I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
That's absolutely not true. I've got an uncle who's hardcore Republican and my aunt, his wife, is hardcore Democrat and they've been married for 34 years..... They quite literally have both of Biden and Trump flags hanging in the yard.
They get through it by doing stuff like that, allowing each to have equal voices, and they make damn sure that political differences never cause them to actually fight. They will walk away from the conversation if it starts going that direction and they can't keep it civilized...
Not everybody is a fucking animal with no self-control... from either side....
Their love for each other in their home means way more than anything outside of it.
If my S/O was defending the Democrat party after Kavanaugh, Covington Kids, Russiagate, Ukraine, and the absolute insanity of BLM and Antifa...........I really don't think it would work out. Too many of those things hit too close to home to just say that it is a disagreement.
You can hate both parties while still identifying yourself as a Democrat.... Old school Democrats can't help what the party turned itself into, but that doesn't mean they'll suddenly suck Republican dick either....
Why does everyone from both sides act like you HAVE to pick one hill or the other to die on.....
Well, because the Democrats today are literally in the process of becoming communists and radicalizing more and more. This is no longer about mere political disagreements, it is about 2 very different paths, one of which leads to improvement, and the other to peak clown world hell that MUST be avoided at all costs.
Sure, don't die on your hill... but sure as hell your political opponents will destroy you if they come to power - unless you kneel and pay up. And we are at a point where mere elections may not be sufficient any more. No matter how you see it, we are still decades behind in pushing back against Marxism, the fight is LONG not over.
Think about this: Do you use the word "racism" as if it weren't just a made up word from Marxists (Leon Trotsky) to bash dissidents? Do you fear being called "racist" or other -ism words and seek to explain yourself when accused? Do you think calling people fascist is more insulting that communist (communists are fascists on steroids)? Do you call leftists, even today, "Liberals" (they are Socialists of varying magnitude)? Do you feel weird when you express anything positive about your country, culture, religion or race? Do you dare to talk about race and IQ? Have you questioned the term "hate speech", "hate crime" or the political concept of "hate" at all?
If you answer any of these with yes - and I certainly would - you can see how far the Marxist demoralization and control of language and thought is working on you, or rather society at large.
you just said my mind. Many conservatives use liberal talking points without disrupting the liberal narratives and pushing their own viewpoints. if you believe "racism" or "systemic racism" or "racist" is a bogus term, question anybody who calls you these words.wht they mean. The last few months have made me see how weak conservatives are, when it comes to pushing their own narratives.conservatives are mostly white but they don't talk about "white people" because they are afraid of looking racist or not looking diverse.conservatives should be trying to push their talking points to society instead of being shy.
Because one party is currently advocating the abolishment of the 2nd amendment, open borders, white hate, reparations, 3rd term abortion, and they have been constantly attacking our president with false accusations and impeachment. Old school democrats are now on the right because of how far left their party has gone. Sure the republicans have their uniparty members and rinos but we can see them and call them out. Democrats support any democrat 100% of the time. This is no longer a simple game of ideals. One side is actively and openly trying to destroy the very foundation of this country.
My wife is more center than me but not adhering to leftism. Her sister is a BLM supporter and tries to pull her that way. But we do disagree even though she is wrong 100% that Trump is bad. She stays away from the culture clas we are I. This is how far she is removed from it, she asked me earlier this week “what is cancel culture?”
I don’t mind it. As a stay at home dad of 3 young kids, I can stay engaged and understand the tactics of those that seek for my children’s minds. I continually shape my kids into being logical based kids to take into adulthood.
Question...do they have kids? If so, how do they handle the ideological divide of how to raise their children? Gotta be tough
Yes they do and the kids are grown now and all perfectly well adjusted. 2 of them moved away before I got into politics so I don't know about them but 1 of their sons is still around and is very Republican like my uncle.
I'm married to a Democrat and it's real hard dude. It's hard not to have anyone to talk to. It's hard that the person you're closest to doesn't share your political values.
Luckily we share other values that transcend politics, and I think she's more Republican than she realizes, but TDS runs hard in her family so she remains a Democrat and I remain isolated.