First, I would want to get to know someone as a friend first & figure out their personality/what they want from life. Like if they want kids-that’s a no go (since I don’t) as an example.
Then if compatibility looks good and things begin to get serious does the sexual stuff begin.
Help them figure out what they want sexually?
Yep.
So are you saying if you are with a girl and have sex with her and you don't quite enjoy it then you might not want to marry her?
Or am I misinterpreting or misunderstanding you?
First, I would want to get to know someone as a friend first & figure out their personality/what they want from life. Like if they want kids-that’s a no go (since I don’t) as an example.
Then if compatibility looks good and things begin to get serious does the sexual stuff begin.