You should have stopped with your first sentence, it's very accurate and in complete agreement with my response.
As to your second statement, I would say that if you're old enough to have been married for any length of time, and have not been, you're quite possibly undesirable or awkward and understandably bitter or shielding yourself from the experience due to some fear or trauma. If you're not old enough to have been married for a significant amount of time then perhaps you should gain more wisdom before you swing such platitudes around. Also, it's not armchair, I did go to school for these things and did quite well (though I do not practice clinically, I don't want to misrepresent).
Your third statement is, sadly, nonsensical. Woman can do wrong, equally as well and as often as men can, and they both do. Truth be told, I was walked all over, and then some, horrifically, many, many years ago when I was a young man. My anecdotal example, as important as it is to me, is no more indicative of the norm than yours or any other person's individually. That really was the meat of my point.
Anyway, we've hit a dead end. Sorry if I've offended. Cheers.
"you're not the smartest guy in the room, either, buddy."
This is also a very true statement. But to be fair, it's not the dissidence that causes the disagreement, it's the observation of where that comes from, and there are more than enough contextual clues to support it.
Also, if it truly is the biggest load of horseshit you've ever read, I wonder how often you use the internet. I'm open to being wrong, it happens to all of us, a lot more than any of use would care to admit, but it's not malicious on my part.
Learning based on anecdote rather than data is not learning at all. Unless you're citing the divorce rate which is extremely fuzzy but I guess a safe bet for yourself though not safe enough to justify criticizing others based on it.
So you're in your twenties ... I guess this comes down to our failure to define terms. You're likely not old enough to have the wisdom I'm asking of you. It has nothing to do with your personal experience, or mine (I must discount that as well) it's about living and observing long enough to collect enough data on the experience of others, over time, and whether or not you're too jaded to accept that experience.
An academic in his or her twenties, in psychology no less, hasn't even scratched the surface of the awareness necessary. It's like trying to demonstrate to your children that you really do know what it's like to be a teenager. The only thing I can do to show you the point is to revisit this with you some years down the line after you've really lived it. You haven't had that experience yet, presumably. Over time, those of us in the social sciences start to map the academic learning and the research with the outcomes observed and recorded in the real world. You'll get there, I imagine.
Anyway, like I said, the main part of my first response to you is something we agree on. You said it. So go have it it and be the anomaly on the rest of the argument if you like. Take care.
You should have stopped with your first sentence, it's very accurate and in complete agreement with my response.
As to your second statement, I would say that if you're old enough to have been married for any length of time, and have not been, you're quite possibly undesirable or awkward and understandably bitter or shielding yourself from the experience due to some fear or trauma. If you're not old enough to have been married for a significant amount of time then perhaps you should gain more wisdom before you swing such platitudes around. Also, it's not armchair, I did go to school for these things and did quite well (though I do not practice clinically, I don't want to misrepresent).
Your third statement is, sadly, nonsensical. Woman can do wrong, equally as well and as often as men can, and they both do. Truth be told, I was walked all over, and then some, horrifically, many, many years ago when I was a young man. My anecdotal example, as important as it is to me, is no more indicative of the norm than yours or any other person's individually. That really was the meat of my point.
Anyway, we've hit a dead end. Sorry if I've offended. Cheers.
"you're not the smartest guy in the room, either, buddy."
This is also a very true statement. But to be fair, it's not the dissidence that causes the disagreement, it's the observation of where that comes from, and there are more than enough contextual clues to support it.
Also, if it truly is the biggest load of horseshit you've ever read, I wonder how often you use the internet. I'm open to being wrong, it happens to all of us, a lot more than any of use would care to admit, but it's not malicious on my part.
Learning based on anecdote rather than data is not learning at all. Unless you're citing the divorce rate which is extremely fuzzy but I guess a safe bet for yourself though not safe enough to justify criticizing others based on it.
So you're in your twenties ... I guess this comes down to our failure to define terms. You're likely not old enough to have the wisdom I'm asking of you. It has nothing to do with your personal experience, or mine (I must discount that as well) it's about living and observing long enough to collect enough data on the experience of others, over time, and whether or not you're too jaded to accept that experience.
An academic in his or her twenties, in psychology no less, hasn't even scratched the surface of the awareness necessary. It's like trying to demonstrate to your children that you really do know what it's like to be a teenager. The only thing I can do to show you the point is to revisit this with you some years down the line after you've really lived it. You haven't had that experience yet, presumably. Over time, those of us in the social sciences start to map the academic learning and the research with the outcomes observed and recorded in the real world. You'll get there, I imagine.
Anyway, like I said, the main part of my first response to you is something we agree on. You said it. So go have it it and be the anomaly on the rest of the argument if you like. Take care.