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posted ago by PartandParcel ago by PartandParcel +100 / -0

Dear Pedes,

One of my best friendships is at stake. We disagree on almost everything. I have very few close friends but I have lost one of them due to politics. I wont bend the knee so to speak. I cant sacrifice my morale commitment to what I consider real. I am not willing to join clown world.I want my buddy back.

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definitelyright 16 points ago +16 / -0

Don't compromise your values.

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PartandParcel [S] 8 points ago +8 / -0

I know pede. And I wont do that. But because of that Im going to lose one of my best friends.I would do anything for this guy. But I cant sacrifice my values.I cant budge. I used to be a liberal a while ago. I just cant sacrifice what I know.

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definitelyright 5 points ago +5 / -0

Yup, same situation, quite a few are effectively gone. It'll be alright in the long run - if they're a real friend they will come around, hopefully with better insight that they have now.

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BarrBQ 11 points ago +11 / -0

I have a lifelong (30+ years) friend who disagrees with me on just about everything. Politics, faith, social issues, fiscal policy. We have been going back and forth about Trump for 3 years (I was late to the MAGA party) and we've been going back and forth about Jesus for 20. Our friendship has never been strained because we respect each other.

If you friend is willing to sacrifice your friendship, he does not respect you. It sucks, and it's hard, but it's true. He values his belief system more than he values you, and his belief system requires that he abandon your friendship.

Standing up for what you believe is harder than standing up for what everyone else believes. Stay strong!

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AslanFan 6 points ago +6 / -0

^^This...

And, I would say that what he's believing is not even really his "belief system"...which makes it worse. It's simply what he's been led to believe for the moment.

Sometimes, people leave our lives to make room for someone who is better for us.

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Side-o-Beef_Curtains 6 points ago +6 / -0

Remember the 80's and 90's when it was totally common to have close friendships with people that had differing opinions and nobody made a big deal out of it?

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George 7 points ago +7 / -0

Why don't you two come to agreement to put aside your political beliefs and stay friends?

I get that can be hard sometimes, but lost friendships are always rough.

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cornpopsleghair 6 points ago +6 / -0

Sorry to hear that Pede. This community stands with you and loves you! I know it’s not easy. I’ve been estranged from some of my family over politics for awhile now. Never bend the knee!

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Proud_American 5 points ago +5 / -0

Buddy is gone. Don’t trip.

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bukkake 6 points ago +6 / -0

This, exactly this. Some lefties are just too dumb to see the light. Stupidity is all they know.

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tonysoprano 5 points ago +5 / -0

Stay strong, pede. I haven't outright lost anyone, but I have strained relationships with both friends and family, including a sister. You're on the right side. You only have to look at what's currently happening in our country to affirm that. I'm hoping with time, it will become apparent to all.

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entERmyMAtrix 2 points ago +2 / -0

You have all of us!

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Winner2020 2 points ago +2 / -0

Hang in there, for what it's worth, you're not alone, and you are among friends here! I come from an extremely leftist family. My parents, my older brother and younger sister haven't spoken to me or my little brother since May 2016. I've lost "friends" as well. Yet, I'm quite happy. If anything, I feel bad for them, living in misery and hate.

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thelastlast 2 points ago +2 / -0

he'll come back. mine came back. just sit back in the cut as his side gets more and more insane, he'll come back with hat in hand. dont rub it in, save that for antifags you dont know.

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EpstinDidntKilHimslf 1 point ago +1 / -0

Read the book "Never Split The Difference" by Chris Voss. He's considered by many to be the best negotiator in the world and shows you how to get your thoughts to others in a way that changes their beliefs and actions. It's fucking rad. Look him up on YouTube too, he's really big right now.

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newpede 1 point ago +1 / -0

They will watch you get killed or do it themselves when the purity test come. Doubt me?

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Comntrinchief 1 point ago +1 / -0

Have you tried asking them to not talk with you about politics?

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308win 1 point ago +1 / -0

Lost brothers I have shed blood with over this bullshit this past week. Serve the country with great men and I thought nothing could break our bond....boy was I wrong.

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Maxmax 1 point ago +1 / -0

Sometimes you lose friends along the way...but, new ones with new experiences come along. Don’t compromise your values, remember the good times, but it’s life telling you to move on.

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Jermzdee 1 point ago +1 / -0

I know the hardship. Argue with one of my best friends daily.