IT'S NOT JUST THE MONEY.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. You will not be viewed as reliable. You are always disappearing. And I want a big family. More than two. You will inevitably need to take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.

IT'S NOT JUST THE MONEY.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very, very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. You will not be viewed as reliable. You are always disappearing. And I want a big family. More than two. You will inevitably need to take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.

IT'S NOT JUST THE MONEY.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. You will not be viewed as reliable. You are always disappearing. And I want a big family. More than two. You will inevitably need to take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. You will not be viewed as reliable. You are always disappearing. And I want a big family. More than two. You will inevitably need to take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. You will not be viewed as reliable. You are always disappearing. And I want a big family. More than two. Smart as you are, you will take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.

Let us say a man is having dinner with a very well paid professional woman. They like each other. They want marriage but nobody is getting hurt here, no promises have been made. It's exploratory. The woman says, "As to children, my salary covers a nanny for each child. It's not an issue." The man says, patiently, "It is. You will be taking time off work for a few months when each child is born. Your colleagues will forgive that twice. They will not forgive it every year and a half. You will lose your professional standing and be mocked as baby-mad. And I want a big family. More than two. Smart as you are, you will take time to both have, and interact with, your children. It's only human. And the more of them there are, the more time that will take up. I DO understand you make a high salary. But your personal time will not be adequate for both a large family and professional standing. For you to marry a man who wants more than two children is professional suicide. You will still work, but your star will fade. It's me or your job. I wouldn't do that to you. I don't think we have a future. Because I want more than two children."

"Why aren't two children enough?" said the woman.

"I want more."

They cordially went their separate ways.