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posted ago by trumancarol ago by trumancarol +90 / -0

I live in California. My dad just got taken to the emergency room. They won’t let me in to see him. Say there are no exceptions. Anyone out there in this wonderful state that has had to deal with this or any commie Fornia lawyers out there that might give me some advice?

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FudgyFudgeBots 8 points ago +8 / -0

If you can get cell phone in his hands, you can communicate that way. I know someone that put a cell.phone in thier mothers hand and it was on speaker for the daughter to hear what was going on and to be able to communicate with the staff. They usually dont take a patients phone away.

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Thingthing22 4 points ago +4 / -0

Turn video on too.

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based_unicorn 6 points ago +6 / -0

I’m so sorry, pede. I don’t have any suggestions, but I hope your dad is ok and gets out of the ER soon. My dad had many emergency room stays before he passed a couple of years ago and I can’t imagine not getting to be with him. I had to advocate for him with all of the doctors and nurses because he had dementia. I would have lost my shit if I couldn’t have been with him then. My heart goes out to you.

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trumancarol [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

Thanks! It does look like he's going to be okay as long as the COVID test comes back negative.

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txladyvoter 6 points ago +6 / -0

Angels be with you and your dad.

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trumancarol [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

Thank you!

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txladyvoter 1 point ago +1 / -0

Just ask them for help. Or you can ask them for someone else. And feel the peace of not being alone and your dad not being alone. God bless.

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leonine6 5 points ago +5 / -0

Getting a cell phone to him is the best solution. You need to be able to advocate for him.

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trumancarol [S] 3 points ago +3 / -0

Great advice. Unfortunately he’s not even capable of running a cell phone at this point it has never had one

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leonine6 1 point ago +1 / -0

I am really sorry to hear that. I am praying for his wellbeing and that the medical staff treats him as if he were their own.

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kalokagathia 4 points ago +4 / -0

Praying for your your dad and family, bud

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trumancarol [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Thanks!

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Unicron3 4 points ago +4 / -0

My sister here in Ohio recently had an emergency surgery at the Cleveland Clinic and the hospital wouldn't allow ANY visitors and couldn't even be bothered to make sure that I, the primary contact, knew how it went. Luckily she was able to call me later that night.

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whocaresguy420 2 points ago +3 / -1

There was a good band out of Kent called Unicron

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goingbigly 4 points ago +4 / -0

Say he’s your husband. If they say you can’t see them accuse them of being homophobic and anti gay. Liberals hate that.

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trumancarol [S] 4 points ago +4 / -0

I don’t think I could pull that off....plus they’ve already seen me and heard my protestations for a good 15 minutes...

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RK_TX 3 points ago +3 / -0

Thats how it is in every hospital i know of.

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victoryisusa 3 points ago +3 / -0

If he can speak ask the nurse to let him talk to you of course you will need another phone)

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runonce 3 points ago +4 / -1

You can see him when it can be done without you being in the way of the people that are helping him. It's difficult to comprehend when you are worried but it's the best for him. (I was in healthcare at a level one trauma center for years. It's a normal occurrence and natural reaction)

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trumancarol [S] 5 points ago +5 / -0

This is simply because of COVID-19 he’s not in any immediate danger. They are running a bunch of tests he was not doing well this afternoon.

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AngelMark 3 points ago +3 / -0

I think the delicate geniuses (docs) aren't letting anyone see patients because of COVID. Wait until they get the word it has a 99.89% survival rate!

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Ilanna 2 points ago +2 / -0

As of right now, in Arizona you can only have someone in the hospital with you if you are a minor. No exceptions.

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trumancarol [S] 1 point ago +1 / -0

Thanks everyone for the comments. I appreciate it. Dad (who is 89) has pneumonia and was tested for COVID-19. We will hear back on the COVID test tomorrow.

I was able to make many attempts to get in via advice from an attorney friend of mine, but to no avail. The basic line was: "Doesn't matter what our policy says [we were at Kaiser], the state's policy overrides that." Kaiser's policy states (as updated on May 1, 2020) that a person with cognitive issues can have one relative with them in the emergency room. Not relevant, apparently. Very frustrating. My worst experience with bureaucracy ever. I don't expect they were very happy with me either.