My wife and I had our daughter's birthday party Saturday. Lo and behold, our 20 something entitled liberal nephew showed up out of the blue.
He's been thrown out before, but we figured he might behave this time due to it being a child's party.
Nope. He had so little self control that, not 15 minutes after he arrived, he goes on a completely unprovoked tirade against Trump and all of his family being vile racists. Completely full of profanity and in front of my 11 year old daughter. I, being in the kitchen doing something, only heard him when he began shouting really loudly. I knew shit had hit the fan when he started yelling expletives at my wife.
By the time I got into the room my wife and daughter had retreated into the bedroom to get away from the maniac. He was in full rage mode. I grabbed the pinata stick ( a sawed off broomstick) and whacked the SOB. I then picked him up to his feet and shoved him out the door. His mom, who is wholly to blame for raising the bastard that way, grabs all the gifts the two of them brought and left with the son.
Sorry, I just needed to vent. I've been fuming all weekend. How do these grown children expect us to take them seriously if they act like this? I'm supposed to be okay with people like this ruling out country? They can't not ruin a child's birthday party, let alone run a country.
You handled the situation well enough, but you need to follow through now. You need to make a rational, clear, explicit statement to each of them.
To him, that he is not permitted to speak to your wife that way, to not speak in front of your daughter that way, and that he is not allowed to attend any functions that you are hosting. Make it clear that it is up to YOU when he is allowed to be in the presence of your family or on your property, and you need to outline exactly which behavior he exhibited was unacceptable and why. Be reasonable, but firm and uncompromising. Keep a documented copy, if he claims that you threatened him.
And to his mother, you need to make it clear to her that while she may be welcome at an event that she is invited to, he is not. Let her know that YOUR functions and parties are for the people YOU invite, not the people that SHE invites, and that even if you tell her she can bring a person or two, he is explicitly forbidden from attending anything where you do not invite him personally. Tell HER why his behavior is unacceptable, with the same list you provided her son.
You showed them the door, but now you must Become the Wall.
Be the wall. Be the wall. Be the wall. Be the wall.