Don’t have fertility issues but was browsing my coverage for some other stuff and went down a rabbit hole. I have really really good health insurance that is probably better than 99% of Americans so I’m sure it’s true for everyone else. This is honestly super sad considering I have several coworkers that battled with infertility and spend THOUSANDS of dollars out of pocket to finally have their children. But they’ll pay for you to mutilate your body and even fly you to have the procedure done. Unbelievable.
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To be fair, we shouldn't be paying for invitro either. I could see the argument if the girl was 18-22 and it was a legitimate medical issue but we're already encouraging women to wait too long.
People are trying to turn health insurance into health welfare
Again, don’t blame all women. It’s hard especially in big cities like LA to find guys that age who want a relationship, let alone marriage. Blame Tinder and their endless supply of easy thots.
BINGO! Women put careers first then at 40 they say oh, I want kids, but they dont understand that their child baring years passed them by. At that age its so much harder to get pregnant and the chance of birth defects skyrockets. So what do they do, spend 100K of dollars on a 2-5% change of it working.
If these women were truly career goals based, then they should have had some of their eggs stored, then possibly used a surrogate to carry the child.
This is exactly what I’m doing, I’m 31, in a good relationship, but I went to freeze my eggs “just in case”. I can’t force my relationship to progress faster, you have to remember that the men in these situations have free will. Don’t put this all on us. A lot of men don’t want relationships or marriage these days, and ALL of my girlfriends do. They’re all having a hard time finding men who want to settle down. Then you turn around and blame us for “waiting” for something that was out of our control
I am mainly talking about those Marriages where they wait until they are "secure" financially or decided to just wait.
But I get what you are saying. Problem also is the MWGTOW "movement" too. These POS guys want to have it all but not commit. Well take away what they want and guess what, they gone and weren't worth it anyway. while people dont like to heat it, church is a good place to meet a lasting partner, as they understand what marriage is about and who sex is meant for.
Part of my problem with dating was not wanting to have early sex with men. So because if this I never had a serious relationship and finally just lost my virginity at age 28 to “get it over with”. in some ways it was prohibiting me from finding a long term partner. No one wanted to stick around long enough for me to develop real feelings before we had sex. Because these guys could easily go get laid by ordering a girl up like a pizza on tinder. So it pisses me off seeing so many men shaming women here for “waiting” til they got “old” as if it was a choice - men chose not to date me because I wouldn’t have sex with them without at least falling in love first. I had given up on the waiting until marriage thing a long time ago because I felt I’d never find a guy willing to wait and I was right. So then there I was still single and a Virgin at 28 all for nothing. And I get shamed for doing what I thought was the right thing. I didn’t “wait” to settle down because I wanted to hoe around first. Now I’m 31 and in a loving relationship and men here say that women in there 30s are expired goods. Well I’m sorry but I’m still very young and fertile. I’m also not going to rush my bf into marrying me too soon because that’s what causes divorce.