My friend of 25 years has a 20 year old daughter who posted how she never felt unsafe around a black person or gay person, but has around white men. My husband pointed our that the post is racist. She got all offended that my husband called her a racist and all hell has broken loose. They have all unfriended my husband. They are very left, we are very right leaning. I defended that my husband is struggling with all the anti white male sentiment, but no...you can't be racist against white people. The daughter did nothing wrong, is trying to find her voice. I am devastated that this friendship is crumbling, but I'm going to stand up for my husband. Anyone dealt with this?
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Similar. 25 years. To what seemed a simple and non hostile or argumentative response online.
It's done. Totally dead friendships.
And there will be MANY others they recruit to shun and de-person you too.
It was devastating and infuriating for me- and mind you I am barely towards the center on the left compared to the group of liberal/leftist friends who chose to decide I was suddenly evil.
The sooner you calmly stand your ground, back your husband, and quietly walk away the healthier it will be for your marriage and mental state.
They won't honestly allow you to try and explain or educate them anyways, so best to not put both of you through it.
Because the left are FAR WORSE than they were four and a half years ago when I went through this...
Sorry to hear that you went through the same. I am still processing it, but an feeling a bit better today. My husband tried to send an apology to the dad. He felt bad that he said anything at all. The dad pretty much lectured him, then suggest that they need to have "real" discussions about racism. Where can you even go with that? It's unfortunate that my friend has severe TDS and has conditioned her 20 and 23 year old to be activists.