I am older than you. The young European man I spoke of passed away a few months ago of disease related to age -- I shudder to imagine what the grand total of his collected "experience" was by the time he shuffled off this mortal coil.
Things like that change women in unpleasant ways. I remember years of being suspicious of all men until I realized it as the European students and a few of those who would have been considered liberal back then who had to be avoided.
I changed my habits and only dated conservative American men. But even then -- everything becomes confusing when you've had a relationship with someone who placed no value on the purity you were preserving for your future husband. I wondered if love was just a lie and relationships for men were only about sex after all. It wasn't supposed to be that way -- my books had promised me my very own "prince" and happily ever after. I was depressed and disappointed for a very long time.
I never (thank God) became angry and vindictive because of the experience -- just very suspicious of men's motives in relationships. Quite truthfully, my poor husband went through far more than he should have to gain my trust. But in all our years together, I have never doubted his love and loyalty. I got my "prince" after all -- he was just in another castle.
I sometimes wonder if these rabid feminists of today are just a different version of the depressed and disappointed girl I was all those years ago. Is their haterd of and vindictive attitude toward men a result of broken dreams and promises that were the result of some man in search of "experiences"?
I don't know. I'm just glad I'm not young in these times.
It's pretty awful, isnt it? Romance is pretty well dead --books and tv promote revolving door affairs. I don' t think they even look at one another as people with feelings. When someone is hurt they're just told told to "move on" as if it should be easy to detach your emotions from one person and transfer them to another at the drop of a hat.
If it makes you feel any better -- some women feel the same. My daughter (who is about the same age as you) often wonders why her friends can move from relationship to relationship without taking time out to assess what went wrong and work on whatever aspects of themselves contributed to the problem.
She doesn't understand how they can claim to be "in love" with a constant parade of men, one after another.
But I'll admit I sort of cheated when parenting her. When she was getting old enough to date I made her watch a film called "Looking for Mr. Goodbar".It's one of those things that can strongly discourage any woman from getting involved in a lifestyle of casual sex. Unfortunately, it's seldom run anymore. If it was -- you wouldn't see women acting the way they do now.
Once my daughter saw it -- she decided being "old -fashioned" was much safer.
I am older than you. The young European man I spoke of passed away a few months ago of disease related to age -- I shudder to imagine what the grand total of his collected "experience" was by the time he shuffled off this mortal coil.
Things like that change women in unpleasant ways. I remember years of being suspicious of all men until I realized it as the European students and a few of those who would have been considered liberal back then who had to be avoided.
I changed my habits and only dated conservative American men. But even then -- everything becomes confusing when you've had a relationship with someone who placed no value on the purity you were preserving for your future husband. I wondered if love was just a lie and relationships for men were only about sex after all. It wasn't supposed to be that way -- my books had promised me my very own "prince" and happily ever after. I was depressed and disappointed for a very long time.
I never (thank God) became angry and vindictive because of the experience -- just very suspicious of men's motives in relationships. Quite truthfully, my poor husband went through far more than he should have to gain my trust. But in all our years together, I have never doubted his love and loyalty. I got my "prince" after all -- he was just in another castle.
I sometimes wonder if these rabid feminists of today are just a different version of the depressed and disappointed girl I was all those years ago. Is their haterd of and vindictive attitude toward men a result of broken dreams and promises that were the result of some man in search of "experiences"?
I don't know. I'm just glad I'm not young in these times.
It's pretty awful, isnt it? Romance is pretty well dead --books and tv promote revolving door affairs. I don' t think they even look at one another as people with feelings. When someone is hurt they're just told told to "move on" as if it should be easy to detach your emotions from one person and transfer them to another at the drop of a hat.
If it makes you feel any better -- some women feel the same. My daughter (who is about the same age as you) often wonders why her friends can move from relationship to relationship without taking time out to assess what went wrong and work on whatever aspects of themselves contributed to the problem.
She doesn't understand how they can claim to be "in love" with a constant parade of men, one after another.
But I'll admit I sort of cheated when parenting her. When she was getting old enough to date I made her watch a film called "Looking for Mr. Goodbar".It's one of those things that can strongly discourage any woman from getting involved in a lifestyle of casual sex. Unfortunately, it's seldom run anymore. If it was -- you wouldn't see women acting the way they do now.
Once my daughter saw it -- she decided being "old -fashioned" was much safer.