You're both very lucky. My husband has a severe tbi from a motorcycle crash. You don't want that shit no matter your age. He's extremely high functioning but it still ruined so much of his life. Our life. We make the best of it.
Sorry to hear thats terrible, my uncle hit a deer coming around a bend maybe a decade or so ago, he got fucked up an was in a coma for a few days but he's probably 99 percent back to normal, im sure theres complications but private things he doesnt share im guessing. It's really just fucking luck when you dump a bike, I've dumped a few dirt bikes at a low speed an that fucked me up so I know its rough.
Yes, to the naked eye, my husband seems back to normal. People have known us for years without even suspecting it. But he's not normal. And he's also incredibly lucky. His grandparents have an absurd amount of money and made sure no stone was left unturned for his recovery. Even now they help us financially so we can live a very comfortable lifestyle. There are many things that become incredibly expensive and complicated once you enter the TBI world. We're also lucky because he's incredibly intelligent and had a good engineering job at a large aerospace company. He's now switching to the software field which is even better paying and has more opportunities to work from home. He has epilepsy and many other issues that make driving more than a few minutes to work a huge problem.
Most people with TBI are not nearly as lucky and as well supported as we are. If people knew what I know about TBI, they probably wouldn't risk a motorcycle. It's not just your own life you're risking. You're committing your children and spouses to that life, too.
Some women I know have coped by having a funeral for the man that is gone. Because no matter how lucky you are, there is no going back to the person you used to be.
Yeah TBI's are intense, my uncle had about 3 years of severe memory loss, over those three years he slowly got better an better. The brain is truly a strange thing, I really don't understand it because it seems like some can recover almost back to normal an some just have to adjust to a living dealing with it for the rest of their life. I can't imagine having to deal with such an injury and also I cant imagine falling in love with someone an them changing forever because of an accident and its no longer the same person you loved. Having a funeral for them even though they survived to cope is incredible ive never heard of anyone doing that, that's truly sad.
I've been retired for about seven years now and I retired early so I'm still young enough to feel confident in my riding abilities. I don't ride nearly as much now as I did when I was commuting though. Mostly short cruises into town or some twisty rides on the many two lane roads that wind through the forest here. I have a BMW R1150GS so I will explore some of the unpaved logging roads too. I've always managed to keep the rubber side down as well, and so far have avoided t-boning Bambi.
Be careful on those fire roads when you get into the marbles. Even with a very low center of gravity it's easy for a wheel to come out from under you when traction is limited.
Back when I was commuting, I also had a dirt bike and I was lucky enough that I could just push open my front gate, kick the thing and go riding for hours. I'm convinced that hours of off road riding greatly improved my street skills and reactions.
Same here, fellow Calif Pede.
I commuted on a bike for years, doing a 140 mile round trip ride every day.
No asphalt surfing despite So Cal drivers trying to kill me every chance they got.
I'm not quite retired but getting ready to, don't know if I'll keep riding in my very old age.
Good on you for surviving all those years on a bike in So Cal traffic. Be safe out there, a deer can seriously ruin your day.
You're both very lucky. My husband has a severe tbi from a motorcycle crash. You don't want that shit no matter your age. He's extremely high functioning but it still ruined so much of his life. Our life. We make the best of it.
Sorry about your husband.
Sorry to hear about your husband's injury.
Riding is definitely much more dangerous than driving a car but for me it's one of the best forms of mental therapy.
I wish you, your husband and you family the best of luck.
Sorry to hear thats terrible, my uncle hit a deer coming around a bend maybe a decade or so ago, he got fucked up an was in a coma for a few days but he's probably 99 percent back to normal, im sure theres complications but private things he doesnt share im guessing. It's really just fucking luck when you dump a bike, I've dumped a few dirt bikes at a low speed an that fucked me up so I know its rough.
Yes, to the naked eye, my husband seems back to normal. People have known us for years without even suspecting it. But he's not normal. And he's also incredibly lucky. His grandparents have an absurd amount of money and made sure no stone was left unturned for his recovery. Even now they help us financially so we can live a very comfortable lifestyle. There are many things that become incredibly expensive and complicated once you enter the TBI world. We're also lucky because he's incredibly intelligent and had a good engineering job at a large aerospace company. He's now switching to the software field which is even better paying and has more opportunities to work from home. He has epilepsy and many other issues that make driving more than a few minutes to work a huge problem.
Most people with TBI are not nearly as lucky and as well supported as we are. If people knew what I know about TBI, they probably wouldn't risk a motorcycle. It's not just your own life you're risking. You're committing your children and spouses to that life, too.
Some women I know have coped by having a funeral for the man that is gone. Because no matter how lucky you are, there is no going back to the person you used to be.
Yeah TBI's are intense, my uncle had about 3 years of severe memory loss, over those three years he slowly got better an better. The brain is truly a strange thing, I really don't understand it because it seems like some can recover almost back to normal an some just have to adjust to a living dealing with it for the rest of their life. I can't imagine having to deal with such an injury and also I cant imagine falling in love with someone an them changing forever because of an accident and its no longer the same person you loved. Having a funeral for them even though they survived to cope is incredible ive never heard of anyone doing that, that's truly sad.
TBI might be one of the worst things. Its like CTE except you didnt get paid a professional athlete salary to compensate for it.
I've been retired for about seven years now and I retired early so I'm still young enough to feel confident in my riding abilities. I don't ride nearly as much now as I did when I was commuting though. Mostly short cruises into town or some twisty rides on the many two lane roads that wind through the forest here. I have a BMW R1150GS so I will explore some of the unpaved logging roads too. I've always managed to keep the rubber side down as well, and so far have avoided t-boning Bambi.
You've got a very capable but heavy bike.
Be careful on those fire roads when you get into the marbles. Even with a very low center of gravity it's easy for a wheel to come out from under you when traction is limited.
Back when I was commuting, I also had a dirt bike and I was lucky enough that I could just push open my front gate, kick the thing and go riding for hours. I'm convinced that hours of off road riding greatly improved my street skills and reactions.
Have fun out there and keep the shiny side up!