This is a serious post. I have been a long time lurker of T_D (since 2016). I have voted conservative since the day I turned 18 and have been employed since I was 16. 20 years later, everyone around me at work and in my personal life is a cucked liberal, brainwashed by leftist mass media. The only exception being my wife, who has also always been a hard worker and proudly conservative. My wife is not white. Aside from her, T_D has been the only other place I could turn to maintain sanity these past 4 years, and just lurking and reading posts/comments was enough to do that.
I’ve always been even handed towards people throughout my life regardless of their skin color and have always treated people equally. That is how my conservative parents were, and that’s how they raised me. My wife never, ever had an issue with me being white. But lately (starting less than a month ago) that’s changed, despite us being together for 10 years. She now tells me she hates the fact that I’m white. She used to believe all races contained racists, and now it’s just white people.
My wife watches the news (mass media) every day, and when I asked her tonight about the Nascar noose and what she thought of it, she hadn’t even heard it was a hoax (or at best a false claim). Remember, she watches the news everyday, including today. I tried explaining that the FBI investigation came up negative, didn’t want to hear it. Tried showing her the video of the garage tour of Talladega from 2017, showing the pull strings beside every door - didn’t want to look at it.
I am not asking for marital advice from you patriots, but I am curious if anyone out there in an interracial marriage/relationship is suddenly experiencing new tension in their relationship due to the mass media promoting and propagating racial tension. I don’t have anywhere else to turn.
Thanks for hearing me out. God bless you all and God bless America. Trump 2020.
Let your wife experience her emotions. That’s what wives like to do. If anything, you should engage her on the topic (without cucking, of course, she married a man for a reason), ask her all kinds of opinion questions, and explore the personal and communal feelings. She’ll enjoy being the “expert” for awhile, instead of having to listen to your endless opinions (c’mon, admit it)...
...and she’ll end up red-pilling herself. Meanwhile you can just enjoy talking about her favorite subject: how great she is for being her. And she is special, that’s why you married her!
And think of all the fun you’ll have slowly sneaking in those red-pill questions, as you look at other diverse opinions... Candace Owens, the disenchanted BLM volunteers, Kanye, those two twin guys with the big smiles, etc. What drives racism? Who sold the slaves in the first place? Why would BLM support the architects of systemic racism? Why do black ladies get so jelly of other ladies’ with white BFs? It all leads back to the fact that you two transcend petty race politics and dangerous hate and probably the world would be a better place if more people were like the two of you, right sweetie? etc...
Remember women’s moods are like the tides, constantly changing, never the same, but always returning to a similar point. Don’t get bogged down in a bad spot and just roll with the ebb and flow.
Whatever happens, you can guarantee it will die down after the election as the media groupthink sends out something new to dwell on.
Thanks this is really good advice that I needed to hear. I have never cucked to her and I do believe I’ve always had more of her respect because of it. That being said, I do admit when I’m wrong, but God as my witness I will die before ever thinking for a second I’m wrong about this.
Being calm, understanding, patient, and good-humored goes a long way with women. Guys can lose sight of that sometimes, we always want to be correct and helpful, when they just want someone who is pleasant to be around and available to yell at and get mad at and have dinner with and laugh at things.
Then again, they’ll drive ya nuts, too, and there’s just no fixin’ ‘em crazy.
Hey! I resemble that remark!
My son is in an interracial relationship. At first his girlfriend said color should not matter and that she was always drawn to white men because black men did not treat their women well..not my words hers..she joked that she was the oreo in her family..Now since the George Floyd protests..she decided it was her calling to participate in these protests..I protested because I said they turn violent and BLM is not about George Floyd..long story short..she has gone full blown BLM..and has brought my son in the fray with her.. I try to stay out of it but I have to say she has changed and is encouraged by her family to participate in these protests..which she claims have always been peaceful..I disagree,,I do not think I could ever look at her the same way as before..colorblind.
Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you’re pretty much going through the same thing as me. Guess we just have to hope people snap back to their senses when the media gives them the next biggest distraction.
That is why I responded to you..it does sound like we are experiencing something very similar. I hope they do come to their senses..because to me it feels as if race relations are going in the wrong direction, since I know as a country and a person I haven't seen it this bad in many many years..sad. Best of Luck to you. MAGA!
Likewise Patriot, MAGA!
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Hispanics are white too.I hate when people act like they're a minority when it all traces back to just a different part of Europe.
If you hate 'beaners' you're not racist you're ethnocentric.
Thanks, I did decide right before I posted my story that I’m going to have to give her the silent treatment. Just gonna have to see if the color of my skin really matters that much to her.
I am sorry your wife is developing into a racist.
The exact type of racism is well known. It is the racism of the oppressed or those they believe they are. They seek an enemy, usually another race. This race is oppressing them.
A famous example of this is Nazism. Wait you might ask isn’t that Nationalism and belief that they’re superior.
That’s later stage. Initially it started as the Germany people be oppressed by Jewish people and other European.
You can actually see this evolving with black nationalist. In fact they have a religion around it. Black Islam or the Nation of Islam. Go look at what they believe. Look at what religion nazis we’re trying to make.
Moving on. What you can do.
Ask her why only white people are racist.
Then talk about current slavery in Africa. In the Middle East. In China. The concentration camps in China. How they treat black people. The racist laws in these countries including immigration. How white countries are the most diverse and give them most foreign aid by far.
Asian countries have almost no diversity. African countries have almost no diversity. Mexico has laws that prevent people from buying land and even racial population requirements.
Her comments are based on ignorance. Her lack of understanding other countries and compassion for other people is obvious. Ignoring actual genocides.
Does she not care about other people at all? Because that is what she is saying when she says only white people are racist. When a white person is killed because of their race, there are stats on anti white hate crimes she is co-signing on it.
You can seek couples counseling. You can even talk about the issue. You can say “One of us believes it’s okay to kill someone because of their race and the other disagrees with that.”
Let’s see what the counselor says.
I agree with your main point. The problem with counselling with an issue like this is that I would need to be absolutely sure that our counsellor would be politically unbiased, and I would bet dollars to donuts if I shot a cannon ball at counselling HQ in my city I would hit nothing but liberals.
Most counselors should be trained in how to speak to people and understand where they’re coming from.
I know someone in a similar situation and the “woke” therapist pointed out the issues with it.
You should speak your feelings and let her know how you feel when she does that. How does she like it when people label her because of her ethnic background? I assume Asian.
I hope you resolve it but counseling can help. You need to get the language down. There are other issues at play.
She should study history and look up the reality of life. Likes hard in your situation without outside help.
One thing you can do is when she says a racist statement ask her to explain it in detail. She needs to backup her claims and also realize it means when people experience racism by non white people she is taking away from that.
Thanks, I like the idea of having her explain in detail. I’ll try some more tactics like this and just hope time solves it. If not, then I will look into some sort of counselling. I appreciate the tips.
I thought that as well..listen to Candace and get another point of view..so many young blacks think this is really about George Floyd, not realizing they are being used as pawns for something more sinister.
I will check this out, thanks a ton.
Watch Farmlands by Lauren Southern with your wife if she believes whites are exclusively racist or that racism is a systemic problem in the US of A.
Thanks I will check this out too!
I still have faith she is not one of them. She has stood true to logic for the 10 years we’ve been together, after all. It’s not the first time the media has tried to create this monster. I believe her recent actions are due to the latest evolution of it being stronger and more ghastly than ever before. I’m sure she will come to her senses. But it’s definitely troubling to me. Thank you for your support, friend!
Anyone alive today is experiencing this ridiculous tension. Fuck commies. I hope you can being her back.
Thank you friend, I do believe this will blow over. I wonder how liberals are going to look back on it when it does?
They'll pretend they were on our side the whole time
Run to the hills, homie.
Edit: She hates you or pissed off about something that you literally can't change. You had a good run together.
You’re right, this was very good marital advice, and much appreciated. Thank you!