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posted ago by HaitchElGee ago by HaitchElGee +2313 / -0

I'm having a bit of a tough time today. My boyfriend finally decided that us having 'agreed to disagree' over politics isn't enough, and he just can't deal with me holding a different opinion. He said he had no wish to change my opinion and that I have every right to disagree, but that he just can't live with it and it's too big a divide.

We've had political disagreements in the past and while I thought we'd always managed to resolve the issue and move on, he's apparently held onto those grievances and stewed over them. Since lockdown started he's had way more free time to spend on social media and has become increasingly hard-line in his beliefs and negative in his outlook. Even pointing out simple facts that contradict leftist narratives has resulted in him ranting at me for 2-3 hours, before finally calming down and apologizing. I'm heartbroken for our relationship and for him - that he's been so thoroughly brainwashed he feels nothing but anger and pessimism, that he's now ashamed of his country, and feels guilty for things he hasn't done.

I feel like I've lost my best friend because of Facebook. This sucks.

[EDIT: Thank you everyone for your very kind replies. You've given me some good food for thought, and helped me feel a little less isolated and adrift. It may take me a little while, but I'll try to reply to you all as I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Thank you all again!]

[EDIT 2: I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness of all your replies, thank you all so much! It's so refreshing to receive so much support from like-minded people, when I'm usually mired in the constant negativity of living in a deep blue state.]

[EDIT 3: Well, this absolutely blew up over the last few hours. I'm so, so humbled by the warmth and care you've all shown me - this really is the greatest community! Although it hurt to see him take his things and leave this morning, I already feel a little better and lighter, and that's in no small part thanks to all of your comments. I can't reply to each of you individually anymore, but thank you all.]

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totheendoftheline 25 points ago +25 / -0

I recently broke up with my boyfriend for the same reason. I was willing to overlook our differences if it was simply he wasn't a Trump fan, but he despised everything I stood for politically. I couldn't take it and had to end it. It's awful to lose your best friend, but you will be better off in the long run. Stay strong! ♄

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USCitizen1 10 points ago +10 / -0

It amazes me that there are men even like this. Did he have any self respect whatsoever? I just cannot fathom being a man and being a leftist. I’m too involved with creating a better future for myself and future family to spend my days rioting on the streets and finding people to cancel online. What a miserable life.

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totheendoftheline 1 point ago +1 / -0

Lol the truth is he probably had too much self respect. He got all his news from CNN and NPR, and he could never admit to being wrong. May God bless your hard work and help you keep your focus on the truly important things in life. 😊