It gets harder and harder the older you get. My only friend is a dog lol.
But, I will say, years ago when I was in your situation, it’s best to meet people doing regular ass stuff. But you gotta get outta the house first, that’s the key.
Contact the local Republican Commitee. Volunteer for get the word out type farmers market booth. Help them put out trump signs. Be a Precinct Committee man. You will meet some of the best people in the community and they will remember you as an ally or friend.
Shift your focus slightly. Get active pursuing interests you’ve put on the backburner. Shared activity is easiest way to meet real people rather than made-up-profiles, actually doing stuff not just talking about it. Lots of groups out there, from mechanics to hiking or rock climbing to painting or throwing clay pots.
I don't know too much about it, but I have a friend that joined 'meet up' to connect to people with similar interests as her and she's had a lot of fun with them.
Do some outdoor exercise at approximately the same time each day. You will see the same folks and most people will exchange greetings. I know people who started friendships this way.
Do the things you love to do in a public place, and you will meet other people who love to do the same things. My dad was the king of this. He’d just start frequenting a place with stuff he liked and wait. People always came to him. He had a ton of people who considered him a close friend. Women always came and talked to him. They all came to him- he just knew where to place himself so desireable people found themselves striking up a conversation. Find your demographic, and consistently create opportunity. This works with girls for sure (not just buddies). The trick is making them think it was their idea to talk to you😎
This is an interesting take and I like it. I don't explicitly want to copy your father, unless it just so happens that we share similar interests, but what kind of stuff would he do out in public?
Well, some of this was easier for him because he liked sports and he lived in the same city for 62 years. He’d start going to a sports bar he liked, and people would talk to him. He also played tennis. He had friends who played, but I guarantee anyone (myself included) could go to a public court and find people to play or practice with. That was definitely a social thing for him. I’m a musician, and I’ve applied the same strategy to that. If I go play somewhere -anywhere- musicians and girls will end up talking to me. Don’t count out co-workers completely- that’s always been a good way for me to make friends. You don’t have to be friends with all of them, but over a short time, you’ll find people who have common interests. Proximity is key. If you put yourself out there, the right people will come to you. If you’re on here, find other conservatives and Trump supporters. We are everywhere, and thedonald.win is a great conversation piece for that. My dad and I are both outgoing introverts and nice guys, and this process has worked very well for both of us (of course I got it from him). Go to places where people go to do things you enjoy with other people, and first learn how to be comfortable doing them alone. It’ll make you more comfortable and secure within yourself, and other people doing the same thing will notice and come to you.
no church? then titty bars are my favorite place to meet friendly girls... they often are very lonely and if things don't work out you can just pay for sex
Volunteer at a animal shelter if you like dogs or cats. Find a good gym and chill after a good workout with other people. Start taking taekwondo, martial arts are awesome to meet people and they're usually pretty nice to newbies.
When overcoming obstacles like this, I like to do a google image search for a related infographic (example), and then I take bits and pieces from each pic or site that I find relevant to my life/circumstances, and from that I make my own small document (or infographic) so I can follow it as a daily/weekly/whatever guide.
My biggest piece of advice?.. Just be yourself! Cheers!
I've always wanted a dog, just never thought where I use to live was the best environment for one. I could totally make that work today.. maybe I'll do that tomorrow.
I go there at least once a year to jump the perrine bridge. pretty fun town, lots of hiking, fishing, swimming, and kayaking to do besides the drinking and base jumping I do there ;-)
I used to meet tons of people at arts and craft shows, before the government shut them down. When I was younger I met people at Adult Ed classes, like automechanics when I had my Pinto. Pretty cheap/free plus you might learn something to boot. You just never know who you might meet, you just have to be open to new experiences. 80% of life is just showing up. But you wont meet anybody if you stay home. If you go to a casino, you meet people who like to gamble. If you go to chuch, you meet religious people. If you go to a bar you meet people who like to drink and think their jokes are funny. You cant fake it. You got to go to places that interest you.
I have lived in my state my whole life. I'm in my 50s and have reached the point of just wanting to stay home and watch TV. I struggle with wanting to get out and help others or meet people, but am recovering for three months from foot surgery. I have no idea what kind of a hobby I would like. No money to fund one. I've slowly separated myself from people in my life who were not really my friends, more acquaintances. I have my family, and live with my grown son and two dogs. I don't want to go to bars or get into singles groups. I hope this changes, and I know how hard it can be to meet people I prayed to God once about meeting people who have similar interests. He gave me the thought, you know how he does, that I need to go where those people are. I just am not even sure what my interests are any more. Best of luck. Love you too!
These suggestions are great, but I would go one step further. Find one or two extroverted people that can help you. Ask them for help in social settings. Go out with them and let them critique your social skills after the event. I do this for my son. He is special-needs. He is awkward socially. I critique him every time and he is doing great! Simple thinks, such as eye contact, words suggestions, body language. I point out how/why he may have offended another person inadvertently. Or how he could have handled a conversation differently. When we watch Netflix, I pause the show at different times and discuss and ask him questions. Don’t laugh, but a great show is “ The Pick-Up Artist”. A ladies-man by the name of “Mystery” helps socially awkward men meet women. It is packed with human behavior nuggets and the very nervous men must act on what he teaches them. It doesn’t matter if you don’t want to meet women. It is all about human nature and coming out of your shell.
Good luck to you! I wish I could hang with you and teach you! It would be fun!
Find another hobby or activity to get involved in where you can meet people and find a sense of purpose. Martial arts are great.
It gets harder and harder the older you get. My only friend is a dog lol.
But, I will say, years ago when I was in your situation, it’s best to meet people doing regular ass stuff. But you gotta get outta the house first, that’s the key.
Contact the local Republican Commitee. Volunteer for get the word out type farmers market booth. Help them put out trump signs. Be a Precinct Committee man. You will meet some of the best people in the community and they will remember you as an ally or friend.
Shift your focus slightly. Get active pursuing interests you’ve put on the backburner. Shared activity is easiest way to meet real people rather than made-up-profiles, actually doing stuff not just talking about it. Lots of groups out there, from mechanics to hiking or rock climbing to painting or throwing clay pots.
I think this is probably the way. Thank you. :)
I don't know too much about it, but I have a friend that joined 'meet up' to connect to people with similar interests as her and she's had a lot of fun with them.
It’s hard when you get older.
A lot of my friends are work colleagues.
Golf and fishing is always nice.
Brew your own beer. Instant friends.
Do some outdoor exercise at approximately the same time each day. You will see the same folks and most people will exchange greetings. I know people who started friendships this way.
If you have a dog, even better.
Do the things you love to do in a public place, and you will meet other people who love to do the same things. My dad was the king of this. He’d just start frequenting a place with stuff he liked and wait. People always came to him. He had a ton of people who considered him a close friend. Women always came and talked to him. They all came to him- he just knew where to place himself so desireable people found themselves striking up a conversation. Find your demographic, and consistently create opportunity. This works with girls for sure (not just buddies). The trick is making them think it was their idea to talk to you😎
This is an interesting take and I like it. I don't explicitly want to copy your father, unless it just so happens that we share similar interests, but what kind of stuff would he do out in public?
Well, some of this was easier for him because he liked sports and he lived in the same city for 62 years. He’d start going to a sports bar he liked, and people would talk to him. He also played tennis. He had friends who played, but I guarantee anyone (myself included) could go to a public court and find people to play or practice with. That was definitely a social thing for him. I’m a musician, and I’ve applied the same strategy to that. If I go play somewhere -anywhere- musicians and girls will end up talking to me. Don’t count out co-workers completely- that’s always been a good way for me to make friends. You don’t have to be friends with all of them, but over a short time, you’ll find people who have common interests. Proximity is key. If you put yourself out there, the right people will come to you. If you’re on here, find other conservatives and Trump supporters. We are everywhere, and thedonald.win is a great conversation piece for that. My dad and I are both outgoing introverts and nice guys, and this process has worked very well for both of us (of course I got it from him). Go to places where people go to do things you enjoy with other people, and first learn how to be comfortable doing them alone. It’ll make you more comfortable and secure within yourself, and other people doing the same thing will notice and come to you.
Bowling league maybe?
The response here are just so sweet and helpful. You guys are the best.
no church? then titty bars are my favorite place to meet friendly girls... they often are very lonely and if things don't work out you can just pay for sex
I'll be your friend for $500 too.
$500 if for extremely hot model type... typical stripper would be about $150.. sad how things have gotten with only fans!
Are you saying I'm not sexy? ;)
Volunteer at a animal shelter if you like dogs or cats. Find a good gym and chill after a good workout with other people. Start taking taekwondo, martial arts are awesome to meet people and they're usually pretty nice to newbies.
If you're a dude, consider looking up and joining your local proud boys chapter. Instant friends that are as good as family. proudboysusa.com
When overcoming obstacles like this, I like to do a google image search for a related infographic (example), and then I take bits and pieces from each pic or site that I find relevant to my life/circumstances, and from that I make my own small document (or infographic) so I can follow it as a daily/weekly/whatever guide.
My biggest piece of advice?.. Just be yourself! Cheers!
More great advice. I'm so glad I decided ask you fine people today. Thank you.
Get a dog if you have the time. Instant friend, plus you'll meet others at the dog park or on walks.
I've always wanted a dog, just never thought where I use to live was the best environment for one. I could totally make that work today.. maybe I'll do that tomorrow.
If you’re in Colorado, I’ll be your fren
I moved to Idaho from Commiefornia. We can still be friends though :)
Idaho huh, any chance you're near twin falls?
I go there at least once a year to jump the perrine bridge. pretty fun town, lots of hiking, fishing, swimming, and kayaking to do besides the drinking and base jumping I do there ;-)
I hope to in the future but I am currently living in Post Falls. In time I am hoping to move somewhere around either twin or idaho falls.
It's normal- it's harder as you get older. Also, as people get stupider. Find a social hobby.
I used to meet tons of people at arts and craft shows, before the government shut them down. When I was younger I met people at Adult Ed classes, like automechanics when I had my Pinto. Pretty cheap/free plus you might learn something to boot. You just never know who you might meet, you just have to be open to new experiences. 80% of life is just showing up. But you wont meet anybody if you stay home. If you go to a casino, you meet people who like to gamble. If you go to chuch, you meet religious people. If you go to a bar you meet people who like to drink and think their jokes are funny. You cant fake it. You got to go to places that interest you.
I have lived in my state my whole life. I'm in my 50s and have reached the point of just wanting to stay home and watch TV. I struggle with wanting to get out and help others or meet people, but am recovering for three months from foot surgery. I have no idea what kind of a hobby I would like. No money to fund one. I've slowly separated myself from people in my life who were not really my friends, more acquaintances. I have my family, and live with my grown son and two dogs. I don't want to go to bars or get into singles groups. I hope this changes, and I know how hard it can be to meet people I prayed to God once about meeting people who have similar interests. He gave me the thought, you know how he does, that I need to go where those people are. I just am not even sure what my interests are any more. Best of luck. Love you too!
These suggestions are great, but I would go one step further. Find one or two extroverted people that can help you. Ask them for help in social settings. Go out with them and let them critique your social skills after the event. I do this for my son. He is special-needs. He is awkward socially. I critique him every time and he is doing great! Simple thinks, such as eye contact, words suggestions, body language. I point out how/why he may have offended another person inadvertently. Or how he could have handled a conversation differently. When we watch Netflix, I pause the show at different times and discuss and ask him questions. Don’t laugh, but a great show is “ The Pick-Up Artist”. A ladies-man by the name of “Mystery” helps socially awkward men meet women. It is packed with human behavior nuggets and the very nervous men must act on what he teaches them. It doesn’t matter if you don’t want to meet women. It is all about human nature and coming out of your shell.
Good luck to you! I wish I could hang with you and teach you! It would be fun!
Don lemon wants to know, do you like dick or pussy
I am just joking. Try a bar.if you don't drink just order a diet coke and shoot pool