My sister married a black man, they had kids, everything was fine for twenty years. They married when I was 10, I’m 30 now. Obama became president and some of my relatives would hint to me at how her and her husband were obsessed with racism. I didn’t think anything of it.
I didn’t know what that meant. Myself, mother, and sister were all Democrats and relatives who saw what was going on were Republican. Trump wins in 16, I hated it, but noticed that black people, Hispanic people I knew for years, began talking about how all white people were racist. I began defending myself over and over again. One guy even wanted to fight me because he said I had white privilege. Then I start noticing my sister and her Husband post weird things on Facebook about white privilege and a pyramid of white supremacy.
I try talking to my sister, about how maybe not everything revolves around racism on Facebook. She freaks out on me calling me a white supremacist.
I don’t know what to say. So I don’t say anything for a few hours, I then think ‘fuck that’ and tell her that her obsession with racism isn’t healthy.
She flips out and tells me to “try serving someone other than myself” Maybe because I don’t have kids? Wow anyone have an idea what that means? She’s definitely not serving anyone by calling white people racist.
Anyways my mom was a hippie from the 60s. She’s very out of it about what’s going on in politics and is voting for Joe Biden. She says she doesn’t pay attention. I try to explain what is wrong with my sister, her husband and kids, and she just doesn’t get it. She was like I was. Saying that black people hate white people doesn't make sense to her.
She doesn’t know what that means. I know this hard for conservatives to understand who were always conservative. But Democrats really do just not get it. A lot of them. I was the same way until it starts coming for you.
Anyways I’ve always had a strained relationship with my mother. I’ve cut her off from my life several times for several crazy things she did. But now I’ve done it again because it just pisses me off that she can’t understand and won’t do anything about my sister. I will never speak to my sister or her family again. There was more stuff she said about white people to me that I could tell you but it would take too long. My sister basically thinks she’s gonna give this country to her half black kids and us white people are just gonna be second class citizens. (Also she’s a Democrat who works in politics at the city level.)
I feel bad about my mother, and don’t know what to do. But at the same time it’s like do you not give a shit about what I’m saying to you? It’s like I know she doesn’t understand but at the same time like FUCKING DO SOMETHING! I just can’t get over it, and it’s really bothering me.
Sorry to hear. But the idea that your mother can do anything about what a grown child, your sister, thinks or does is illusory. Grown children are no longer under the control of their parents. In some tightly traditional circles, maybe they are. But "do something" is possible sometimes, but definitely not all the time.
You should not need your mom to referee between you and your sister.
If your sister doesn't like you, that's sad, and as you all got along in the past, sort of unnecessary and unfounded.
Sorry to hear, but you might as well not blame your mother.
If you have other objections to your mother, that's another thing. Different matter.
Get a nice lady who agrees with you about things, and have some kids, and you will have someone to talk to.
You are right. I just realized I was trying to get my mother to change my sister. She can’t do that and it’s stupid of me to expect that.
It's sad but now get a lady of your own whom you won't have to convince of anything.
Volunteer for Trump and look around the office.
You’re right. Just being stupid.
Intersectionality infected them. As a white male you are on the lowest rung in the intersectional caste system. Your job is to be quiet and do what everyone else tells you to do. If you disagree that is racism.
This is a religious ideology and those infected likely cannot ever see reality. The best thing to do is just to continue to love them if you can and keep the door open.
Love them why they treat me like that? No I can’t do that.
My condolences. I haven't spoken to one sister in a very long time, for similar reasons. She is crazy, simple as that.
This is all about Good versus Evil, it isn't really political at all in the normal Human sense. It is Good versus Evil, Evil has clouded the minds of plus/minus half of us.
Welcome to Reality. I had Reality forced upon me when the Feds brought busing to us in 1969, long story but that forced us to look around and begin noticing things.
Government and media are corrupt, almost thoroughly and completely. Evil has filled the minds of so many people with Hatred and Anger, it has removed 'their' ability to Reason and use logic, to understand Reality and simpler things such as science, math, compassion, Service, Grace, Faith.
Isn't much you can do about it, your sister is gone. Your Mother might be different. Imma old Hippie too, we believed in Education, not chaos, Love and not Hate, Service not Greed, Peace not War. That naturally led me to be a conservative, because Reason is a Thang, anarchy is not. My own Mother was a Yuge fan of FDR. Well FDR violated the Constitution all day long, he was very corrupt. But she wouldn't believe that, in fact she would become irrationally angry if people derided him.
I remember once about 1960 when her brother was visiting and they began arguing about him. My uncle had been in the Navy before WWII broke out, was assigned to the U.S.S. Rueben James, a Destroyer. They were assigned to operate as part of the Atlantic Patrol, which meant U.S. Navy ships escorted merchant ships across the Atlantic to Britain, part of Lend.Lease and FDR's aid to Britain pre-war. But it was technically illegal in that we were engaged with German naval units prior to our entry into war. My Uncles's Destroyer was sunk before Pearl harbor, torpedoed by a German sub as they escorted Lend Lease to Britain, many of my Uncle's friends died.
https://warfarehistorynetwork.com/2019/01/24/sinking-the-uss-reuben-james/
He was telling her that day in the kitchen about that, she became angry and said FDR would not lie to us. Hmmm. Argument became angry, she ended up slapping him, called him a liar. FDR had covered up the sinking, and other combat actions of his, with heavy censorship. My Mother wouldn't believe otherwise.
Fast forward to clinton, I tried to tell her how corrupt slick willie was, she was convinced that he could not be corrupt because he was a democrat!
She was yellow dog dem, was not going to believe dems were corrupt.
I had busing brought to me my first year of hischool. All we did after that was fight, we had big riots and daily fights. Academics dropped, everything changed. We had Vietnam waiting on us after graduation - I joined the USAF instead of being drafted. Was in Service a couple years before could vote in my first election, thought since my Mom was a yellow dog dem I was too, voted Carter. BIG mistake, but Nixon had left a bad taste concerning repubs. So I realized both parties were corrupt, right there.
My Momma went to her grave never having been willing to understand how corrupt her heroes were.
I post all this to say, there are no easy or good answers for you. Every one of us has to discern Good and Evil for our selves, you can not force it or cause it to spontaneously evolve. When people refuse to reason, refuse to use their own brain and logically deduce matters for themselves they are not yours to 'fix'.
Love your Mother as you can, your sister is lost.
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I feel bad for what you are going through. My advice is just live for yourself. Everyone pitching a hissy fit these days will look back when they are older and wonder why they wasted so much of their lives being so angry.
Don't waste your life trying to change them or get them to listen. They have been brainwashed by all the garbage news 24/7. Eventually people will see how they have been lied to for so long and feel like fools for being sheep
You do you.. live for yourself and try to find some positive people around you, stay away from negative people. It drains your energy and its frustrating.
You're not alone in this, many, many others are going through the same thing.
I stopped communicating with her 3 years ago. She tries telling the family that I’m a crazy conservative now when only her and my mother are Democrats now.
The Republican side of my family seem to love that I’m Republican now 😂
A lot of these post are psyche-profiling for opposition & compassion depression theory.
At this point, all you can do is save yourself. Sad, but true. Best of luck.
just live your life and try to let their noise fade into the background
i know it's difficult because it's family but you can't control their words/actions
you can only control your reaction to it
let it go
This doesn't help much probably, but there are a lot of people here with similar stories.
We aren't your blood, but we can be your family.
Just find a montage of Biden groping kids and say "so with Trump any amount of speculation is automatically true, but here we have a pedophile serially groping children out in the open and you're fine with that? Literal child groping is acceptable to you?"
They are part of a mentally ill cult. You cannot reason with them. Make no mistake that is what it is. "Racism" is a manufactured term created by a cult. It has zero meaning. There is prejudice based on race, but no such thing as "racism". Think I am wrong? Ask for a definition of racism, then ask why does it only apply to certain races at certain times which makes the term meaningless.
Look at it this way. If your mom and sister joined Scientology how hard would you fight to deprogram them? I know it is family, but the older you get you understand the meaning of blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Bottom line, when they call you a white supremacist just respond that they are no different than the mentally ill fundamentalist screaming sinner and satanist at everyone who challenges their delusions back in the 80s. Bottom line is they are both garbage women, garbage mothers, and garbage Americans. Tell them to get back to you when they return to normal society.
Leftism is a cult and one of its tenets is Original Sin in the form of whiteness. If you don't hate white people simply by virtue of being white you will be excluded and ostracized from that cult.
Sorry it happened to you, but be glad you weren't sucked in too.
Record al communications you have with your sister and her husband. Whether its via phone or fb or wherever... then make sure she is removed from government office. Then, cut ties with her permanently, she is lost.
You made your bed, Lie in it. How many trump supporters have you called racist? Your chickens are roosting and your family is destroyed. Good luck.
Actually I was never a part of the racism calling group. I was a Bernie Sanders class warfare type. Now I realize both groups are dumb.