I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
This sounds exactly like what I've experienced multiple times.
Your ex-boyfriend is ideologically posessed, he is not using logic or reasoning to form his beliefs or ideas so you can't use logic or reason to fight them.
This isn't a reflection on you or your failed ability to help him, it's a reflection of how weak minded and insecure he is in his own ability to make decisions for himself.
There's a chance he genuinely believes the stuff he claims, and there's a chance that he is trying to convince himself that he believes that stuff because he feels guilty about what he actually thinks.
Regardless of any of that, he's doing you a favour by leaving you, it might not feel like it and you'll beat yourself up about how you literally showed him factually solid evidence to counter his opinions and he still doubled down, but don't. He doesn't represent an individual, he isn't a person, he's the living embodiment of a sick leftist ideology.
Adherence to leftist ideology requires both moral and intellectual bankruptcy. Leftism cannot withstand morality or logic, so its followers willfully abandon both. It cannot withstand dissent either, so its followers cannot abide any dissenters, thus leading to the OP's situation.
A very apt description. In some cases, the possession may be more than just ideological.
He's a communist. Communists arnt humans. He's a zombie. He is ideologically possessed.