I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.
We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.
I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.
[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]
[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]
[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]
I recently broke up with my boyfriend for the same reason. I was willing to overlook our differences if it was simply he wasn't a Trump fan, but he despised everything I stood for politically. I couldn't take it and had to end it. It's awful to lose your best friend, but you will be better off in the long run. Stay strong! ā„
It amazes me that there are men even like this. Did he have any self respect whatsoever? I just cannot fathom being a man and being a leftist. Iām too involved with creating a better future for myself and future family to spend my days rioting on the streets and finding people to cancel online. What a miserable life.
Some truly believe they are 'acting' for ""the greater good"". The ends always justify the means for men like this. Pathological altruism, narcissism, savior complex, etc. They believe they are sacrificing. They believe they are helping to usher in - and in their warped view - 'provide' a better future for people they've never met and will never meet.
They care about everything but looking after and providing for not only themselves but their immediate loved ones. After all, how can you not feel guilt if there are people out there suffering and they all have 'checkbox' traits such as gender or skin color?
"I will sacrifice my life and my self for a greater world (and as a bonus, once the ladies see what a noble person I am I'll be rolling in the vag)." That in and of itself would be understandable on some level - but they never stop there, do they? They have to tear others down who do not think like them. After all, they are righteous and good and will save many so surely those who are different are pure evil.
The irony of course is that if they simply did what you and I concentrate on doing then the ""greater good"" would be immeasurably better for everyone. They see you and I as selfish but fail to realize that they don't know you or I personally or see the kind deeds that men like us have done for others (please forgive me, I don't know you either, of course, I'm just clumsily making a point here). They fail to see that building a life and family and community and truly providing for others to have an opportunity at a better life is the most noble sacrifice one can make.
There's no hope for men like this. They will always be ""better"" than you.
Then still others are just parasitic scum slugging through life on the backs of others. Not really a lot of hope for them, either.
Lol the truth is he probably had too much self respect. He got all his news from CNN and NPR, and he could never admit to being wrong. May God bless your hard work and help you keep your focus on the truly important things in life. š