we all deserve hot wives and hot husbands. take care of yourselves pedes, good health and physical fitness is its own reward, but it's not the only reward
Isn’t that strange? Before quitting when I thought about it I’d ask myself “well what will I DO if I can’t drink?” Such a silly thought in retrospect, but that’s the nature of addiction. It’s insidious. It’s that little voice in your head that lies to you.
I always thought addiction was the “laying on the bed screaming as the baby crawls on the ceiling” thing. I never recognized that it was just that little lying voice in my head, so for a long time I just remained addicted and said “well I’m clearly not an addict because I’m not scratching at my skin and hallucinating..”
I wish I’d had the ability to deal with it all at 26. You’re a very fortunate person. If I could have taken back those years in my 20s I could be so much better off today. Not complaining about where I’m at, I’m fine, but I spun my wheels for way too long!
Hell yea, congrats fren!! Alcohol was never my thing -- have serious stomach/digestive issues and could never tolerate it -- but that's (part of) what led me to experimenting with other substances, and eventually self-medicating with opiates until becoming a full blown heroin addict. Been clean for a little over 7 years now and my increasing success over that timespan has been nothing short of miraculous!
That's awesome, congrats! It really is the worst. It's kind of weird, I always leave the xanax and klonopin part out of it, because during and after, it never really seemed like that was the part that ruined my life, or the substance I was addicted to, so I always just cite my heroin addiction, when the benzos were definitely just as bad, maybe worse. In fact, when I first went to detox, I didn't even mention I was addicted to benzos because it never really hit me that I was, and ended up having a bunch of mini-seizures in the detox. Didn't sleep for a solid 3 weeks after stopping/getting clean and I now realize that was more a result of the benzos than the dope. That shit is not to be fucked around with in heavy and regular doses (not to mention every single OD I had, one where I was even pronounced dead, were all a result of when I used both together -- obviously stupid and I knew better at the time, but... I guess you just don't see it when you're in the thick of it).
In a weird way, getting clean is a large part of why I have more conservative and right-leaning values now. When you pull yourself out of that and come out clean (figuratively and literally) on the other side, you realize the "woe is me," attitude gets you nowhere, and you're responsible for your own life and actions. If something sucks in your life, don't bitch and complain, or seek substances or external forces to make yourself feel better. Own up to whatever is making your life shitty and do something about it, because nobody's gonna do it for you
Yep exactly. I always dabbled with xanax while doing heroin but it got baaad after I quit dope and started popping them like candy, 6-8 bars a day. Long story but ended up coming off them cold turkey, its 30 days of hell you cant put into words unless you've been through it. Me and you know, Its why I'll never go back to it. That truly terrified the shit out of me
I did the same thing, actually. While I still partake on a very rare, special occasion, I never get drunk or incapacitated anymore.
I also got the message from Plato's The Republic. In it he talks about democracy bringing wealth to a society. He then talks about how the spoiled kids raised in a democracy get literally drunk on the wealth, and they become addicts who demand communism. Plato describes the citizens who lead a communist tyranny as drunkards or addicts. They consume and don't work. Then, when they run out of wealth, they get violent against their people and against their neighbors.
Addiction is slavery. I'm not going back to being a slave to alcohol.
First I gave up the weed, that was clearly the one that was fucking my brain up the most. I would never have given that one up willingly, it was employment pressure that forced me to. Thank god for that because I would never have been able to see how much it held me back, if I hadn’t stopped!
Then I gave up the cigarettes 2 years later. But the alcohol hung on for years after. I had largely turned my life around after giving up the weed, got my life seriously on track.
But the drinking remained even as everything else was getting better. It’s amazing how much you can justify shit to yourself.
I quit after trying to quit for a month... When I realized how hard is was, I began questioning how much control I really had over it. I never went back, but still have a lingering craving for "a drink" every now and then.
Don’t let that little voice in your head trick you. It’s not boring to be sober. You’ll be relieved as hell, most likely. Just decide for sure, then pick up something in the short term to focus on, some kind of activity.
Don’t let that little voice in your head trick you. It’s not boring to be sober. You’ll be relieved as hell, most likely. Just decide for sure, then pick up something in the short term to focus on, some kind of activity.
You will look back someday soon and realize how much better it is to drive home worry free and wake up feeling great. Change your friends, surround yourself with people who don't get drunk all the time. Be an example for your family. This will sound like a cliche but its true, Jesus is your best friend. Great job...stand tall patriot.
I still have friends and family that drink, I think I only felt a little left out once or twice. I was worried that going to parties would be hard, but it was fine. I realized that I was there to hang out with people and not necessarily to get wasted and that made things easier.
One thing that sucked was we went to a “tasting” for a family members birthday. That wasn’t fun because everyone was yammering about “oh yeah you can really taste the blah blah, ooh that’s an amazing flavor”. That was about 6 months in to being sober and that was a shit day, should have seen that coming though. Other than that one day, it’s been awesome.
Little Timmy tries weed or psychedelics and goes "lol u guys are faggots, people go to jail for this? Drugs aren't even bad!"
Then they have a one night stand with something that's actually dangerous and their guard is down. They like it and get a small bit after a few go's and ..well that's how I've seen people get caught by heroin
Your late teens early 20's and the decisions you make in many ways will effect your entire life. I wish I had spent them differently. Your most precious asset is time. And those nights of partying and the inevitable hang over the next day is time one will never get back.
January will be 5 years for me. Keep it up pede. Life's not necessarily easier, but its much, much better. Hell just not having a hang over alone is worth it. Lets keep winning!🇺🇸 MAGA 2020 🇺🇸 KAG 2020 🇺🇸
Congrats, that is awesome! I do find life a bit easier, in the sense that I rarely have regrets now. When I say something, I am saying it with a clear mind... And that is something wonderful
Good going. Trump has also inspired me to be the best I can. Im trying to eat healtheir and do more exercise and more imprtantly, get shit done. If a 70 odd year old man can do all the stuff he does with half the world ruthlessly against him, i as a 32 yr old with no major medical problems have no excuse.
Congratulations on yr year. I have gone a few years at a time but always go back. I think I might need inpatient or something this time, tho. Thank you for the encouragement.
I been to AA a lot. Its a good place to make drug connects and sometimes hook up with women just as fucked up as I am. Not that I do drugs. Anymore. But its no help quitting, for me. But thank you and best wishes to you too <3
There are great meetings, so-so meetings and sometimes shitty ones. I had a similar experience the first time. There are numerous groups in every location in the nation. I'd urge you to try again. Smaller meetings are better IMO, even if you have to travel a little bit. \It changed my life 100% for the better and I'm not alone in that.
It’s not easy because that little voice in your head is going to really try to convince you to keep drinking. Think about your reasons for being sober, pick up some kind of activity.
Its complicated. I have had a crazy life. And I'm kinda PTSD over some of it. Alcohol soothes me. I been an alcoholic pretty much all my life, on and off. My parents even used to get me drunk as a child.
gonna be hopping on the sober train as well. Been drinking alot throughout this whole ordeal and its giving me medical issues. Gonna stop and i was thinking about joining some self defense classes.
Good for you though OP. Alcholism is an absolute bitch. We need to be of sober minds during these times and not the opposite
Sobriety isn't easy to adjust to at first (took me years) but I have no intention of going back. Don't wake up regretting what I did. Don't blow all my excess money on drugs or alcohol. Run into far less stressful events and / or situations.
Btw, sobriety also helps people who are not addicts. I never had a problem with drinking and because I live in CA, I have used marijuana. I never used every day, it has never interfered with my life. But it never made my life better. So recently I decided to go "straight edge" (remember that?) and not drink or use any kind of mind altering substance. Alcohol is empty calories and pot makes you lazy. I don't need that. There is a nice feeling being sober. For pedes struggling with sobriety, hang in there. Relapse is a part of recovery. Find ways to cope with your stress. Exercise is a great way to re-regulate your system.
Congrats pede!! Coming up on my 9th month here. There is no greater clarity than looking at the world through a pair of sober peepers! I hope you find the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. God Bless!!
Congrats!!!! I am very happy for you. I am ten years sober, and although I am no D. J. Trump, lol, I could never have gotten to where I am today if I was drinking.
Year and a half for me. Best decision I ever made. My life is now amazing in ways I never thought possible. Congrats, this is exactly what winning feels like!
You too, deserve a hot wife.
I have one! Life's good. 2020 will have been our year, pedes
Good on ya! Love to see Sober Living posts.160days of awesomeness for me. Wifey loves the new me.
Good job. 50 days for me. Feelz good man.
Well you deserve another! ...wait is that a gift or a punishment?
Congrats man!!!! Keep coming back!!!!
Congrats buddy
Great job!
we all deserve hot wives and hot husbands. take care of yourselves pedes, good health and physical fitness is its own reward, but it's not the only reward
OP IS the hot wife.
Congrats!!!! Great accomplishment, and not an easy one!
One year for me this month!!! Life is not nearly as boring as I expected without it...its quite lovely.
When I was getting wrecked out of my mind all the time I always wondered how people lived sober now I wonder how I used to keep going back then.
I never had an issue with drinking I actually never really liked it but I never met a drug I didn't like.
The ole devils dandruff.
Isn’t that strange? Before quitting when I thought about it I’d ask myself “well what will I DO if I can’t drink?” Such a silly thought in retrospect, but that’s the nature of addiction. It’s insidious. It’s that little voice in your head that lies to you.
I always thought addiction was the “laying on the bed screaming as the baby crawls on the ceiling” thing. I never recognized that it was just that little lying voice in my head, so for a long time I just remained addicted and said “well I’m clearly not an addict because I’m not scratching at my skin and hallucinating..”
I wish I’d had the ability to deal with it all at 26. You’re a very fortunate person. If I could have taken back those years in my 20s I could be so much better off today. Not complaining about where I’m at, I’m fine, but I spun my wheels for way too long!
brofist
If that happens, just tell them the truth. They will understand. Congratulations pede, stay strong.
brofist
Better late than never. God bless.
Congrats! Same here on 9.21
<3 YaY I'm so happy for you! <3
Well done and congrats, fren. Keep up the great work!
Hell yea, congrats fren!! Alcohol was never my thing -- have serious stomach/digestive issues and could never tolerate it -- but that's (part of) what led me to experimenting with other substances, and eventually self-medicating with opiates until becoming a full blown heroin addict. Been clean for a little over 7 years now and my increasing success over that timespan has been nothing short of miraculous!
Around 5 years heroin/xanax free for me, would never wish that life on my worst enemy. Well maybe a couple
That's awesome, congrats! It really is the worst. It's kind of weird, I always leave the xanax and klonopin part out of it, because during and after, it never really seemed like that was the part that ruined my life, or the substance I was addicted to, so I always just cite my heroin addiction, when the benzos were definitely just as bad, maybe worse. In fact, when I first went to detox, I didn't even mention I was addicted to benzos because it never really hit me that I was, and ended up having a bunch of mini-seizures in the detox. Didn't sleep for a solid 3 weeks after stopping/getting clean and I now realize that was more a result of the benzos than the dope. That shit is not to be fucked around with in heavy and regular doses (not to mention every single OD I had, one where I was even pronounced dead, were all a result of when I used both together -- obviously stupid and I knew better at the time, but... I guess you just don't see it when you're in the thick of it).
In a weird way, getting clean is a large part of why I have more conservative and right-leaning values now. When you pull yourself out of that and come out clean (figuratively and literally) on the other side, you realize the "woe is me," attitude gets you nowhere, and you're responsible for your own life and actions. If something sucks in your life, don't bitch and complain, or seek substances or external forces to make yourself feel better. Own up to whatever is making your life shitty and do something about it, because nobody's gonna do it for you
Yep exactly. I always dabbled with xanax while doing heroin but it got baaad after I quit dope and started popping them like candy, 6-8 bars a day. Long story but ended up coming off them cold turkey, its 30 days of hell you cant put into words unless you've been through it. Me and you know, Its why I'll never go back to it. That truly terrified the shit out of me
Benzos are the absolute worst.
<3 HUGs my Fren - I am so glad you are FREE!!
I did the same thing, actually. While I still partake on a very rare, special occasion, I never get drunk or incapacitated anymore.
I also got the message from Plato's The Republic. In it he talks about democracy bringing wealth to a society. He then talks about how the spoiled kids raised in a democracy get literally drunk on the wealth, and they become addicts who demand communism. Plato describes the citizens who lead a communist tyranny as drunkards or addicts. They consume and don't work. Then, when they run out of wealth, they get violent against their people and against their neighbors.
Addiction is slavery. I'm not going back to being a slave to alcohol.
First I gave up the weed, that was clearly the one that was fucking my brain up the most. I would never have given that one up willingly, it was employment pressure that forced me to. Thank god for that because I would never have been able to see how much it held me back, if I hadn’t stopped!
Then I gave up the cigarettes 2 years later. But the alcohol hung on for years after. I had largely turned my life around after giving up the weed, got my life seriously on track.
But the drinking remained even as everything else was getting better. It’s amazing how much you can justify shit to yourself.
Same boat. Threads like this help
I quit after trying to quit for a month... When I realized how hard is was, I began questioning how much control I really had over it. I never went back, but still have a lingering craving for "a drink" every now and then.
Do it. Not for me or anyone else. Do it for yourself. You deserve better.
Yes.
Don’t let that little voice in your head trick you. It’s not boring to be sober. You’ll be relieved as hell, most likely. Just decide for sure, then pick up something in the short term to focus on, some kind of activity.
Don’t let that little voice in your head trick you. It’s not boring to be sober. You’ll be relieved as hell, most likely. Just decide for sure, then pick up something in the short term to focus on, some kind of activity.
You will look back someday soon and realize how much better it is to drive home worry free and wake up feeling great. Change your friends, surround yourself with people who don't get drunk all the time. Be an example for your family. This will sound like a cliche but its true, Jesus is your best friend. Great job...stand tall patriot.
I still have friends and family that drink, I think I only felt a little left out once or twice. I was worried that going to parties would be hard, but it was fine. I realized that I was there to hang out with people and not necessarily to get wasted and that made things easier.
One thing that sucked was we went to a “tasting” for a family members birthday. That wasn’t fun because everyone was yammering about “oh yeah you can really taste the blah blah, ooh that’s an amazing flavor”. That was about 6 months in to being sober and that was a shit day, should have seen that coming though. Other than that one day, it’s been awesome.
<3 Get Back on that Horse and RIDE!
Right? Also drinking just makes you feel like shit. I don't wanna feel like shit.
shots of scotch?
Right?
The fucking hangovers.
God Speed 😇
26 years here... keep going one day at a time. Major congrats.
Wonderful! Congratulations!
Congratulations Brother!
Absolutely, fren.
Very proud of you. Keep it going!
Keep up the good fight fren. Never give in.
I really think DARE was a bad idea. All it did was introduce naive children to try shit.
I remember taking that class and the officer that instructed us would ask the class questions and he probably learned more than we did.
DARE program: All drugs will KILL you!
Little Timmy tries weed or psychedelics and goes "lol u guys are faggots, people go to jail for this? Drugs aren't even bad!"
Then they have a one night stand with something that's actually dangerous and their guard is down. They like it and get a small bit after a few go's and ..well that's how I've seen people get caught by heroin
Your late teens early 20's and the decisions you make in many ways will effect your entire life. I wish I had spent them differently. Your most precious asset is time. And those nights of partying and the inevitable hang over the next day is time one will never get back.
I love sobriety. To be young again and not need any medicine.
That takes great inner strength. Be proud of yourself. Congratulations.
6 months this week for me
YaY <3 Welcome to the REAL Party!
It's silly looking back at myself from the other side. Now watching people get drunk is funny and makes them look ridiculous.
January will be 5 years for me. Keep it up pede. Life's not necessarily easier, but its much, much better. Hell just not having a hang over alone is worth it. Lets keep winning!🇺🇸 MAGA 2020 🇺🇸 KAG 2020 🇺🇸
Congrats, that is awesome! I do find life a bit easier, in the sense that I rarely have regrets now. When I say something, I am saying it with a clear mind... And that is something wonderful
I've had the same experience pede! ^ awesome ^
Good going. Trump has also inspired me to be the best I can. Im trying to eat healtheir and do more exercise and more imprtantly, get shit done. If a 70 odd year old man can do all the stuff he does with half the world ruthlessly against him, i as a 32 yr old with no major medical problems have no excuse.
Good on you... Best of luck.
Congrats King
Same here! 961 days. He is an inspiration for sure.
Wish I could quit :(
Congratulations on yr year. I have gone a few years at a time but always go back. I think I might need inpatient or something this time, tho. Thank you for the encouragement.
I been to AA a lot. Its a good place to make drug connects and sometimes hook up with women just as fucked up as I am. Not that I do drugs. Anymore. But its no help quitting, for me. But thank you and best wishes to you too <3
There are great meetings, so-so meetings and sometimes shitty ones. I had a similar experience the first time. There are numerous groups in every location in the nation. I'd urge you to try again. Smaller meetings are better IMO, even if you have to travel a little bit. \It changed my life 100% for the better and I'm not alone in that.
I love you <3 You can do it <3 But sometimes, we need extra help!
STEP ONE - realise I am not God. I live step one, every day.
You are worth it. Keep Trying. Keep pressing forward. You are still alive, still winning -
<3 And GOD is on your Side! <3
It’s not easy because that little voice in your head is going to really try to convince you to keep drinking. Think about your reasons for being sober, pick up some kind of activity.
It’s a massive relief, I’m telling you!
Anyone can, just do it for yourself because you deserve better.
Its complicated. I have had a crazy life. And I'm kinda PTSD over some of it. Alcohol soothes me. I been an alcoholic pretty much all my life, on and off. My parents even used to get me drunk as a child.
Thank you. I have switched from vodka to beer. Now I am fat hah
I understand that your life is way harder than can be adequately described in a comments section, no matter what I wish you well friend!
Thanks, and that is very true. I'm not even gonna try to explain
You can.
Tried, many times. Never sticks. I got issues. But thank you for the encouragement.
You will. You will win.
Love you, Pede. You got this.
hey, hat's off and a blowjob... (well, not from me personally)
👍
Make Yourself Great.
Congrats. Keep choosing greatness.
Keep it up pede good job!
Good for you, pede. I too am recently sober, 1 year and 3 months or so. I also found Trump’s sobriety to be a huge inspiration.
gonna be hopping on the sober train as well. Been drinking alot throughout this whole ordeal and its giving me medical issues. Gonna stop and i was thinking about joining some self defense classes.
Good for you though OP. Alcholism is an absolute bitch. We need to be of sober minds during these times and not the opposite
He certainly does. I'll bet this is one thing he never expected to happen: seeing so many people choose sobriety after seeing his example.
You just never know how much you'll be helping someone else just by doing the right thing - even people you never met.
Awesome! Things will continue to get better for you.
Great Job!
Great job! Stay the course!
Sobriety isn't easy to adjust to at first (took me years) but I have no intention of going back. Don't wake up regretting what I did. Don't blow all my excess money on drugs or alcohol. Run into far less stressful events and / or situations.
Congrats. Five years for me. Sobriety is actually great. Trump makes it even better!
Btw, sobriety also helps people who are not addicts. I never had a problem with drinking and because I live in CA, I have used marijuana. I never used every day, it has never interfered with my life. But it never made my life better. So recently I decided to go "straight edge" (remember that?) and not drink or use any kind of mind altering substance. Alcohol is empty calories and pot makes you lazy. I don't need that. There is a nice feeling being sober. For pedes struggling with sobriety, hang in there. Relapse is a part of recovery. Find ways to cope with your stress. Exercise is a great way to re-regulate your system.
20+ years clean and sober here. It is a remarkable journey you have started on. Have faith in the power of Christ and take it one day at a time pede;)
Congrats pede!! Coming up on my 9th month here. There is no greater clarity than looking at the world through a pair of sober peepers! I hope you find the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. God Bless!!
Congrats!!!! I am very happy for you. I am ten years sober, and although I am no D. J. Trump, lol, I could never have gotten to where I am today if I was drinking.
Congrats on that - I have 24 years under my belt. Keep up the good work. Sobriety indeed leads to a better and easier life. MAGA my friends.
Nice! I made 3 years sober yesterday.
Got a hot soon-to-be wife that I met around 10mo of sobriety...she's this second telling me about her morning dispensing redpills on insta.
Keep it up!
Year and a half for me. Best decision I ever made. My life is now amazing in ways I never thought possible. Congrats, this is exactly what winning feels like!
Good for you! Best wishes from Texas. Be best!
Very good. Congratulations. You don't need it. Proud of ya.