I agree with both of you. We do desire threats, hardship, challenges. Without them we would have no way to frame our inner narrative. Imagine a kid whose parents always accept whatever they do. Makes any excuse for them. Proactively provides them with justifications for their behavior. The kid might embark on an path of escalation of outrageous behavior. And for every outrageous action the parents overlooked and justified, the kid would get angrier and angrier. Until the anger turned into permanent contempt and hatred for them. Because the kid deeply wanted to hear the word NO. Didn't want every effort to be accepted, wanted to hear "That's unacceptable".

Now I know this need for hardship and 

challenge is innate, and part of those are guaranteed to be in the form of conflict. So, yes. Being honest, I do desire conflict. But that could also be satisfied with inner conflict over the quality of my nature. In my highest self I seek to peacefully resolve conflict, and that is satisfying in and of itself. But if this conflict is beyond magnanimous resolution, it must be met as it need be.

So perhaps instead of saying I want conflict, I will say I welcome it.

I agree with both of you. We do desire threats, hardship, challenges. Without them we would have no way to frame our inner narrative. Imagine a kid whose parents always accept whatever they do. Makes any excuse for them. Proactively provides them with justifications for their behavior. The kid might embark on an path of escalation of outrageous behavior. And for every outrageous action the parents overlooked and justified, the kid would get angrier and angrier. Until the anger turned into permanent contempt and hatred for them. Because the kid deeply wanted to hear the word NO. Didn't want every effort to be accepted, wanted to hear "That's unacceptable".

Now I know this need for hardship and challenge is innate, and part of those are guaranteed to be in the form of conflict.
So, yes. Being honest, I do desire conflict.

But that could also be satisfied with inner conflict over the quality of my nature. In my highest self I seek to peacefully resolve conflict, and that is satisfying in and of itself. But if this conflict is beyond magnanimous resolution, it must be met as it need be.

So perhaps instead of saying I want conflict, I will say I welcome it.