People think having a nice woman by their side kind of, sort of, one day, just happens.

However, to get the right sort, and to get a real family going, one that won't end in bad feelings, is as big a project as building an airplane from a kit.

Marriage is a theater of war that is hard to see.

A man is only going to get that kind of thing if he devotes time and energy and focus to it, and pushes through all distractions, and works on it.

It used to kind of just happen. That was fifty or seventy years ago. Not now.

What you focus on and insist on, all the time, will eventually come together.

A big difference between Us and Them is marriage. And children, a lot of them, and a lifelong, real, marriage, that does not end badly. This has to be created from scratch, laboriously. "Hey you're cute and smart too" is not enough, anymore.

Now, you have to decide on it, work on it, analyze the problem, shove aside all distractions, and tirelessly insist that you will not go to your grave except at the head of a parcel of sons.

Well if you are given sons. But it won't be for lack of trying.

Sons in law are ok too. But they too don't just happen.

What you insist on, you will get.

People think having a nice woman by their side kind of, sort of, one day, just happens.

However, to get the right sort, and to get a real family going, one that won't end in bad feelings, is as big a project as building an airplane from a kit.

A man is only going to get that kind of thing if he devotes time and energy and focus to it, and pushes through all distractions, and works on it.

It used to kind of just happen. That was fifty or seventy years ago. Not now.

What you focus on and insist on, all the time, will eventually come together.

A big difference between Us and Them is marriage.

Pelosi is married. It basically happened for her; it came together, she has five children. But she is eighty years old. Back then, it just kind of was normal and just kind of happened.

Now, you have to decide on it, work on it, analyze the problem, shove aside all distractions, and tirelessly insist that you will not go to your grave except at the head of a parcel of sons.

Well if you are given sons. But it won't be for lack of trying.

Sons in law are ok too. But they don't just happen.

What you insist on, you will get.