Then it's the husband's fault too.
A person should never be so whipped or such a pussy as to not be able to stand up to their partner in an argument -- men or women -- because arguments do happen from time to time and you may very well be in the right.
Most of the time it is compromise and peace, but relationships are not fiction; sometimes they can get gritty and ugly and that is when having a spine is important.
Think of it this way: you are your children's role models. In whatever way you behave, that is imprinted upon them starting from birth.
So...act accordingly.
My husband and I, when we were younger, fitter, and thus more capable of giving physical expression to our passions, used to take it outside with the pugil sticks.
It was invigorating, and I recommend it for the more sporty type.
But we usually tended to back down if one partner was clearly standing up for their opinion -- you have to be able to de-escalate. And of course, nothing was worth destroying our marriage (I quite love my husband, and he me -- and the only thing that could ever come between that is marital infidelity...which we both promised we'd kill each other for if found guilty...détente through mutually assured destruction is also a good thing).
I used to get spanked harder if I cried as a child, so confrontations don't tend to upset me in that way.
It's all in how you get through those arguments that really tempers a solid marriage.
I say "passionate" because when we really do argue it's over things we actually do agree on but just are coming at it from different perspectives. What's best for the kiddo type things
When we were younger, I think my husband and I used to fight (in the method described) more because we both liked it so much (it probably helped us to bond) -- and it was usually over what amounted to small differences of opinion. Big things were usually handled much differently.
Then it's the husband's fault too. A person should never be so whipped or such a pussy as to not be able to stand up to their partner in an argument -- men or women -- because arguments do happen from time to time and you may very well be in the right.
Most of the time it is compromise and peace, but relationships are not fiction; sometimes they can get gritty and ugly and that is when having a spine is important.
Think of it this way: you are your children's role models. In whatever way you behave, that is imprinted upon them starting from birth. So...act accordingly.
When both of us are "passionate" about a subject, my wife always ends up in tears for some reason! :)
My husband and I, when we were younger, fitter, and thus more capable of giving physical expression to our passions, used to take it outside with the pugil sticks. It was invigorating, and I recommend it for the more sporty type.
But we usually tended to back down if one partner was clearly standing up for their opinion -- you have to be able to de-escalate. And of course, nothing was worth destroying our marriage (I quite love my husband, and he me -- and the only thing that could ever come between that is marital infidelity...which we both promised we'd kill each other for if found guilty...détente through mutually assured destruction is also a good thing).
I used to get spanked harder if I cried as a child, so confrontations don't tend to upset me in that way.
It's all in how you get through those arguments that really tempers a solid marriage.
I say "passionate" because when we really do argue it's over things we actually do agree on but just are coming at it from different perspectives. What's best for the kiddo type things
You are completely correct.
When we were younger, I think my husband and I used to fight (in the method described) more because we both liked it so much (it probably helped us to bond) -- and it was usually over what amounted to small differences of opinion. Big things were usually handled much differently.
The compromise Is not losing your kids altogether and not losing half of everything you work for your whole life. Been there done that.