STOP the fearmongering. It is your job to know the election laws in your state - vis-a-vis, it is the pedes job to know the election laws in their states. What is the law in Virginia is not necessarily the law in the other 49 states.
If you bring (and turn in) your absentee ballot that was requested but not mailed in (in Virginia) to a polling place in accordance with Virginia law, then you can vote in person - no harm no foul.
If you requested absentee (we don't have 'mail-in' ballot sent to everyone) and want to vote in-person, then you have to bring the absentee ballot. If you don't, you will ne given a provisional ballot that won't be counted until you return the (requested) absentee ballot to the proper authorities.
If you bring (and turn in) your absentee ballot that was requested but not mailed in (in Virginia) to a polling place in accordance with Virginia law, then you can vote in person - no harm no foul.
If you requested absentee (we don't have 'mail-in' ballot sent to everyone) and want to vote in-person, then you have to bring the absentee ballot. If you don't, you will ne given a provisional ballot that won't be counted until you return the (requested) absentee ballot to the proper authorities.