i think they're just confused between actual racism and in group preferances, but then they extrapolate that based on race, which isn't a back defense mechanism, but then if they won't give anyone a chance based solely on skin color, then yeah, racism. But no there is nothing wrong with preferring your own culture or to be attracted to people who look like you and your family.

But i personally don't give a fuck about any of that and care way more about values and culture specifically.