I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
Thank you. I'm quite isolated where I live, as the area is mostly leftist. I was pleased just to find someone who could (at first) agree to disagree.
Just a suggestion... I'm from a liberal area too and for last 2 months I've been in a red state visiting friends because California is locked down and i couldn't take it. The difference in my state of mind is just on another level. I'm so happy to see other people like me. They're so nice, lots of trump people, stores are still open, etc. You might consider doing something similar to lift your spirits. Anyway, you'll do well in short order.
I wish I could but I have older parents with health problems who live near me, so I have to (and want to) stay for their sake. It must be so nice to be surrounded by like-minded people - I know that would give me a mental boost. It's so draining to deal with nobody but leftists every day.
I left my girlfriend (center-lefty) a year ago because I realised her vision of the future and my vision of the future were two totally different things. Never a fun task but had to happen, so we managed it on good terms.
I'm glad you managed to end things amicably. I don't like being on bad terms with people at all.
I just really want to say some bad things about him right now and use some really dirty words...but I am holding back. Dating sucks these days anyway especially if you live in a blue state and have to wear a mask. You are young. Bullet dodged. It was never going to work out anyway and at least now you arent a single mother.
Yes, I'm grateful there are no children caught in the middle.