My wife is about to be 41 weeks pregnant.
We are in Houston Texas.
My wifes parents tested positive for the Rona today.
My wife will be tested tomorrow.
If she tests positive, she will have to deliver alone.
Our newborn will be immediately taken away from her.
She will not get to see or hold the baby until they are both discharged. (Usually 1 to 3 days later).
When asked if they do this for any other illness, we got nothing but dead air. (Wife is asymptomatic, if she even has the crap)
When asked what benefit a 3 day delay in exposure would have for the newborn, again, we got dead air.
They don't want you asking questions.
Edit to add, Stuck using hospital. Kid won't come out on his own, is getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday will be a C-Section.
UPDATE: Scheduled for C-section later today.
Our doctor interveened on our behalf, and Wife will not be seperated from the baby.
I wll be staying home with oldest.
Doctor has promised to personally check in every few hours during recovery to ensure the hospital doesn't give my wife undue grief.
While we are getting taken care of, the Hospital's default policy is still to screw with families unnecessarily.
Update 2: mom did not test posiitive for covid, so the planned battle did not happen. Newest pede is healthy and so is momma.
I still plan to bring as much attention to this BS policy as I can. New parents have enough to deal with.
If you feel comfortable, Call up a midwife or duela and get a home birth
Good luck with everything - yes, was going to suggest this, but C-section can’t be done by a midwife. Maybe try for another doctor - I don’t think they do house calls like this.
We'll see what we can find tomorrow. Thank you for the well wishes.
The child is already exposed if the mother was exposed. This makes literally no sense and is sketchy as all fuck.
Super sketchy. So far all equidistant hospitals have similar policies.
Err... please tell me there's some hyperbole there?
Don't worry bro. You will be blessed with a healthy baby, regardless of how it's delivered. Lots of pedes are praying for you and your family after reading this post.
Keep up the good work. 😉
Thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. Hope for a healthy child and love and spoil the heck out of it 🇺🇸❤️
If you can get a home birth, go for it! Being afraid of having your baby in the above-mentioned setting can delay labor. Get a safe setting, make your wife feel comfortable and relaxed, and baby will come!
My wife is almost 30 weeks along. I will lose my ever loving shit on some people if something like this happens. Stay strong man I hope they don’t fuck with you and the wife
I just got through with this bs. Wife was discharged yesterday. Even the doctor was complaining about the policy saying that the guys in charge “don’t listen to us” (referring to himself and other doctors).
It’s the hospital owners. Businessmen concerned with keeping up appearances and flexing their control. They can all go to hell
Birth centers seem to have much better options during Rona and discharge is typically within a couple hours, not days. Worth looking into if insurance covers it.
Yeah its not good for kid or mom for the baby not to get to feel that connection asap.
Also make sure they dont wisk the kid away and give them immediate vaccines. They have a few they will give instantly. Not being antivax... Just hep vaccine can wait a few weeks. Ive always thought it was total bs to pump a literal new born full kf shit.
my niece was permanently brain damaged from the hepatitis vaccine they give at birth...was fine until they gave her the shot
Yeah, when I read about how soon they start pumping in drugs and even doing it without telling you seconds after birth (ive read about activist like super provax, spiteful nurses doing it against the parents wishes after the baby is born; whisking it out of the room and doing it).
When I have kids i plan to ensure none of that shit happens.
Absolute tyranny
Wife and I will not be quiet about this. They do it because folks are shrugging and bearing it.
“Even if everyone is telling you that something wrong is something right. Even if the whole world is telling you to move, it is your duty to plant yourself like a tree, look them in the eye, and say 'No, you move'.”
-The non cucked Captain America
That got a smile from me and wifey. Thank you for that.
Awesome and congratulations on the incoming little pede!
Get a lawyer!
Quite frankly, sounds like... kidnapping.
Gonna talk to my lawyer tomorrow and see what a case would look like so that we're prepared to kick their asses.
GET EM ROCK! GO GET EM!
The answer to the questions is they make more money if they treat you like this because of the entire medical field handles covid with a different set of rules. But you already knew that.
This sucks dad, I'm sorry. My brother was in a similar situation with not being able to be in the same room to see his son on the ultrasound before getting shipped out until after the birth. Even though nobody was sick and everyone was wearing their stupid face panties.
For anyone else, if you have to go to the hospital to be with someone you love and are not ill, dont answer that you have been around anyone with covid or have been out of the country or have symptoms of any kind. If you're not sick, you'll be sick to death of the medical malpractice you're going to deal with going forward.
Sending you prayers.
Can your wife pump milk for the baby?
Yes, it would probably be a great idea -- boost the baby's immune system.
But let's pray REAL HARD that she tests NEGATIVE!!!
That's super advice. She has been. We have a couple servings stored already. We'll find out if they'll let us bring it. Don't want to risk it getting thrown out.
Lawyer up. How much precedent is there to protect them from what they are doing?
Will consult my lawyer to see how that might look.
Home birth?
Kid won't come out on his own, is getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday will be a C-Section.
You can survive this. It's stupid and wrong, but focus on your wife.
Thanks for that. You're right, we'll be okay.
I feel soo bad for you holy fuck, would 1000% lose my shit if they told me this. My rage would be uncontrollable
We will not be keeping quiet about this. We will not shrug and carry on. Maybe our pushback will help keep other families from having to deal with this.
Call the fucking police and report the hospital for kidnapping. Probably won’t actually do anything but make a huge fucking deal. Yell, scream, be fucking belligerent. Don’t break laws but be the biggest fucking “Karen” you can. Do not let anyone determine how your wife and child are treated. God speed pede
Edit: praying for you and your family.
Edit Edit: Just talked to wife. She works in insurance. Plenty of nurse friends. A friend who is a doula. Legally they can not force your wife to even take a COVID test. If she chooses to test and tests positive they can not take the baby away. If they admit her they must provide service. Definitely call your lawyer ASAP.
thank you for the info. Will be discussing with our lawyer and doctor today.
They're getting funds for each patient with a virus. They could give a shit less what your comfort level is as long as they get their bonus money. If you're white, they're probably making you jump through extra fiery hoops just to piss you off. If not, stroll around and see if you see any mothers holding brown newborns.
I worked in a trauma center for 10 years in radiology and I'm telling you it's a corporate environment just like fucking Walmart.
There are some amazing people working in these hospitals, believe me. I was one of them. I was the best on my team; the fastest, most efficient and funniest - i gave a shit about everything. I had to drop out eventually because I couldn't stand the way we were being treated.
I'm white, wife is hispanic. Will report on how it goes.
I know if she tests positive, even thoguh she's there for a delivery, her and the kiddo will be reported as corona cases.
Yes, the child most certainly will be listed as such, of course. So sorry you had to go through this at the worst possible time. Things are stressful enough, now you're treated like a guinea pig during the happiest moments of your life.
Just keep your chin up and focus on the important things, it will be ironed out soon.
Well wishes recieved.
Chin locked in the up position.
Thank you fellow Pede.
You're quite welcome, and an early congratulations to you both!
I haven't found one not following the same policy. If I do, and they seem trustworthy, I will discuss it with the wife.
We've know our OB for 10 years. Same doctor that delivered my oldest 5 years ago. We'll discuss with doctor tomorrow as well and see what recommendations they have.
Babies get antibodies from moms! Even if she's posititve, baby would be fine!!!!
We asked what benefit the 1 to 3 day delay would have for mom or the newborn and got no amswer!
They said if we refuse to let mommy and baby be separated then, mommy would have to do 100% of caring for baby, as I won't be allowed to be there.
Mommy is not supposed to get out of bed for hours after the C-section. They paint you into a corner.
I had 2 c-section babies, and the recovery is rough. I still got immediate contact and nursing because until a few months ago, it was essential and very best practice for mom and baby to bond asap. This whole thing makes me sick for you. All I can say is I agree with the folks who say to keep the lawyer around.
There's always home birthing. It's honestly a great experience and easy as can be. Plus you don't have them pushing and pushing for unnecessary interventions. At the hospital, they are concerned with making it easier for them, not making it the best possible experience for you and the baby.
Kid won't come out on his own, is getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday will be a C-Section.
Ah. Understood. Good luck and Godspeed to you both (and her especially). Keep a weather eye on them. They are tricksy.
Lawyer, sue. You have grounds to question anything involving the care of your child.
What would I be suing for?
Fellow Houston pede here. Prayers for you and your family🙏🏽👍🏽🇺🇸
Good Luck Pede and family.
thank you for the well wishes fellow pede.
https://uncoverdc.com/2020/04/07/was-the-covid-19-test-meant-to-detect-a-virus/
Any update for us? Hope all is well!
just updated main post. Little pede and momma came through fine. Both are doing well!
Congratulations!
Maybe go to a rural county hospital? Tough one, 'pede. feelsbadman.jpg
Been talking to wife about it. It's a tough call, but she wants her doctor she trusts there and has asked me to stop looking for another hospital.
So far everyone of them has the same policy anyway.
Yeah, some serious bullshit. Keep your chin up and get through it, my 'pede!
So dumb. I am 99% confident that me (33), my wife (32), and my kiddo (1 year at the time) all got coronavirus earlier this year before anyone knew what it was. First time in my life ever bring sick for more than two days. My baby? Barely had any symptoms and powered right through it better than either of us. Kids are basically immune to it.
Waiting for the left to remember to care about "separating families". Guess it only matters when it's a criminal, or the "parent" is actually a stranger whose been raping the kid and plans to sell them into slavery.
Every Rona test comes back positive, I'm afraid. Just remember your baby is in no danger from the Rona. You WILL get through this. Be strong for your wife. She is going to need you to be Mister Cool.
Before you know it, you will have your wife and new baby home safe and sound! Congratulations Patriot! I'm excited and nervous for you! Keep us posted!
Have the baby at home. Hire a midwife / nurse to be there.
Added this to my post, but not fast enough.
Kid won't come out on his own, is getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday will be a C-Section.
Get a doula and have the baby at home. Women have been safely birthing babies at home since dawn of man. It is not healthy for mom or baby to be separated, especially for 3 days, after birth. The skin to skin contact is needed and you both will have zero control over what they will inject your infant with the second they leave the delivery room with the child.
We will if the kid would come on his own, but he hasn't yet and is getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday is a C-section.
would if kid would come on his own. But that hasn't happened so far , and he's getting big enough to be dangerous for momma. Wednesday will be a C-section.
Thank you for the positivity!
They've changed the rules every few days, and I want folks to know they're pulling this crap.
Per the labor and delivery nurse we talked to this afternoon. If I or my wife test positive. I will not be allowed in the hospital. I would be dropping her off.
I like the blanket that smells like us idea. Will see what we have.
Us too. Either way we're not leaving this policy alone. I'm telling everyone I can. This crap is not okay, and we will not just shrug and carry on.
Thank you for this information. We have an appointment with the doctor shortly, amd will discuss these items.