If your kids are not learning Grammar, Logic and Writing then they are not being educated. The reality is that being gay does not preclude you from the need to add or spell. Grammar revolution, Sister Miriam Joseph, Lingua Latina Per Se Illustrata, Mortimer Adler's How to Read a Book, the Western Canon, the Discoverers, all of these are great books that you can read with your kids and they will get a real education. Check out John Taylor Gatto on YT.