I originally wanted two but after a lot of pregnancy complications (severe nausea, si joint disfunction, high risk uterine malformation, antenatal anxiety and depression that made me suicidal), then a csection, pre eclampsia, severe postpartum depression, postpartum insomnia (still after 11 weeks) and a colic newborn that spent 5 days in the nicu, cried 9 hours a day and slept in only 30 min increments for 9 weeks, I'm spent. Not to mention very little family help because of covid. At 34 I'm just too old for this shit haha. I simply cannot and will not have another.
She's smiling and super cute and I totally love her, but she still wakes up every 30 min some nights. Good nights she sleeps 2 hour chunks but that's really rare. I haven't slept in the same room as my husband in 10 weeks because we split the night into shifts so we don't go fuckin crazy from sleep deprivation.
I'm lucky I'm a stay at home mom now. I got a needy one! She cannot sleep anywhere other than on my lap during the day or in her bouncer at night. This shits hard but I think I got dealt a situation that's rougher than the average.
That phase will be over before you know it, so hang in there. Seriously, you're gonna blink and she'll be asking for the car next....enjoy the ride, even these bumps will be precious memories before long.
Im so sorry to hear about all that. I PROMISE you it gets better. The love and joy of having kids far, far, far makes up for the troubles you went through. Once they are walking and talking a little bit is one of the most magical moments as a parent.
Girl, my first baby was like that! Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, either. All babies are wired differently. Baby 1 didn’t sleep through the night for the longest time. I eventually read Dr. Jim Sears and I made peace that I had a “high need baby” and did whatever I had to do to get some rest, including moving into spare bedroom for a while. We moved when Baby 1 was 5 wks old so I didn’t have any family nearby either. I’ll say a prayer for you, sleep deprivation is brutal.
If it makes you feel better, our 2nd baby slept 5 hours straight a night from birth.
I've been through it with mine and my wife and I are a one child household (also for medical reasons.)
This is a tough stage but it will be over soon enough and you will miss her being a baby. I know it's so hard to see that because it's so difficult now but I was there so I won't sugarcoat it. The first year almost broke my wife and I. Delight in your child and please take time for yourself and your husband if at all possible.
I said a prayer for you before posting this. God be with you! These are difficult times but God is bigger than all of it.
Thank you so much! I really am content with her and enjoy her now even with the bad sleep. Because we split the night (8pm to 2am to 8am) I don't feel horrible. She's a joy during the day now and is so happy and cute. ❤️
I originally wanted two but after a lot of pregnancy complications (severe nausea, si joint disfunction, high risk uterine malformation, antenatal anxiety and depression that made me suicidal), then a csection, pre eclampsia, severe postpartum depression, postpartum insomnia (still after 11 weeks) and a colic newborn that spent 5 days in the nicu, cried 9 hours a day and slept in only 30 min increments for 9 weeks, I'm spent. Not to mention very little family help because of covid. At 34 I'm just too old for this shit haha. I simply cannot and will not have another.
She's smiling and super cute and I totally love her, but she still wakes up every 30 min some nights. Good nights she sleeps 2 hour chunks but that's really rare. I haven't slept in the same room as my husband in 10 weeks because we split the night into shifts so we don't go fuckin crazy from sleep deprivation.
I'm lucky I'm a stay at home mom now. I got a needy one! She cannot sleep anywhere other than on my lap during the day or in her bouncer at night. This shits hard but I think I got dealt a situation that's rougher than the average.
That phase will be over before you know it, so hang in there. Seriously, you're gonna blink and she'll be asking for the car next....enjoy the ride, even these bumps will be precious memories before long.
Amen
Im so sorry to hear about all that. I PROMISE you it gets better. The love and joy of having kids far, far, far makes up for the troubles you went through. Once they are walking and talking a little bit is one of the most magical moments as a parent.
Girl, my first baby was like that! Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, either. All babies are wired differently. Baby 1 didn’t sleep through the night for the longest time. I eventually read Dr. Jim Sears and I made peace that I had a “high need baby” and did whatever I had to do to get some rest, including moving into spare bedroom for a while. We moved when Baby 1 was 5 wks old so I didn’t have any family nearby either. I’ll say a prayer for you, sleep deprivation is brutal.
If it makes you feel better, our 2nd baby slept 5 hours straight a night from birth.
I've been through it with mine and my wife and I are a one child household (also for medical reasons.)
This is a tough stage but it will be over soon enough and you will miss her being a baby. I know it's so hard to see that because it's so difficult now but I was there so I won't sugarcoat it. The first year almost broke my wife and I. Delight in your child and please take time for yourself and your husband if at all possible.
I said a prayer for you before posting this. God be with you! These are difficult times but God is bigger than all of it.
Thank you so much! I really am content with her and enjoy her now even with the bad sleep. Because we split the night (8pm to 2am to 8am) I don't feel horrible. She's a joy during the day now and is so happy and cute. ❤️