Mom. See if the doc will put her on HCQ and Zinc. Be careful with them putting her on the ventilator because it has been killing patients by over pressurized the lungs. God bless you and your mom.
Edited for typos
HCQ + azithromycin plus zinc. There's something about the HCQ that "set's up" the azithromycin to better work to knock out other developed problems
The upside is you cut somebody out of your life that clearly didn’t actually care about you. You don’t need people like that. You’ll have better and healthier relationships in the future. Best of luck to your mom with her recovery.
100% this!!!
I look back at the time I spent with
my worst girlfriendWEW LAD!!! Now I can't decide which one was the worst. My "love" life despite my best efforts has generally been rife with despair. Back then, there was no internet to alert me to the perils of narcissism and hypergamy. Regardless, my experiences with the "fairer sex" were consistently bad enough that I did begin to recognize the patterns. (Sometimes, the Red Pill is a suppository.)
>I finally met someone more humane who has the capacity for empathy, we've been together for 30+ years, married for most of that time.
So back to the time-perception thing. Those aforementioned 30 years seem to have gone by rather quickly, it does not even seem possible that much time has expired. But in the depths of my failed relationships with my worst girlfriends, a matter of 3 months or 3 years felt much longer. Much longer.
>That's what she said
Those 3 years with the runner-up felt like 30 at the time, and we were not even together every day. We were apart a lot (between both of us working, and her having family out of town.) Even so, she reveled in deliberately dealing long-lasting emotional damage and made the most of the time she had (and still seeks me out on occasion decades later attempting to make things worse.)
I can barely get my head around that: how does that 3 years (or less) feel like it went on longer than the 30 years afterward? The only explanation I have is the perception of time that maturity brings, unless unpleasantry just seems to occupy more time than tolerable time.
>tl;dr A narcissistic female with a Hypergamy Hobby can not only wreck your life, but make the whole experience feel like it took much longer to happen than it actually did.
Prayers for your mom. Sorry about your girl. If she can’t take this, so be it. You’ll find someone who will stand by you.
Please keep us updated on your mom. We’re pulling for you.
azithromycin ( z pack) and hydroxychloroquine saved my uncle - talk to your doctors about it
Don't forget the Zink.
this. ventilators arent the answer.
Prayers for a good recovery for your Mom.
If they need to put her on a ventilator (I hope not) make sure you discuss with the MD if they can place her on her stomach. Thats a big help. Prayers Pede.
supplemental O2 is better than a vent.
Damn G... Hope things get better for us soon. Hope mom pulls through too.
You and your mother are in our prayers.
And don't be surprised if your "GF" resurfaces. She sounds like the type.
So think about it before you take her back.
And then think about it again.
Get your mom on azithromycin ( z pack) and hydroxychloroquine (plus zinc) . Did they put her on this already? If not - YOU MUCH HASSLE your doctor to get her on it... today. Today. TODAY.
The girl is gone. You are lucky she's gone. Girl's don't like "bad drama" that doesn't please them - so they leave. You might not know it, but you are way better off without her, obviously.
Ouch. That sucks, man. I’ll keep you and your mother in my prayers.
Talk to the Doctor about HCQ, Z pack and zinc. Maybe get another opinion as far as the ventilator goes, I'm not a Dr but i have read that DR'S are warning that Ventilator pressure is being set too high causing severe damage and that High O2 is what needs to be happening instead.
She was the wrong girl for you. Prayers sent for your Mother and you.
You have this. I don't know you but I do. You have this. Good job my soldier.
Do not let this worthless bottom-feeder steal any thoughts from your mom right now. You need to pack that shit away tight and deal with it later. Right now you need to be 100% present for your mom. I will pray for her. God forbid these are your last days with her and you can’t spend them fully in her presence because you’re preoccupied with some floozy. Love your mom completely right now or you might regret it for the rest of your life.
There are better women in the world. The ones who kick you when you’re down are the same ones that would make terrible cold cruel mothers. You need a warm and loving girl. You’ll find her.
This is good advice. The best.
>Do not let this worthless bottom-feeder steal any thoughts from your mom right now.
>Right now you need to be 100% present for your mom.
Absolutely. ^ If you don't do this ^ you could be setting yourself up for major regret. Do not let a self-obsessed ho distract you from paying proper attention to your Mom at a time like this.
Hey pede! I just prayed for your mom, hope she recovers fast!
<3 <3 <3
Stay strong! I was there too!
#PoundMeToo, everything OP says there feels way too familiar (having experienced and observed much the same, far too often.)
prayers for your mom.
Hoping your mom heals and gets home soon and you can be with her. Your ex just gave you the time you need to spend with mom. Mom will appreciate it more than you can know.
It;s good you learned how selfish she is now. Feel relief and freedom from her. You will find another. You'll never find another Mom though so put your focus there. I will pray for you.
most women are just looking for a good time. it's hard to find one that actually cares about you.
but what you absolutely don't do is beg or plead or guilt them it just makes you look pathetic.
you have to remain stoic don't text them a lot and if they fail to hang out you ghost them and find a new girl.
you repeat this till you find one worth marrying then you can worry about emotional support.
sorry about your mom hope she gets better.
Prayers for you and your mom.
May not seem like it right now, but you are better off without a girlfriend like that. You don't need a cold bitch like her in your life.
Concentrate on your mother now. Girlfriends that betray you are a dime a dozen. EDIT: Prayers for you and your mother.
FUCK THAT BITCH. Time to nut up and be on point. Stay sane and healthy for mama and the prosperity and future of the family . Rise TJ the occasion, you’re and American god dammit
I’m sorry my friend. I will pray for your mother and you. What’s important is focusing on your health and mental well being. Growing stronger in a period when your most vulnerable will help you grow. Good luck. If it makes you feel better. I was in the same space you were three years ago. Albeit different circumstances, but I can look back and see that God had a plan for me and it was balanced.
God bless you and your mom. Demand that she be given hydro/zpak/zinc combination and forget about the bitch. She's not worth it. Good luck.
It's not a bad thing to have things go wrong when you are getting to know someone.
It shows you how they act when things go wrong.
Things are guaranteed to go wrong sometme in your life with a woman. Find out early.
In fact, testing her with setbacks is something all men should do.
My frequent recommendation when people question the methods of my relationship longevity: take a long car trip together, as in going away somewhere the two of you will be overnight or longer. Not with friends or family (yet,) but just that new couple out there away from the convenience of the "safety nets."
Not that I'm wishing a "National Lampoon's Vacation" type of experience on anyone. But... even a short road trip for a night or 2 together gives the potential to see how someone reacts when a situation goes wrong (or more importantly, how you react together in the face of adversity.) Even if one thinks all the bases are covered any number of things beyond your control can go awry at random, from car or tire problems, lost/locked-away car keys, ATM cards not working properly.
And that whole exercise is not to see how much fun you have together, it's about finding out how well the two of you solve unexpected problems individually or as a couple. This is more important than you think, because in a long-term relationship it is folly to think nothing will ever go wrong, no emergencies or schedule conflicts, no unpleasant surprises. Some have better luck than others, some create adversity for themselves purposefully or not, or even make matters worse just because this is how they are programmed to react.
This is exactly how I knew my spouse was wife material, although I didn't do this test on purpose at the time. When things went awry on our early vacations, she was level-headed and concentrated on the problem at hand rather than going off on an attention-seeking tantrum (or worse yet take it out on me, as would be typical in any of my previous failed relationships.) Those experiences were a good indicator of how well she would handle life's unavoidable challenges and disappointments in the future. I've been very fortunate to have someone with these attributes, because 30 years of the opposite would feel like centuries rather than going by as fast as it seemed.
just the type of response I was hoping to find.
I see you too are a man of culture.
Thank you <3 <3 <3 That is a very valuable compliment : )
I don't necessarily dispense unsolicited advice, people really do frequently ask me "the secret" in sustaining a long-term relationship/marriage due to the relatively peaceful/cheerful/apparently trouble-free manner we conduct ourselves as a couple. I only volunteer counseling or advice to couples/individuals when their issues are so troublesome and the causes so obvious that I feel the need to try to help before things get any worse for them. (I say "try," because those problem-producing misbehaviors are deeply ingrained and it often results in one, the other, or both of them going off on me in the same rude entitled manner as they do to each other.)
Finding a compatible logically-minded partner who does not blow insignificant matters out of proportion is not a plus, it's a must if you want consistent peaceful coexistence. A partner who considers the consequences of their actions (and the rights & feelings of other people) also goes a long way. Even better is a partner who avoids unnecessary vanity and petty jealousy issues.
All of these qualities should be obvious attributes one should seek in a long-term relationship, because any one of those parameters being out-of whack can negate all the others being in order. Suppose everything else is "perfect," but he/she has a tendency to be rude in public or make a noisy scene for no valid reason. Maybe he/she has a tendency to say/do emotionally hurtful things, with no consideration for the long-term effects. Anything gone wrong on that wish-list can turn into a serious problem in the long run.
Obviously, many people survive marriages and long-term relationships for decades with none of those attributes in place. But that sort of existence is far from trouble-free, and that level of stress is not good for you. Just because you can have a relationship with someone doesn't mean you should, or that it is a good thing for either person long-term. Also, if a potential partner has extreme drug/alcohol issues this can either cause or worsen bad situations (and this applies to being a fellow substance-abuser as well as a teetotaler. Either both people will be whacked-out and no one knows where that will lead, or the sober person is distressed by a partner who gets blackout-wasted and denies/doesn't remember what transpired the night before.)
Example: A former work-mate's girlfriend broke up with him in a huge huffy tiff (via text messages, of course) while we were on an out-of-town job that had been planned for months. (Not just moved out, she left town completely.) Although their "relationship" was rocky and this had been coming for a long time, she used this crime-of-opportunity as an excuse to keep him distracted and ineffective while we were trying to work, knowing full well the importance of our assignment & the danger of our work environment (and our dire need to have him at 100% capacity, paying full attention to detail.) She accomplished what she intended to do, via the remote-control device in her cellphone: he went on a drinking binge and not only made expensive mistakes, but threw all pretense of safety practices to the wind. This only got worse when we got home: although he usually blamed her daily antagonistic deliberately stress-inducing rudeness for his inattention and heavy drinking, we had not yet seen the depths of his degeneracy. Between not showing up for work (or showing up blackout-wasted on pills + booze, no middle ground) he was fired, because he went from barely acceptable to completely useless. I would have never predicted that separating those two would actually make the situation worse, but there they go.
The moral there: any casual observer could look at that situation and see that neither of them are suitable long-term relationship material. If you put two extreme narcissists together, neither one having any capacity to admit wrongdoing- nor capacity to consider the consequences of their actions- that "relationship" will most likely result in daily outbursts of strife so intense that it affects everyone around them. I lost count of how many times the police had to show up to break up their fights. Everyone dreaded seeing them in public together, because that was the countdown to a noisy embarrassing incident. Of course this was not a problem for them because they do not understand tact and manners, thus they felt no shame at inflicting this disruption on everyone within earshot (or police radio.) A sensible person would heed the Red Flags that were obvious from the first time they met, and run from the possibility of spending ten years in that sort of situation. But... these are not sensible people.
>Spoiler alert: Those two are both screeching TDS cases, some of the noisiest anti-Trumpers I know. And... both of them have had felonies thus aren't eligible to vote. These may be the only things they had in common, apart from their drug/alcohol habits.
Anyway : ) I sort of went on there about the right way/wrong way stuff. (oops)
I was fortunate to have been raised by strict Christian parents who were also funny/interesting people. There has been very little divorce in my extended family, very little drinking and no drug problems that I know of. These are the examples I grew up with, so the things I see going downhill in our society are especially obvious. Most of my failed relationships were with girls who did not come from that sort of environment, or if they did, rebelled against it. This was my introduction to narcissism and deceptive/disruptive "behavior," and it took quite a few misfires to figure out these bizarre self-centered attitudes. Because I had been taught to treat others in a kind compassionate manner, I wrongly assumed this would be the case with relationships and society in general. Flattening that learning curve was a long and tedious process.
Therefore I try to help people if I can, so that they can avoid the pitfalls of an obviously flawed long-term relationship that is doomed before it starts. (And of course I advise against drug/alcohol abuse, because that can bring a whole new level of difficulty.) Most often, I'm trying to nudge them toward the idea of considering the future, and how actions in the present can affect ones' life for many years to come.
wow that was a great essay, you should save it so you can easily share with young people.
I always feel weird when I read posts on r/sex by young people who were raised in the church and then rebelled and think that they are better off living without a spiritual basis. It makes me wonder what their parents/church did to turn them off Christianity, and what will happen to them without a compass.
Thank you again <3 <3 <3
I don't know if many people read all this stuff, it's still worth it to me anyway if it helps someone : )
I'm using a desktop computer with a yuge monitor (yay old-school) A lot of people use a phone for internet thus will only read text-message sized comments etc, but there are also still people who do read longer/more involved stuff and that's who I'm here for : )
>I am disabled/retired so I rarely leave the house unless I must. This quarantine panic has affected me very little. Just a regular day for me! : )
And that's why I tend to ramble a bit and seem to be here 24-7, I spend most of my waking hours here doing this : )
#PoundMeToo, I am not a church-goer at all but most of my family is pretty devout. The only part of my religious upbringing that stuck with me is the conscience/compassion/empathy stuff, which to me is just common sense that those practices would lead to a more peaceful and productive life as well as better relations with one's spouse and the people we deal with in public, be that friends or strangers.
On the other hand: most of the arch-Leftist Democrat screechers I know personally also had a similar upbringing in a religious household, and those people are hell-bent for debauchery. Whatever is bad for society and normalcy (open borders, socialism, rampant promiscuity, abortion, Drag Queen Story Hour, Leftist Agenda in general) those people are pushing as hard as they possibly can. They seem to get this giddy glee over doing anything subversive, and I have been observing this since the 1970s. The crowd I'm referring to were the local prototypes for the modern disruptive cry-bully SJW misbehavior we see today.
Why did they turn out so different? I have no idea. Those Leftist/Democrat activists in question are the most amoral people I know personally, very deceptive and untrustworthy. Obviously watching things go badly for them as a result was a strong motivator for me to conduct myself in a more proper manner, and encourage others to do so also. (And this also applies to my stance on alcohol/substance abuse.)
Thank you again for the encouragement <3 <3 <3
Hugs and love for you, my Friend. I am so sorry!! Please let us know how you and your mother are doing - I am praying for you now <3
^ This! ^ <3 <3 <3
You dodged a divorce rape if that shit had gotten serious. Hope your mom gets through. Make sure you use that right to try if you're in one of those retard states that only gives HCQ to corpses.
Be thankful this happened now. She was probably cheating on you. Find a good Christian woman, have 6 kids, be happy, enjoy life.
Wow, seriously epic bad day of all time. On the upside the girlfriend does not sound like a keeper. Will pray for your mom and wish the best, that is super tough.
Prayers for your mom.
Hold fast, you dodged a huge bullet. Be glad this happened before you got any more serious. My prayers are with your mother.
I hope your mom gets better! Whatever you do, DO NOT take your girlfriend back!! I guarantee she will call or text to ask you back. Don’t take the bait! You deserve better. Go to church and find a nice girl.
^ THIS THIS THIS!!! ^ This guy gets it! ^
Write it on your arm with a sharpie or something! DO EET
Take care of your Mom.Don't worry about a shallow woman.
the last thing on your mind should be a girlfriend. pray for your mother to make it through this and stay strong!
Sad as it sounds by just reading... If you depend upon another person, prepare for disappointment,
That’s a heartless bitch, bro. I’m sure it’s hard to see at the moment but she did you a huge favor. You are better than her and deserve better. Take some time to heal but don’t dwell on it too long.