We had friends over recently with lots of kids. One friend brought her kid with one of his friends from outside our town. At the end of the night, we had 28 holes in our wall from (mostly) this random kid deciding it would be cool to throw real darts from ~20 feet away, and when my kid asked him to stop, he said something like “don’t your parents have money, can’t they just hire someone to fix it?”.
The lack of respect these days that people raise their kids to have (along with many other things), really bothers me. Am I out of line? I also told my son that if he sees that kid again, he’s free to kick his ass, bc apparently he was talking crap to all the other kids the whole day.
The rest of the day was a blast but this still bothers me. Open to any thoughts.
Give the parent a call. Be diplomatic. Kid needs an intervention before he grows up to be a criminal.
My wife is gonna meet up with her friend whose son had his db friend already coming to their place and ended up at ours. She will be more than diplomatic, I’m sure. IDK. I just feel like there might be something for me to do. If my kids were acting like hooligans and messed up someone else’s house, they would pay the price if I found out about it.
That's what can be done at this point. If she can ask for the parent of the kid to make the kid apologize, that would be great.
Maybe if you had seen him doing the damage in real time you could have instilled the fear of god in him.
Or a democrat.
Same thing.
Ask the dad to come over and help you fix your walls. Seems like you’re in it together while making them see their kid is an ass
Ok. Mom if it makes you feel better. I’m a Mom, and I’d think I’d send my husband and son to fix the guys wall.
Not out of line. Since that dipshit's parents the bill.
We could fix it pretty cheaply. We have the paint and spackle isn’t expensive, it’s just the principle. To me, it’s just a sign of the current culture and disgusts me.
How old is this kid?
13
Age of accountability. I would contact the person who brought him, tell her what he did and said, and let her know you will be sending him and his parents the repair bill.
Fix the wall, send the kids parents the bill, and say have a nice life just not at my house visiting priviliges are revolkedml.
When there are no consequences there are no limits. I wouldn't bother with his parents, he's a product of their incompetence and possible abuse. I would however make it known in no uncertain terms to your friend to never appear at your door with this miscreant in tow again.
Good call. Pretty sure that point will get across. Thanks.
Ask the kid's parents for the money to fix it.
Someone caused damage to your property. Someone is responsible for that. If this was a child, then the parent is the responsible party and should pay for repairs.
I am not aware you ever consented to be this kid's contractor-servant and follow him meekly around, humbly and dutifully patching up holes his majesty is pleased to put in things.
Aristocrats, in the past, chucked stuff on the ground as they walked; their cloaks and coats, dead birds they had shot. Their silent and well trained serving-men picked these things up, following along after them.
But that was then. This is now.
Take pictures of it and email them to the parent who brought along the "plus one".
She probably will give the excuses "boys will be boys" and that "other kids probably did some of it."
Expect that she won't offer to pay for it. If she lets her kid hang around with the dartster for a few more years, she'll need that and more to bail her kid out of trouble.
If the holes are small, slap a loaded paint brush against each until the hole is filled. Then hand your son a paint roller and grab one yourself. Easier to paint the wall than deal with these people.
And it's not your son's fault. He should have approached you privately and told you this random 'tard was swiss cheesing your wall. But he's a kid.
Good call man. It’s really not a big deal. I can fix it pretty easily but damn is it under my skin. One kid said he did one and then he stopped throwing and offered to come fix it, which isn’t necessary. It’s the disrespect from the random kid, whose parents we don’t know, that burns my ass. He’s from Colleyville, TX, which I guess is privileged.
Yup. But I reckon the dartser's parents will know after emailed pics/FYI to the mother of the invited kid.
Dartster sounds like someone to avoid. Kid like that's a vortex that will eventually suck others under.
Haha. I do like the name “dartster”! Our friend will know and she’s a good person, but she also cherishes her “affluent company”. More importantly, I hope her son doesn’t end up a turd like his bud.
Seems like dartster is a good tag for this 'tard.
And emailing your social climber friend the pics should at least put her on notice. The dartster's folks have the wherewithal to extract him from "boys will be boys" shenanigans. And if her boy is caught with the dartster, dartster and/or dartster's lawyer will not hestiate to throw him under the bus.
Expect that dartster will talk smack to your son about the wall. Best response is probably a shrug and something like "No big deal. My Dad and I fixed it."
Minimizes and defuses the Dartster.
Light coat of drywall mud, sand prime and paint. 1 day 8 hours at $95 per hour, materials cost plus 70% markup.
Wake someone up with that $1100? cost for a handyman to come in and fix juniors screw up.
Seriously, I would call, explain, the fix is what u want, fuck the demon spawn, put ball in their court, and ban the pricks from future visits. Life's too short to suffer assholes.
The ban is on full force for sure. We don’t want to ruin friends outside relationships but we will warn them for sure, for their kids sake at the least.
It's funny. My wife and I have will say "can I make you the bad guy?" for (insert situation) and we're both "hell yes!" So that's a good go to trick to keep up up your sleeve. Good cop bad cop! Ha ha!
We had a relative growing up who always invited their own company to family events, you could literally toss a coin whether the event would end with them being hauled off by the cops. Sounds like you'll solve this one at the kid level
There is a complete lack of respect for authority in our society and it stems far beyond politics. I've experienced similar, disrespectful parents are raising disrespectful kids. It's everywhere. I hate to say it , but in my experience it is a lot of poor/er families. Public education is terrible, if you have the opportunity. Go for private education, the people are much more respectful.
I agree completely. Unfortunately, that kid comes from a pretty affluent town. The more I observe society, the more I know my grandpa is rolling over in his grave.
was it the wall with the dartboard on it? if so then who cares thats what its for. if on random malls around the house then OK thats different. but if the dartboard wall what are you crying about. fuck that kid hes not allowed over and your kid and you fix that wall together and you make sure to teach him the proper way in a way he understands and make it enjoyable to learn to do projects like that. or take it as a chance to build a backer board for the darts maybe some plywood and cork board and glue it all up and make a frame etc. dont spend time trying to teach that bad kid spwnd time with your kids helping them learn through it whatdoyasay
We have probably a 3’ x 3’ backer behind the board so either the kid is fucking retarded or it was intentional. It was the latter.
in that case - my project suggestion is kinda bunk. guess you could teach the kids to sand, fill, and paint - all goes with cleaning paint brushes, stirring the paint, etc. i like painting though so maybe im overly optimjstic but i think kids like learning that stuff. as for the other kid i dont know - maybe you can have him do it all but i wouldnt want a 13yo lainting my house and i wouldnt want to spend time teaching him. but clearly his dad is a fucking liberal or he would know better
Nope. Good ideas. My 13 yo already knows how to fill holes and do touch up. He’s handy. My 15 yo is book smart AH, but can barely tie his shoes.😂😂😂