My husband is irritating the living sh*t out of me reminding me to "wear my mask" while I'm in the grocery store.....
He was the one who converted me to conservative in 2012 (altho he voted for Romney, and I chose not to vote bc i disliked him and Obama equally).
We are mid 30s but his family has history of medical issues - hes been hospitalized for pneumonia in past too. Ironic that I'm the smoker and consume multiple energy drinks a day.
I want to respect his concern, but I think the masks are total BS given that less have died than from 2018 flu and 2019 flu in Texas and our age group doesn't justify mandated mask.
Can any of my fellow pedes give me some advice?
Yes, give your husband back his nuts from your coin purse.
My coin purse is actually quite large right now bc before the "coin shortage" I had enough change in bottom of purse to where I could almost mug someone with it bc its so heavy with change lol
Not giving that change away now!
lol, the quickest way to a mans heart is through his stomach, or between the second and third rib, depending on who you ask. Tell him directly. Tell him to stop directly after cooking him the best meal you can. When he gets home from work, instantly say "How was your day baby" give him a shoulder rub and have dinner waiting for him when he gets there.....He will listen to anything you tell him. 100%, If you want your man to treat you like a Queen, treat him like a King and vice versa. If the mask shit is bothering you, He is a man so speak to him how men like to be spoken too. Directly, straight to the point, avoiding all unwarranted ramblings and bs and look him in the eye. " Please stop, I understand you care and are worried, but if you love me you will stop, btw what do you think about those pork chops fucking A, right?
Essentially say, "I appreciate your concern and point of view but I feel differently and I don't appreciate when you shame me?"
You have to realize that I'm a lawyer and the man I married, while not a lawyer, is never willing to concede an argument. I dont think the marriage would work otherwise. I need someone like that otherwise I lose sense that I'm a woman in the marriage (which I want).
No because "I dont appreciate when you shame me" is an accusation and a theory not the facts. The truth is I do not need to know your husband, but he is worried about losing you because he loves you that much. Love makes men do irrational, illogical things.
That is just sowing the seeds for an argument. You are assuming that is the reason. Why don't you just ask him directly, why he is so concerned?
haha perhaps you should be my Jiminy cricket on my shoulder in arguments with my husband bc yes I have a habit of framing my questions to an accusatory insult
Every woman in the world shares that trait. Just like every man in the world shares similar traits. It is natural, it is how women throughout history controlled their men when the world was a violent place. The saying is true as anything "Behind every powerful man is a more powerful woman"....The issue IMO, my very humble opinion is people need to cast aside PC in arguments and understand the person they are going to spend the rest of their lives with, right? You and your husband will never agree on everything. When you no longer have disagreements, that is when you should worry. It is not natural. Someone is cheating. lol
Lmao - true that. Someone is definitely cheating when you no longer have disagreements
You have noticed this im sure, when you start getting into long stories your husbands attention starts to wander. Avoid justifications, unwarranted accusations. If you want to get through to a man, you have to speak to him in a way that is naturally acceptable for a man. Shaming him, making him feel like a POS, is not the way
Love always triumphs, if everything you do in response to his slights on you is met with pure, unadulterated love, that habit of his will die with a quickness.
Hey and as far as Jimminy Cricket, Im all for it, Marriage is wonderful, and beautiful, and there is no excuse for me , if I am able to help, to not help my fellow man (mankind) when I have the ability too. But it is simple, love, love conquers all.
Remember that his desire for you to wear a mask is out of compassion for others. It comes from a good place. I'd say the best solution here, IMO, is to concede ground and wear a mask.
Either it does nothing or it helps. Worst case scenario, ya wore a piece of fabric for 20 minutes and kept your husband happy. No harm, no foul.
Yes I've been practicing that. The time is minimal. But it's the fact that his fear of the virus has caused him to lose his common sense that irritates me I guess
I don't know if I'd call it a "loss of common sense," personally. There's conflicting evidence on the efficacy of masks, but the idea is pretty simple -- a (sufficiently) breathable material over your mouth and nose may help reduce the transmission of respiratory droplets, which carry COVID.
Maybe it helps. Maybe it doesn't. I wear a mask. No shame in that.
I'm a lawyer. It matters to me. I had to argue 2 court hearing last week in court with a mask on that i had to lower when speaking. Court reporters stopped us constantly bc they couldn't hear from mask muffle A critical part of my job involves speaking to others I also lose focus on everything bc my mask gives me claustrophobia
I think the inconveniences you've experienced thus far beat ending up on a ventilator.
Being conservative doesn't mean you dont have to wear a mask. This mask thing is getting a little out of control. I dont wear one but I also dont care if someone else does or reminds me to.
I just don't like being shamed as being selfish to my family
Tell them it will be fine. Tell them you are not being selfish and are just making your own decision just like they are making there own decision. Tell them the CDC has changed there mind 2 times on mask wearing and Fauci also says they are not needed outside of Hospitals. Than, regardless of that, the droplets even the N95 masks are still not stopping everything. Than, tell them its only for coughing and sneezing otherwise if your are only breathing you cant get sick from breathing. Tell them you will use your arm to cover your mouth or nose if you sneeze and cough. Just look up the Fauci video of him talking about masks and that should give you some more info.
Oh yeh, also ask why they have to stick a swab 6 inches up your noes and even than they are not sure if its enough. Co worker just got tested and they stuck a swap 6 inches up each nose and also at the end of his throat. He is negative. Sister is positive.
my husband got the "bottle brush" test 3 weeks ago bc he got a 6mm kidney stone removed - he was negative. Sure that would change his mind but nope
it's easier to just put the damn mask on rather than have to hear people bitch and complain about it........
My mom (liberal - but former AP biology teacher) actually conceded that we feel differently about mask issue and that we can agree to disagree!
I responded, "you won't shame me if I don't want to wear a mask?" And she said no!
Agreed. that is just about the best way to do it.
Here is the thing. Most stores are going to mandate wearing masks to enter their store. As of now, Kroger and all affiliates, publix, meijer, walmart, Costco, samsclub, kohls, cvs, apple, Verizon, dollar tree and many more, are making ig mandatory. Many start tomorrow. So you will have to anyway
So, for the last week or so when this mask mandate was made by Wallmart they SCHEDULED the mask required roll out? So they were fine killing Grandma for that entire time? Makes no fucking sense.
Hahaha yep. Most of all these store start Monday. Some on wed. Such as Lowes and Home Depot
I live in TX, we are under state mandate currently. Its just the most restrictive TX mandate a TX gov has placed on its citizens.
I'm in Ohio. We had no mandate. Then a few weeks ago they added 7 counties. Then a week of more later 19 counties.
yeah...i have told him that I would wear one while with him somewhere only out of respect for his past medical history and his concern.
Its still irritating tho
I know. I've been telling myself this for months now, but now it's getting to me I guess
I get it...all of our "control" is gone, if you don't wear the mask you are controlling a piece of your reality. I find myself controlling every little thing lately just to feel somewhat normal again and I'm ready to lose my mind! Hang in there girl we've got this!
Show him the side of the box the masks came in where it clearly states cloth masks don’t protect against the flu or Covid viruses.
If you don’t have a box to show, pull up the CDC website where it also says cloth masks don’t protect against flu or Covid viruses.
If he has medical issues, he can wear a mask, but it’s a placebo. There currently are no consumer masks that block viruses.
I probably just need to adopt my practice with clients to my loved ones, I ask my clients if they want me to wear mask when I speak with them in person....a few say yes but thank God most say no