I won't go into detail but as I think a major factor was her shitty dad (mental illness) and lame experiences that "boys would never have to go through." IMO it's a lot of hate, bitterness, and guilt she's never been able to let go of, even to this day, and usually a male is the reason for the perceived slight. Side note: she's told me directly she was never raped.
She kept her outward hatred in the home. Brother and I were taught often that we should feel lucky and guilty we were born male. She constantly disrespected and taught us to disrespect our father. Myriad negative comments about general maleness. Side note: they are still married.
This doesn't affect me any more as I haven't lived with her in well over 20 years, and I still have a cordial relationship with her and try to take care of her as I'm supposed to. How it did affect me in the past was that I became bitter toward women until my teenage years when I was able to meet wonderful women who deserved respect.
From my POV, it's affected my brother in that he seems attracted to women who run all over him and treat him disrespectfully. I love my SIL but sometimes I cringe when I see our mother in her.
I don't meant to play up the situation though, many people with such a mother had it worse than by brother and I. For various reasons, I fully believe that if the current transgender fad and medications existed when I was 8yo there's a decent chance I would have been one of these poor kids urged into transgenderism.
Sorry for the wall-of-text, but I'm off the clock and I've had a few and couldn't stop typing.
I won't go into detail but as I think a major factor was her shitty dad (mental illness) and lame experiences that "boys would never have to go through." IMO it's a lot of hate, bitterness, and guilt she's never been able to let go of, even to this day, and usually a male is the reason for the perceived slight. Side note: she's told me directly she was never raped.
She kept her outward hatred in the home. Brother and I were taught often that we should feel lucky and guilty we were born male. She constantly disrespected and taught us to disrespect our father. Myriad negative comments about general maleness. Side note: they are still married.
This doesn't affect me any more as I haven't lived with her in well over 20 years, and I still have a cordial relationship with her and try to take care of her as I'm supposed to. How it did affect me in the past was that I became bitter toward women until my teenage years when I was able to meet wonderful women who deserved respect.
From my POV, it's affected my brother in that he seems attracted to women who run all over him and treat him disrespectfully. I love my SIL but sometimes I cringe when I see our mother in her.
I don't meant to play up the situation though, many people with such a mother had it worse than by brother and I. For various reasons, I fully believe that if the current transgender fad and medications existed when I was 8yo there's a decent chance I would have been one of these poor kids urged into transgenderism.
Sorry for the wall-of-text, but I'm off the clock and I've had a few and couldn't stop typing.