I love Chabad. Became friendly with the one in my old hometown. He used to have Shabbat services out of his house. I'd bring my very young daughter and she'd play with his children in the back yard. And after the service was a meal, and I liked to come up with some tough questions for him. (Some of his answers were better than others.)

In fact... I once asked him about divorce and the Get. And how a man can initiate the divorce but a woman can't. What happens when a woman has an abusive husband? (I had a conversation online with a Christian woman who found herself at a dilemma in her previous marriage from this).

His answer was interesting. "It is a problem," he said. "But you generally pressure the guy to give his consent to the Get."

"How?" I asked.

"Depends,' he said. "Are we talking modern day or are we talking Ancient Israel?"

"Let's start with ancient Israel" I said.

"Well, in Ancient Israel.... she'd get her brothers and father together. And they'd beat the crap out of her husband until he gave the Get."

Love that answer.

But yeah I .... I have little patience for Reform now, even if it's what I was raised in.