Pedes, my entire family (parents, aunts, grandparents) is half conservative, half regressive. However, they’ve made it so I can’t see my grandparents, who likely have only a couple years left of living. When I’ve pressed my family, I’ve asked “what exactly are we waiting for before we can see each other again?”
I was told we’re waiting for a “medical breakthrough” and that any mistakes we made could kill my grandparents. I’m slowly slipping into a bit of a depression, and I’m a very optimistic guy, but I’m a family man. I know this “medical breakthrough” won’t ever REALLY come, because the media won’t let it . I miss my grandparents, specifically my grandfather, who is the head of the family, and someone who taught me what it means to be a man.
Point is, any advice on how to get family to open up to seeing each other again? Anyone gone through this before and had success?
Lol. That’s the funny part and I should have explained. They took my grandparents in to one of my aunts and uncles houses in March, and hasn’t let anyone see them since. I talk to my grandpa almost daily, and he wants to leave desperately, but is basically called “irresponsible” by the rest of the family for wanting so. If I showed up to the house, they literally just wouldn’t let me in. Maybe I could see them through a window. Maybe.
Gee, how old are you?
Find out where they are hiding your grandparents and go visit them
Lol. That’s the funny part and I should have explained. They took my grandparents in to one of my aunts and uncles houses in March, and hasn’t let anyone see them since. I talk to my grandpa almost daily, and he wants to leave desperately, but is basically called “irresponsible” by the rest of the family for wanting so. If I showed up to the house, they literally just wouldn’t let me in. Maybe I could see them through a window. Maybe.
Here in South Carolina that is called kidnapping
Wish I had advice, at this point I'm just trying to wait out their delusions so they still feel "safe" but the one I'm waiting on is not elderly so I don't have that to factor in. I did manage to get my older parents back in the family circle by simply visting them. They started out hesitant with masks in the yard, but by the end of the visit the masks were off and they were accepting hugs. The following visit they just came in the house like normal life again.
Man, I would love that outcome man. Maybe soon I can get there. Thanks for sharing.
Stand outside their window where they can see you while you talk on the phone. My mom went to visit my son this way, drove to his house and sat outside where they could see one another from his window to visit over the phone and it really encouraged both of them. They've since relaxed to regular unmasked visiting.
I have had the opposite experience (with elderly parents who binge watch msnbc)... I was planning on visiting them, they have been quarantined in a retirement community for months now and two weeks ago that was lifted, and I offered to take them to lunch. I was told I would have to wear a mask while I was with them. I said 'Ok I will wear a mask - but we are staying at your apartment then' (I am not taking my parents to a restaurant while wearing my Halloween horror mask) The next day, Maricopa County stated everyone needed to wear a mask in public.
I called my parents back to inform them that since the WuFlu is not over, I was not coming to visit because I was respecting their concern of getting it. I told them it says right on the box that these masks does not protect from virus' even when properly used. I told them that I had planned to wear a mask (in their house) out of respect for them, but not if there is really a threat. I am not taking health advise from some County 'officials'.
There’s a specific couple of family members of mine that think they are WHO or CDC officials. They spout off all the masks rules, surface contagiousness rules, wind rules, all this bullshit to appear as if they have authority....because they read a WHO or CDC article. It’s fucking sickening.
lol at the first line, but i feel your pain. I am going to offer a couple thoughts, but it is pointless because if they are like my family, they will ignore anything that doesn't come from the MSM. Maybe you should ask (in a non-sarcastic way), if the new rules apply to any disease that could be infectious or just to this one? How effective does the vaccine have to be? 100%? 60%? How safe does the vaccine have to be? 0% side-effects? 1% or no higher than the covid mortality rate .03%? Ask about how they are going to handle next flu season. And every one after that? Ask if dying from the flu is better than dying from Covid? Whatever arguments they used on you, now do the same to them, but with the flu. Lastly whenever possible point out the other risks or unsafe things they do. Proper diet, seatbelts, driving (even if you don't care about yourself what about the pedestrians? Is your driving to get StarCuck's worth the carnage your vehicle could inflict upon innocent bystanders?)
Like I said, all of that is pointless, because at their age, if they have not learned to think for themselves, it is probably too late.
Good Luck
Thanks man. This is exactly some of the exact stuff I’m doing. Like you’ve said, they just haven’t learned to think for themselves.
Have you considered telling them to wear a mask?
Apparently it magically stops Coronavirus, but not the fart from the guy in aisle 10.
you just got to get the band back together. my family just started getting seeing each other last week.
We tried to play by their rules for the last 3 or 4 months now with the "2nd wave" lock down everyone stopped caring. Share facts and logic.
It’s crazy sad. I hope you can convince the aunt and uncle to plan times for you to sit outside and enjoy a visit (baby steps). They better be “allowing” your grandparents fresh air!
Hang in there. Stupidity is rampant.