I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
I am sorry to say this, but this is definitely a good thing. It's saddening and you will have to stay strong, but in the end it will be worth it.
Reason being, if he can so easily dispose of you over politics, he is too far off to be helped and that is his absolute true form. You would have had even more fights in the future and once things get absolutely critical, he would have left you in a very dire situation-
That is not a man, nor a boyfriend that can defend someone in his life.
It is important to know that every person you meet has political opinions. Some may just not highlight them and they don't think much about them, but once things get bad, they show their true colors. I have experienced that so often, just assume anyone who says "I don't care" towards politics is lying, immediately.
I hate to say it, but nowadays I would not date without knowing the political orientation of my partner. It WILL come up and you either submit to their views if you disagree or they will end things. Very rarely will they change their mind, as liberals are very enthusiastic about calling evil upon the opposite political party, including name calling e.t.c.
I live in germany and hearing them compare Trump to Hitler is the most laughable thing I have heard, but I hear it again and again.
Anyways, I wish you good luck and a good recovery from this moment. Stay strong, a passionate woman with strong opinions that go against the liberal mainstream and who won't let herself get shut down is a rare sight. Being brainwashed as an adult on the other hand is weak and unacceptable.