I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
If you lost your best friend to Facebook, you have not lost anything you can’t replace. Facebook is cancer, and anyone utilizing Facebook to inform themselves of the world at large doesn’t deserve you. Trade up today and land a MAGA man!
What saddens me most is that a few weeks ago, I showed him something that disproved what he'd seen on Facebook and it actually got through to him and made him question some other stuff. I thought it might actually be the start of him seeing sense, but then he doubled down. :(
I’m sorry, it’s unfortunate and it hurts short-term, but ultimately everything will turn out okay. (((Hugs)))
Thank you for the hug, I need it!
I promise it gets better.
I’m sorry that you are sad. Perhaps tomorrow you can start trying to think of this as a positive thing. In the Bible, there is a passage that talks about how it is not a good idea to be be in a close relationship with someone who has beliefs that are too different from yours:
2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV
Being unequally yoked is referring to a pair of oxen pulling a cart or wagon. If the two oxen are not roughly the same size then one of them will be stronger than the other, which will lead to the wagon being pulled in a big circle instead of going straight forward. The same thing can happen in our relationships. You are just stronger than your ex is right now, and now you can move forward with your life instead of circling back to the same arguments without any progress being made.
Ohhhhh boy! YOU are going to be his "one that got away". When he wises up, he's gonna regret running you off... for the rest of his life. You can do better!
This sounds exactly like what I've experienced multiple times.
Your ex-boyfriend is ideologically posessed, he is not using logic or reasoning to form his beliefs or ideas so you can't use logic or reason to fight them.
This isn't a reflection on you or your failed ability to help him, it's a reflection of how weak minded and insecure he is in his own ability to make decisions for himself.
There's a chance he genuinely believes the stuff he claims, and there's a chance that he is trying to convince himself that he believes that stuff because he feels guilty about what he actually thinks.
Regardless of any of that, he's doing you a favour by leaving you, it might not feel like it and you'll beat yourself up about how you literally showed him factually solid evidence to counter his opinions and he still doubled down, but don't. He doesn't represent an individual, he isn't a person, he's the living embodiment of a sick leftist ideology.
Adherence to leftist ideology requires both moral and intellectual bankruptcy. Leftism cannot withstand morality or logic, so its followers willfully abandon both. It cannot withstand dissent either, so its followers cannot abide any dissenters, thus leading to the OP's situation.
A very apt description. In some cases, the possession may be more than just ideological.
He's a communist. Communists arnt humans. He's a zombie. He is ideologically possessed.
He needs to unplug fully. Other than this dom. I dont watch news, no social media. My kids are the same. My wife uses it but she trusts no one outside our family circle. Shits plain unhealthy. Im sorry you went through this. But you dodged a bullet. Your future husband should treat you as if he took his vows. Same for the ladies. Focus on yourself. Work out get a dog. Learn to shoot. Find ways to always laugh. There are plenty of guys like us out there.
Yes.
He took his redpill and then vomited it back up and blamed the person who gave the red pill for it. Sorry to hear it but you'll find someone.
Confirmation bias is strong. All it takes is a few minutes of misleadia viewing or social media and any progress you might have made has been wiped out.