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Alcoholic here, 2 years sober. Sometimes it helps to just know people are fighting the same demons you are. I relapsed several times before holding fast. I always say, if I can do it, anyone can.
Find a good church. Did me wonders, and I met my wife!
I'm a year and a half sober. I never understood the phraseology of calling oneself an alcoholic after you kick the drinking. I used to smoke cigarettes a decade ago, but I quit. I don't consider myself a cigarette smoker still, but I was CERTAINLY addicted when I was!
I consider myself an EX-drinker, former alcoholic, I dunno, it seems like stating it as "I am an alcoholic" when you're 2 years sober is like hanging onto it still.
When one day at a time is to much, then do one hour or minute. Whatever it takes. And never forget that you have permission to start your day over as often as it takes.
Have you ever thought of inpatient? Even just a quick 30 days? I was homeless in January of this year I did 30 days to dry up and build a support system and today I have a one bedroom apartment with my dog! Things can turn around in an instant. Download the A.A or N.A app on your phone lot of help there too. Stay strong.
Fren, the best thing that helped me with PTSD was getting little wins. Just something everyday that improves your life, something to get that little w in the win column and you will be amazed at how well you can cope with myriad issues and over time you will achieve the BIG WIN
Another option is "Smart" recovery groups. Younger folks sometimes have trouble in AA in areas where meetings have mostly older folks.
One isn't better than the other - but I personally did both and strongly preferred Smart recovery.
Second thing, OP: try to replace your addiction with something like running or weight lifting.
If you drink, your progress will slip. There were days where I didn't drink or smoke cigarettes because I knew it'd kill tomorrows progress in the gym. It's been life changing for me and maybe it will help.
My former boss used to have a serious problem, he would even drink at work. Antabuse did work for him, in his case it was the only way.
However: he did a shot of Nyquil (over-the-counter) for cold symptoms, and had to go to the hospital. (Just the small amount of alcohol in the Nyquil caused him an intense reaction.) This was accidental of course, he didn't even know there was alcohol in it!
So- if if if if you are going to try Antabuse, do be careful of over-the-counter medicines that contain even trace quantities of alcohol.
I drank more than I should by a wide margin. I ended up getting pancreatitis and had to quit cold turkey or it would have bopped me. haven't drank since then, and that's been at least 8 years now. best thing that ever happened to me aside from the wife and kids.
Walk it off bro! You got this, don't let the evils of excess claim another victim, take charge of your life. Do it so you can see Baron Trump become the tallest president!
I can relate. My business was shut down back in March. By June, I still wasn't able to open, so had to default on my retail space. Being recently divorced, (couple of years ago) my priority is to make sure my ex receives child support, even though we have 50/50 custody. I pretty much used all my savings and had to get a personal loan.
In July, I was able to reopen my business and sub-leased a smaller space. I have some business income, but it's less than half of what I had prior to all this crap. Now, I may have to break my apartment lease and move in with my GF. The other day, she actually had to buy food to fill my fridge for me and my daughter. How fucked up is that? I feel like a total bum.
I also like to drink. Sometimes way too much. It takes ever ounce of strength to not go for that drink.
I have moments when I lose all hope. But I know we will all get through this.
Keep the faith my friend! You are stronger than you realize.
My gf said something similar. I do tend to berate myself at times. I have been self-employed for about 20 years now doing something I am passionate about and rewarding. It doesn't really seem like work. Not many people can say that. Then, out of nowhere, another business provides this opportunity for a space for a very low rent until my business picked up again. They had no idea who I was but welcomed me into the family. A gift from God. So you're right, I have a lot going for me. And I do have an amazing gf.
I promise, I don't hate myself, even though I may be buried under a few turds at the moment. lol
"Everything is ENERGY and that's all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is NOT philosophy. This is physics."
-Albert Einstein
Good luck, pede. We're pulling for you. Read this quote every morning, and remember that Life is not about the destination, but the journey to get there.
Godspeed to you Pede. This too shall pass and the light at the other end of that tunnel will be so blinding and it's rays so warm and healing. Just a little further Pede, we're almost there.
Hi AstroJackson. You’ve been on my mind and heart since your post. I don’t know who you are or where you live, but know I continue to pray for your strength and recovery. Keep your eyes in Jesus!
I very much empathize with what you are going through. My Dad is an alcoholic. He has good days and bad days. One day at a time my friend. Just remember if you do good for awhile and fall of the wagon, just brush yourself off and get right back on. Don't guilt yourself, don't feel defeated, accept it and move on doing the best you can do.
It happens to the best of us friend. In all walks, positions, income levels, it can happen to anyone. Stay strong. If you need to, you can go to the doc and ask for naltrexone, it is meant for opiates but works for alcohol too. Basically if you take it you won’t feel the happiness of alcohol if you drink, and one beer will leave you with a gnarly hangover. Takes 3 to 4 days to get out of your system, so it helps getting past the momentary cravings knowing that you will get really really sick and not enjoy your drink. It’s much safer than antibuse.
Best of luck to you man. It sounds like you're taking good steps, you're reaching out to other in your community, and meeting your problem head on. What you do matters. You matter. Be the best man you can be.
Yo I’m sober for 7 months and some change. I’ve come so far. I had to hit rock bottom, get a DUI, and use my insurance for rehab, but I’m a better man for it. Praying for you. You are loved and needed.
I don't want to tell you to check out Reddit, ever, but r/stopdrinking has been very helpful to me.
I recall being in a place where my career and relationships were falling away from me. At one point I was proud to be the heaviest drinker amongst my friends.
That's over for me now. I had a divine reconning and later an injury from drinking. It's one of the best fuck ups in my life. My career and relationships are great and now that I don't drink, I can go to that party and still wake up and enjoy the morning.
Find things that work for you. I found that I needed to reward myself for not drinking, so I grabbed ice cream and other desserts. Non-alcoholic beer has been my lifeline.
Also, read The Republic by Plato. He compares the rule of a communist tyrant as like being ruled by a drunk or addict. We must no longer be tyrants to the people around us.
I had to quit drinking a little over 10 years ago. I still miss it terribly, but I'm in much better health now (I would not have survived this long had I kept drinking.)
Find every in person and online meeting in and around your routes to and from work and home. Put them on your calendar - the people who surround you at these meetings will keep you going during the hardest of times. Will help you laugh, learn and thrive in the midst of learning how to say no to alcohol.
I hope you find peace within yourself, find a way to forgive yourself, find a way to honor your struggle.
I pray that you will find strength and peace in your journey to a healthy place. May you feel the love and support of .win and our prayers that you are successful in this struggle.
You took the first steps. Admitting you're powerless over alcohol and need God to deliver you. Get in there with AA. 90 meetings in 90 days. God Bless You
Look at the benefits. You will do 10x what you used to be able to handle. More energy, energy is everything. The initial stages are a bitch. After the initial fog you will grow younger. Years will disappear off your face. Your skin will breathe. Your eyesight and senses will improve. Your emotions will flood back and then regulate.
For me the key was controlling life's inputs to the brain. Dopamine, Seratonin, Oxytocin. Getting these right through diet, sleep, exercise, love and nature is the key to happiness. (Liberal tears also help).
Check out Scott Adams youtube on Happiness it worked for me. You can program it.
You are stronger than this addiction. You know what makes you addicted in alcohol? Ethanol. That's right: the gay-ass molecule that leftists want to clog up your truck's engine!! Are you going to put that commie shit in your body?! NO! Fuck that molecule!
Making America Great Again starts with you. Every tiny amount that you make your life greater, you make America greater. You aren't alone. If you aren't contributing to America, then you're failing all of America. You owe it to yourself to maximize your contribution to making America great.
your liver can only take so much and then it’s game over, It is an awful death to watch and I’m sure to experience as your body oozes and third spaces, surround yourself with good people and get rid of the ones who drink you got this pede
Get active and get away from the people/music/tasks/games etc that trigger your interest in the booze! You CAN do this, you CAN beat this. Mind over matter. Sending good vibes.
Sometimes all it takes is a change of scenery. Consider moving to another State and starting over from scratch. It’s a Life Reset and you get to forgive and forget and start over all Shiny and Chrome.
They say the first step is admitting you have a problem.
I say that's BULLSHIT.
DOING something about your problem is the first step.
I'm going to get real with you.
Step 1. Throw it all out. I don't give a fuck if you have a $10k bottle of Wine, toss it in the bin.
If you don't have immediate access, you're less likely to partake.
Step 2. Know that you're failing YOURSELF. You're not failing me, or some other dude, you're failing YOU.
Talk about your problem and the actions you're taking to everyone you know, tell them to make you accountable.
If everyone knows you're stopping, then they won't offer it to you, or they'll say "Hey, how are you doing with the Alcohol problem"
Tell them to be blunt with you. You know it's a problem. you know you're an addict. Don't let them feel it's a TABOO topic.
Say "I'm stopping alcohol because it's fucking up my life, it's tough and i'm going to need you to call me out if I can't stop myself"
Be honest with yourself. It's ok to hate that you failed. But don't let a friday night beer become a 2 week bender because "Oh I already messed up" Similar to how having a cookie, doesn't mean you should eat a carton of icecream and a Sheet Cake just because you already ruined your diet.
Take responsibility, say "I FUCKED UP" and had a beer, I'm stopping.
There is a LONG time between First taste, and 16th beer. It's ok to stop mid way and say "I'm not going to fuck up any further than I have already"
Don't let your small fuckups become an excuse to fuckup royally.
One day at a time. I used to think all of the AA saying were silly, but theres alot of wisdom in the rooms. Good luck and God Bless pede
Alcoholic here, 2 years sober. Sometimes it helps to just know people are fighting the same demons you are. I relapsed several times before holding fast. I always say, if I can do it, anyone can.
Find a good church. Did me wonders, and I met my wife!
I'm a year and a half sober. I never understood the phraseology of calling oneself an alcoholic after you kick the drinking. I used to smoke cigarettes a decade ago, but I quit. I don't consider myself a cigarette smoker still, but I was CERTAINLY addicted when I was!
I consider myself an EX-drinker, former alcoholic, I dunno, it seems like stating it as "I am an alcoholic" when you're 2 years sober is like hanging onto it still.
No offense intended, just curious.
Because I still crave it often. One sip and I could be back to a full blown drunk.
I am no longer a drinker, but the craving is still strong. I imagine that's because I'm an alcoholic.
But hey, labels. Who cares. I'm sober.
Congratulations on two years.
When one day at a time is to much, then do one hour or minute. Whatever it takes. And never forget that you have permission to start your day over as often as it takes.
"One day at a time." is Divide-and-Conquer! :0) We Believe in you!
Have you ever thought of inpatient? Even just a quick 30 days? I was homeless in January of this year I did 30 days to dry up and build a support system and today I have a one bedroom apartment with my dog! Things can turn around in an instant. Download the A.A or N.A app on your phone lot of help there too. Stay strong.
God Bless You. You’re not alone.
So glad you are doing better pede. Really brings a smile (and some watering eyes) to me.
Congrats, Pede! Thanks for sharing. I love hearing inspiring life stories. :)
Fren, the best thing that helped me with PTSD was getting little wins. Just something everyday that improves your life, something to get that little w in the win column and you will be amazed at how well you can cope with myriad issues and over time you will achieve the BIG WIN
YOU GOT THIS!!!
Another option is "Smart" recovery groups. Younger folks sometimes have trouble in AA in areas where meetings have mostly older folks.
One isn't better than the other - but I personally did both and strongly preferred Smart recovery.
Second thing, OP: try to replace your addiction with something like running or weight lifting.
If you drink, your progress will slip. There were days where I didn't drink or smoke cigarettes because I knew it'd kill tomorrows progress in the gym. It's been life changing for me and maybe it will help.
^ This! ^
My former boss used to have a serious problem, he would even drink at work. Antabuse did work for him, in his case it was the only way.
However: he did a shot of Nyquil (over-the-counter) for cold symptoms, and had to go to the hospital. (Just the small amount of alcohol in the Nyquil caused him an intense reaction.) This was accidental of course, he didn't even know there was alcohol in it!
So- if if if if you are going to try Antabuse, do be careful of over-the-counter medicines that contain even trace quantities of alcohol.
I drank more than I should by a wide margin. I ended up getting pancreatitis and had to quit cold turkey or it would have bopped me. haven't drank since then, and that's been at least 8 years now. best thing that ever happened to me aside from the wife and kids.
Absolutely, brother. Remember that all things are possible in God. Keep on fighting and he will get you through this.
Get.
Help.
Friend.
Don’t try to do this on your own.
You are not alone. <3 We love you - and do reach out to those people in your circle whom you can trust.
Walk it off bro! You got this, don't let the evils of excess claim another victim, take charge of your life. Do it so you can see Baron Trump become the tallest president!
I can relate. My business was shut down back in March. By June, I still wasn't able to open, so had to default on my retail space. Being recently divorced, (couple of years ago) my priority is to make sure my ex receives child support, even though we have 50/50 custody. I pretty much used all my savings and had to get a personal loan.
In July, I was able to reopen my business and sub-leased a smaller space. I have some business income, but it's less than half of what I had prior to all this crap. Now, I may have to break my apartment lease and move in with my GF. The other day, she actually had to buy food to fill my fridge for me and my daughter. How fucked up is that? I feel like a total bum.
I also like to drink. Sometimes way too much. It takes ever ounce of strength to not go for that drink.
I have moments when I lose all hope. But I know we will all get through this.
Keep the faith my friend! You are stronger than you realize.
My gf said something similar. I do tend to berate myself at times. I have been self-employed for about 20 years now doing something I am passionate about and rewarding. It doesn't really seem like work. Not many people can say that. Then, out of nowhere, another business provides this opportunity for a space for a very low rent until my business picked up again. They had no idea who I was but welcomed me into the family. A gift from God. So you're right, I have a lot going for me. And I do have an amazing gf.
I promise, I don't hate myself, even though I may be buried under a few turds at the moment. lol
God is awesome like that.
Hang in there, man. You are a winner!
There's almost too much winning around here!
"Everything is ENERGY and that's all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is NOT philosophy. This is physics."
-Albert Einstein
Good luck, pede. We're pulling for you. Read this quote every morning, and remember that Life is not about the destination, but the journey to get there.
God is with you.
Throw all the alcohol away at your place if you haven't already.
Keeping you in my mind when i do my Rosary today.
THIS ^ Dump it down the toilet, and throw away the bottles. Get rid of anything alcohol based. Seriously.
Godspeed to you Pede. This too shall pass and the light at the other end of that tunnel will be so blinding and it's rays so warm and healing. Just a little further Pede, we're almost there.
May your desire to overcome this be stronger than your desire to drink. May God make it so. Be healthy, friend. I pray goodness and success for you!
break the chains holding you back
alcohol is sneaky and grabs you before you know it.
20 yrs alcohol free here and quit after showing my ass one to many times
You have to make a personal stand and mentally decide enough is enough!
strangle that mother fucker out pede.
Lifting you in prayer.
Hi AstroJackson. You’ve been on my mind and heart since your post. I don’t know who you are or where you live, but know I continue to pray for your strength and recovery. Keep your eyes in Jesus!
There is a reason you turn to booze. What is that reason?
Replace alcohol with researching conspiracy theories, playing with your kids or having a family and/or hard work outside. Never look back.
Prayers sent. Hang in there, bro.
I very much empathize with what you are going through. My Dad is an alcoholic. He has good days and bad days. One day at a time my friend. Just remember if you do good for awhile and fall of the wagon, just brush yourself off and get right back on. Don't guilt yourself, don't feel defeated, accept it and move on doing the best you can do.
Vote Trump 2020
It happens to the best of us friend. In all walks, positions, income levels, it can happen to anyone. Stay strong. If you need to, you can go to the doc and ask for naltrexone, it is meant for opiates but works for alcohol too. Basically if you take it you won’t feel the happiness of alcohol if you drink, and one beer will leave you with a gnarly hangover. Takes 3 to 4 days to get out of your system, so it helps getting past the momentary cravings knowing that you will get really really sick and not enjoy your drink. It’s much safer than antibuse.
Best of luck to you man. It sounds like you're taking good steps, you're reaching out to other in your community, and meeting your problem head on. What you do matters. You matter. Be the best man you can be.
Prayers followed by tough love.
You can’t rise up if you don’t put the drink down.
C’mon bro, we know you can do it.
Big Hugs <3
Yo I’m sober for 7 months and some change. I’ve come so far. I had to hit rock bottom, get a DUI, and use my insurance for rehab, but I’m a better man for it. Praying for you. You are loved and needed.
Be strong and good luck! I've never been in a situation like this but I know it'll be tough for you. I hope it goes well!
Praying for you, brother. I will also be asking for St. Maximilian Kolbe and St. Mark Ji Tianxiang to intercede for you.
Remember that the LORD is with you; His strength is unfailing and He will rescue you from this!
Stay stong. Get outside, read, stay active. Idle hands are the devil's playground.
You should get a support group and check in with us or them every day.
Hang in there. You can do this.
I don't want to tell you to check out Reddit, ever, but r/stopdrinking has been very helpful to me.
I recall being in a place where my career and relationships were falling away from me. At one point I was proud to be the heaviest drinker amongst my friends.
That's over for me now. I had a divine reconning and later an injury from drinking. It's one of the best fuck ups in my life. My career and relationships are great and now that I don't drink, I can go to that party and still wake up and enjoy the morning.
Find things that work for you. I found that I needed to reward myself for not drinking, so I grabbed ice cream and other desserts. Non-alcoholic beer has been my lifeline.
Also, read The Republic by Plato. He compares the rule of a communist tyrant as like being ruled by a drunk or addict. We must no longer be tyrants to the people around us.
I Will Not Drink With You Today!
I WILL pray for you 100%.
I had to quit drinking a little over 10 years ago. I still miss it terribly, but I'm in much better health now (I would not have survived this long had I kept drinking.)
Good luck, hang in there! <3 <3 <3
Find every in person and online meeting in and around your routes to and from work and home. Put them on your calendar - the people who surround you at these meetings will keep you going during the hardest of times. Will help you laugh, learn and thrive in the midst of learning how to say no to alcohol.
I hope you find peace within yourself, find a way to forgive yourself, find a way to honor your struggle.
I pray that you will find strength and peace in your journey to a healthy place. May you feel the love and support of .win and our prayers that you are successful in this struggle.
Hugs.
You took the first steps. Admitting you're powerless over alcohol and need God to deliver you. Get in there with AA. 90 meetings in 90 days. God Bless You
Praying.
Serenity Prayer my friend. God Bless You! And get to AA and don’t drink. It’s easy after that!
You can do this. <3
Prayers sent and continue for you brother.
Google "Celebrate Recovery" and see if one meets near you. It is exactly what you are looking for and full of believers who love you where you are.
Just got out of inpatient for booze. Had my 1st drink yesterday and can honestly say I dont miss it. If your as bad as I was go get help
🙏
Look at the benefits. You will do 10x what you used to be able to handle. More energy, energy is everything. The initial stages are a bitch. After the initial fog you will grow younger. Years will disappear off your face. Your skin will breathe. Your eyesight and senses will improve. Your emotions will flood back and then regulate.
For me the key was controlling life's inputs to the brain. Dopamine, Seratonin, Oxytocin. Getting these right through diet, sleep, exercise, love and nature is the key to happiness. (Liberal tears also help).
Check out Scott Adams youtube on Happiness it worked for me. You can program it.
You are stronger than this addiction. You know what makes you addicted in alcohol? Ethanol. That's right: the gay-ass molecule that leftists want to clog up your truck's engine!! Are you going to put that commie shit in your body?! NO! Fuck that molecule!
Making America Great Again starts with you. Every tiny amount that you make your life greater, you make America greater. You aren't alone. If you aren't contributing to America, then you're failing all of America. You owe it to yourself to maximize your contribution to making America great.
When you finally break the chains—and I am certain that you will—you will love the person you are. I promise you.
your liver can only take so much and then it’s game over, It is an awful death to watch and I’m sure to experience as your body oozes and third spaces, surround yourself with good people and get rid of the ones who drink you got this pede
Great idea looking for help at your church! I’m sure you have other congregants that have battled this demon.
Get active and get away from the people/music/tasks/games etc that trigger your interest in the booze! You CAN do this, you CAN beat this. Mind over matter. Sending good vibes.
Sometimes all it takes is a change of scenery. Consider moving to another State and starting over from scratch. It’s a Life Reset and you get to forgive and forget and start over all Shiny and Chrome.
They say the first step is admitting you have a problem.
I say that's BULLSHIT.
DOING something about your problem is the first step.
I'm going to get real with you.
Step 1. Throw it all out. I don't give a fuck if you have a $10k bottle of Wine, toss it in the bin.
If you don't have immediate access, you're less likely to partake.
Step 2. Know that you're failing YOURSELF. You're not failing me, or some other dude, you're failing YOU.
Talk about your problem and the actions you're taking to everyone you know, tell them to make you accountable. If everyone knows you're stopping, then they won't offer it to you, or they'll say "Hey, how are you doing with the Alcohol problem"
Tell them to be blunt with you. You know it's a problem. you know you're an addict. Don't let them feel it's a TABOO topic.
Say "I'm stopping alcohol because it's fucking up my life, it's tough and i'm going to need you to call me out if I can't stop myself"
Be honest with yourself. It's ok to hate that you failed. But don't let a friday night beer become a 2 week bender because "Oh I already messed up" Similar to how having a cookie, doesn't mean you should eat a carton of icecream and a Sheet Cake just because you already ruined your diet.
Take responsibility, say "I FUCKED UP" and had a beer, I'm stopping.
There is a LONG time between First taste, and 16th beer. It's ok to stop mid way and say "I'm not going to fuck up any further than I have already"
Don't let your small fuckups become an excuse to fuckup royally.