Friend, today I got married. Just wanted to share the news with all my frens here!
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Good advice! Seems like you already have experience ;) Well, I am even too afraid to ask a girl out - still much to learn :D
Afraid to ask a girl out? Oh no! Trust me, I know girls...you have nothing to fear if you go in as someone being nice and starting a conversation. You don’t have to have the attitude that every girl you talk to you are planning to ask out. You’d be surprised how many girls are hoping you come over and say hello.
It's not even a stranger. Know her since trade school (we both finished our apprenticeship this year). And we even have dinner from time to time (however, together with some other friends).
Long story short I started to have a crush on her and want to invite her for dinner (just the two of us) - in order to check whether the chemistry is right.
Thanks! I will keep that in mind :)
Invite her to dinner. The reward far outweighs the risk.
Remember: Fortune favors the bold.
It's as easy as that.
Thanks for your kind comment. This helps!
Faint hearts never won fair maidens.
When you start off dating, you think you know what you want. If you do it right, then you will learn what you specifically need in a relationship, which helps define what a successful partnership looks like for you.
But that learning process can also easily look like simply a string of failed relationships, because it is, but it can also be so much more than that, if you are willing to do the work.
I don't blame you for feeling this way. It's easy to get be scared of getting hurt. Freud said "we are never so hopelessly unhappy as when we lose love", which I think is spot-on correct and better said than I ever could, fwiw. Your fears are not unfounded or irrational. You've good reason for being scared.
You do have much to learn. But relationships are the kind of thing you can't learn without practice. It is only through multiple relationships that you begin to see patterns emerge that help you determine the changes you need to make. That education can't even begin until you enter the ring.
Once you hear the third girlfriend complain about you doing the exact same thing that the first two hated too, it gets harder to blame them for it, which is a good thing, IMO.
That's when the hard work of tearing yourself down in order to rebuild a better version of yourself really begins, IMO. It can be messy, is always painful, and is not easy.
But none of the slings and arrows of battle can ever approach inflicting the pain of regret from missed opportunity. I promise you that my friend.
Your first relationships will fail. Most likely miserably and spectacularly. And that is perfectly ok. It is only through our mistakes than we truly learn.
Just don't wait for the perfect one to come along. In reality that would be the worst thing in the world to happen to you, IMO, as you're not yet ready for her anyway.
Good luck to you regardless.
Thanks for the in-depth thoughts, you are obviously right. It's better to jump in at the deep end and make this new experiences.
That's true & everyone has to find their way to overcome them.
Your comment is a great motivation and will keep it in mind when I ask that specific girl out in a few days.
Thank you.
Sounds like you have had a good amount of experience already.
I've been extremely blessed to be married to an amazing woman who is the love of my life.
But I also got married once before, and divorced in less than a year, so I do have a bit of experience under my belt, yes.
Your comments just made me think they were something my good friend would say, who is turning 40 years old this month and is still "getting ready". I don't want that to happen to you.
Not that it will, just explaining the reason for the in-depth response from some dude you don't know from English Bob.
Good to hear and wish both of you a wonderful life (especially the next four under Trump). In order to find the perfect woman for oneself one has to act. Assume neither your ex-wife nor your wife appeared suddenly. You had to "work" for it. And I assume you learnt a lot from your first marriage.
Your comments (in addition to other comments from other fellow pedes) definetly motivated me to invite this girl for dinner. And it doesn't matter what happens or if she is the one - it is important to act and to learn on the way.
Thank you.