I see a lot of people have toxic ideas about women (such as women belong as wives and mothers, single and childless women are always miserable, women can’t be trusted with positions of power, women lose their worth as they age, etc. and I simply can’t agree.)

You see a lot of people, or a few people and a lot of strawmaning leftists claiming that's our ideology. It's not really, the core ideology is individual liberty and freedom. When you have that, it's actually okay for people to have different beliefs about other things, because they can't force their beliefs on you. Unlike the backward leftist ideology.

So yeah. I’m pro choice. That’s a biggie.

Pro life people get a bad rap because they've been effectively smeared as religious nutters and hypocrites. All reasonable arguments against abortion have been silenced, and replaced with a few flimsy or religious based ones, and moreover all pro life people are stereotyped as having all these other beliefs which they claim are not pro-life (e.g., they don't care about babies after they are born).

All lies and slander. The most pathetic one is the typical leftist argument that if you don't agree with them to the letter on exactly what they want to do or the exact amount of money they want to give people, then you hate people -- you hate poor people, babies, sick people, etc.

It's totally arbitrary. A leftist could propose giving 10% of your tax to welfare and they call themselves saints for being so generous with other peoples' money, but if a conservative says 8% is more reasonable, they're the devil. Why is 10% the "right" number? Why not 15%? Surely the leftist who advocates 10% is the devil compared to the super-leftist who wants 15%? And then the ultra-leftist wants 20! Where does it end, and why is the left's opinion of the month always the de facto "correct" thinking?

Anyway back to abortion. I'm atheist but I can see how the abortion issue has been twisted. There is nothing religious about considering a human life to begin at conception. It's actually a very good scientific basis -- the cells have been given their genetic material and begin their process of autonomous replication until the end of the person's life. A baby passing out of the woman's body, or some arbitrary number of weeks after which current medical science has a reasonable chance of keeping the baby alive, are far more arbitrary and unscientific measures.

And if you think that a state and its laws' most fundamental function is to protect the right of people to live, and to protect the people who can not protect themselves, then it's not at all hypocritical to believe abortion is very problematic. Maybe you can tolerate it in some situations, but it's not some celebration like the left treats it. You have to be under no illusion that you are choosing to end the life of another human who quite likely would have lived long enough to be born and learn to walk and talk and open birthday presents and go to school and get married and have their own children, if you had not made that choice. It's a tough burden to accept, but it's even tougher for the other person involved.

And if you believe that, then of course it's not just about women's choice. The left have smeared pro life people as having no motivation beyond "hating women" and wanting to punish sluts for having sex out of wedlock because of some alleged religious fundamentalism. These are yet more horrible, nasty lies and slander. Again, if you think a living human fetus is a person, then you now have two people's interests to weigh up, the mother's and the baby's. So in that case, pro-choice people are actually anti-choice when it comes to the baby's choice, aren't they? Just saying the baby isn't human and it's a clump of cells like a tumor is just a weak, pathetic cop-out, in my opinion. It's certainly a living thing, and it is distinct from the life of the mother (proof: it's possible for a woman to die while pregnant yet her baby be delivered alive or vice versa).

And you don't harvest organs without consent because 1) potentially extending or improving someone's life is not at all the same as choosing to take a life, and 2) more than one thing can be important, and the integrity of the human person is such a strong and old concept in law that it's very difficult to even interfere with their dead body. So you can imagine why people who agree with that protection to a person would also want a living baby to be protected as well. Not necessarily any hypocrisy there.

For what it's worth I don't think you're a bad person, and I'm not entirely pro-life (I realize that does make me inconsistent and hypocritical in some beliefs). I do think the left are bad for bullying slandering lying and disenfranchising and deplatforming the pro-life people, shutting down debate, refusing to compromise, and for lying and misinforming people about abortion issues and about the life of the fetus.

EDIT: I'm not telling you this to change your mind, I'm telling you this because there are millions of genuine, sincere conservatives for whom abortion looks like a holocaust because they see millions of people being slaughtered, butchered, experimented on, harvested of their organs and cells, and will never get a memorial in Poland or be mourned by history books or be remembered by their children and grandchildren. They're not out to get you, they don't hate women, they aren't backwards, they're upset about the issue and don't know what to do.