Oh, Jesus. Your mom sounds like my grandmother. Except my mom was twice as "lucky" because her dad was diagnosed as a narcissistic sociopath and her mom as having bipolar and borderline personality disorder.
And my siblings and I all turned out great. My mom found God, got married, and worked her ass off to break the cycle of abuse. And it worked! We had a fantastic childhood, we're all still really close, my siblings and I are all married, I have kids, and my brother is expecting his first soon.
In some ways, my mom's utterly horrific childhood meant that she had a leg-up, because she had to be intentional about every decision. There was no falling back into complacent bad habits, because the complacent bad habit were straight up child abuse.
So don't be afraid of having kids, just because your parents were garbage. If you want it, don't let your abusers take it away.
More foster parents are always needed! And you'd probably be a really good one too, because you could understand where kids from complicated situations are coming from.
Oh, Jesus. Your mom sounds like my grandmother. Except my mom was twice as "lucky" because her dad was diagnosed as a narcissistic sociopath and her mom as having bipolar and borderline personality disorder.
And my siblings and I all turned out great. My mom found God, got married, and worked her ass off to break the cycle of abuse. And it worked! We had a fantastic childhood, we're all still really close, my siblings and I are all married, I have kids, and my brother is expecting his first soon.
In some ways, my mom's utterly horrific childhood meant that she had a leg-up, because she had to be intentional about every decision. There was no falling back into complacent bad habits, because the complacent bad habit were straight up child abuse.
So don't be afraid of having kids, just because your parents were garbage. If you want it, don't let your abusers take it away.
More foster parents are always needed! And you'd probably be a really good one too, because you could understand where kids from complicated situations are coming from.