Children need to be raised by both. The problems of a single father raising a boy are less visible. Young men need someone that can strongly empathize with them, men instinctively go to "how do we solve this problem," rather than "how can we understand this problem."
I agree. My comment was mostly in jest but there's definitely truth to it.
A lot of the time this kind of discussion doesn't go anywhere because people don't understand the details of what it means to grow up without either parent, they think that the values and mindset you learn from your father are literally taught, verbally, when it's more just copied behaviour and demonstrable action that can be replicated.
They think that the mother can pass on these things by teaching, but it's not that easy and men and women are different, which they don't understand.
Imagine not seeing an attempt to help solve your son's problem as 'strongly empathizing with them.' The ONLY difference is one parent requires dealing with their 'feelings,' and growth. The other prevents it.
Sitting around crying while Mommy holds you and tells you 'It's going to be okay.' is counter productive after around the age of two. Particularly for boys.
Children need to be raised by both. The problems of a single father raising a boy are less visible. Young men need someone that can strongly empathize with them, men instinctively go to "how do we solve this problem," rather than "how can we understand this problem."
I agree. My comment was mostly in jest but there's definitely truth to it.
A lot of the time this kind of discussion doesn't go anywhere because people don't understand the details of what it means to grow up without either parent, they think that the values and mindset you learn from your father are literally taught, verbally, when it's more just copied behaviour and demonstrable action that can be replicated.
They think that the mother can pass on these things by teaching, but it's not that easy and men and women are different, which they don't understand.
Children need both, but it's more obvious when one is missing over the other.
Imagine not seeing an attempt to help solve your son's problem as 'strongly empathizing with them.' The ONLY difference is one parent requires dealing with their 'feelings,' and growth. The other prevents it.
Sitting around crying while Mommy holds you and tells you 'It's going to be okay.' is counter productive after around the age of two. Particularly for boys.
Amen