Do you think religion could help with that? I know it's not magic.

I also think men say yes too much to unvetted women who look nice enough. The men don't hold out enough, do enough background checking, handwriting analysis, body language analysis, and just plain waiting. You can't know how someone handles frustration if you rush to amuse them. Time has to pass. And all that vetting and pondering might be done by a professional matchmaker. The bias would be, "you are only seeing one of my men if I think you are the Right Sort, ma'am." Not the other way around. Matchmakers should come back.

But yes there are huge problems.