Reaching out in fear of my next move if I'm pushed the right way. The waves of life that bring in the horrible side of being away from your children and hating your ex so bad that you think sometimes of doing the deed just to get her away from them. I'm at my Breaking Point with her and it's costing me to be acting like an a wounded animal or in a position where I have to use my fixed blade then punch holes and somebody just to stay alive. I'm beyond suicide just now a possible vigilant mode. Please feel free to comment. criticize or whatever it may be just nothing but the truth. You guys and this family here is a preserver for a man over overboard. Thank you all.
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this is true...i have no problem with this. thank you for this.
19Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. 20Therefore
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”
21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
now how can i rationalize this...thank you
Whew. That's alot pede. I myself have been in a situation similar. Whatever you do, do not do anything stupid that will forever ruin you relationship with your children. Keep a journal of things you're doing with your kids, things that she's doing to you/kids, what you've been paying for and what not. You can't let life beat you right now. There are some little ones that do need you even though you might not see that. I was fortunate enough to do things I've told you about and was granted custody of my to boys in '05. Sometimes family court does work for the fathers.
Stop. Breathe.
Think. Think of your kids.
There's always a solution. I truly believe that.
EDIT: I will keep you and your family in mind in my prayers.
thank you...prayers are needed
Done but will continue to pray. You're welcome.
Knowing you're accompanied/not alone, I think, helps.
i must say this is a wonderful place to come...incredible how close i feel to everyone on this site here and everyone willing to stop and help a fren in need...only if those across the isle knew just what goes on here is organic with the truth on our side leading us in victory after victory. thank you pede. Isaiah 6:8.
I was in a similar situation and received a very stern lecture when I called my mom in a horrible mental state. She told me, in no uncertain terms, that my immediate situation was not about me, my soon to be ex, or our relationship - it was about my children. She said she understood my incredible frustration but within an hour she had helped me mentally refocus.
The love you have for your children probably adds a ton to your feelings of helplessness and desperation. Try to focus on the well being of your kids, and get some counseling. I don't even remember what me and our marriage counselor discussed when she gave me an emergency session. I do know that I went through a box of Kleenex in an hour and left her office with a bit more optimism about the future.
That was about 20 years ago. My kids and I are extremely close and my ex and I moved from enemies, to co-parents to a point where we are now friends.
There is a brighter future, but you have to be patient to get there. Hang in there, Fren.
thank you
Sorry you are going through this, Pede. Sometimes life just sucks.
If you can't facetime or talk to your childen on the phone and your ex won't grab the correspondence, drop them a post card in mail every day or two.
Kids love to get mail.
If the court system is involved, make sure all involved know that keeping in touch with your children is the most important thing in your life.
Write things down. Things that make you mad, things that make you sad, things that make you happy. It actually will make you feel better.
Plan ahead for the time you will have with your children. Figure out if you'd take them to the beach, the lake, a park, camping, bike riding, whatever.
Go buy whatever ice cream/candy you liked as a child. Or the flavor you never got to have. Seriously, it sounds dumb but it will take your mind off things for a minute.
Don't give your ex any extra power over your life, your kids life, or your future. Grit your teeth and get through it.
Seriously, guys get fucked by the court system in most places. Yup, it's wrong and shouldn't happen but it does.
thank you
Everyday is another chance for things to turn around. You have a bright future at your fingertips!
i appreciate fren